Betty Dodson's blog

Do Men Like a Completely Shaved Vulva?

Thu, 06/02/2011 - 12:43
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I was curious, do you think that men like it shaved? My boyfriend just likes me to please him in whatever way and the previous relationships I have had all told me that they like my pussy clean and shaven. Why is it that they like it shaved and should I do the same for my current boyfriend? It's a little embarrassing to let him see me with hair.

PLEASE HELP!

~J

Dear J,

I think as women we have to ask why we knock ourselves out to please men? What do you want, shaved or trimmed or a full bush? After all it's you sex organ not his! He's lucky to get to play with it when you're in the mood.

How Can I Control Myself & Not Go All the Way?

Wed, 06/01/2011 - 10:07
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty, (Oh,this is exciting=D)

Well, first off I love this site and all your and Carlin's videos. Anyway I'm a 17 year old girl (two months from 18) and you will probably find this message choppy but here it goes! Sex has always intriqued me and since like most I had a mother who never was open about sex, except to tell me how scary it was and to save myself for marriage. I have taken it upon myself to pave my own views and teach myself about it and everything related to it that I can. I am a big mastubator.. I find it's not something to be embarrassed about as it's natural and probably the first sexual thing you will ever do and I see myself as a sexual person.

Marijuana & Sex: Confessions of a Periodic Pot Head

Tue, 05/31/2011 - 16:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Thousands of years before the time of Christ, the cannabis hemp plant was Earth's largest agricultural crop that produced the majority of fiber, fabric, lighting oil, paper, incense and medicines. Hemp was also the primary source of essential food, oil and protein for humans and animals.

From 1776 until 1937, hemp was a major American crop that supplied textiles, paper and medicines. This hardy plant grows 6 to 8 feet tall in one season and sends oxygen into our atmosphere. Using hemp could slow down deforestation that also provides our atmosphere with oxygen along with all the other material goods. So we might wonder why America would declare war on such a beneficial plant.

How Can I Accept My Body & Enjoy Sex?

Mon, 05/30/2011 - 09:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I know that this might sound REALLY strange but, here goes! I am a 18 year old girl from England. I am, shall we say, of a bigger size and i dont really feel comfortable getting intimate with a guy. I masturbate, so i know that i can get pleasure from sex and foreplay. I am a size 18 which i think contributes to the problem, but i am well proportioned. I've had a few boyfriends, but there has always been a problem with intimacy. Please help me with this because it is really damaging my sex/love life.

Please help,
F

Dear F,

The Modern Marriage: Woman as Provider - Man as Caregiver

Sun, 05/29/2011 - 08:34
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Nicole Rodgers discusses how women's economic parity is affecting gender roles and modern marriage:

"The generation coming of age today grew up with the belief that women can do everything men can do. More men than ever before are taking on the primary caregiver role and, in almost one quarter of marriages, the woman makes more money than the man. After years of the fight for equality, true collegiality and partnership between genders appears closer than ever before.

How Can I Get My Boyfriend to Want More Sex?

Sat, 05/28/2011 - 08:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

Wow that sounds so informal. I absolutely love your advice and I've come to get my own from you. I'm 19 years old and my s.o is 23. We have been together for a year and two months, and have been staying together. Before me he was a virgin aside from masturbation. So our sex life was quite good from the start. But I've notices lately it's getting harder for me to get him to have sex with me.

We used to have sex at least once a day everyday, now it's once every three days. And I'm a real sexual person and he knows that. So can you please tell me how I can get him to want more sex, and not to put a label on it, but I thought guys wanted a lot of sex, especially when they first start out? Any advice from you will help. Thank you.

Sincerely J

Dear J,

How Can I Get Over My Girlfriend's Past?

Thu, 05/26/2011 - 09:22
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm not really sure how to start this message. What I'm hoping for is some advice on how I can get my thinking straight to be a better boyfriend to my girlfriend. But it'll be a long email.

I'm Scared to be Physical if I'm Not Committed. How Can I Get Over This?

Wed, 05/25/2011 - 08:44
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi I saw your videos on youtube a few days ago and have been hooked!

I am learning so much that I had never know about sex and orgasms. I am a 19 year old female and my question/problem is that I am so uncomfortable around guys that I get embarrassed and nervous to even kiss guys. when I am physical with them I get so embarrassed. I have had sex with two partners and had been in monogamous relationships with them. but both have cheated on me. I am currently single and have been wanting more physical relationships without the commitment. I am both scared to commit and scared to be physical with someone I am not committed to. How can I get over this ? and is this normal?

Dear J,

Masturbation Saved Our Marriage

Tue, 05/24/2011 - 09:58
Submitted by Betty Dodson

This is less of an 'ask' and more of a 'tell' but here goes.

I am sure you are aware that most women lose most (if not all) libido after menopause. My wife lost it all about 18 years ago, and as she has a strong aversion to HRT in particular and long term medication in general, I have not suggested that she do that. There were and are too many question marks about HRT.

I knew for a year or more that she had lost all interest and enjoyment in the act, and so when she informed me of the situation I had little problem accepting her situation. I had NO intention of forcing my needs on her.

29 Year Old Virgin - Worried My Medical Devices will Scare Off Potential Lover

Sun, 05/22/2011 - 09:22
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am a 29 year old virgin that had to have a total colectomy back in 2008, due to my large intestine not functioning and starting to tear. I was left with an ileostomy and now have to wear an ostomy appliance on my abdomen. A year later, I had my rectum and anus removed due to diversion colitis. I have adapted very well to everything, considering this was all emergency surgeries, except for one big thing.....Ever since that last surgery, I have had trouble with orgasms. I either orgasm too fast or can't orgasm at all. Plus, the site where my anus used to be is uncomfortable. The scar is still stiff and its hard to penetrate my vagina with a larger dildo than a very narrow "beginner" style dildo.

DSK's Victim was a Single Mother From Guinea Granted Asylum. What Drove Her Here?

Sat, 05/21/2011 - 09:04
Submitted by Betty Dodson

My buddy Greg Palast explains why the housekeeper from Guinea who Dominique Strauss-Kahn sexually assaulted sought asylum in the US:

"Director-General DSK's cruelty, arrogance and impunity toward African and other nations as generalissimo of the IMF is right in line with the story told by the poor, African hotel housekeeper in New York City.

Let's consider how the housekeeper from Guinea ended up here in New York. In 2002, this single mother was granted asylum. What drove her here?

It began with the IMF rape of Guinea.

I Want My Boyfriend to Share His Fantasies with Me

Sat, 05/21/2011 - 08:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. We have a pretty amazing sex life together, he is considerate, capable and well endowed. He has always been interested in my fantasies and will try almost anything (we have come to learn that he isn't comfortable sharing me with others, nor does he want to be with anyone else so threesomes are out). But there is one area in which I really wish I could get more out of him.. I really want to explore his fantasies the way we explore mine, problem is he doesn't seem to have any. I have talked to him about this, probing for hidden desires and always asking questions about what sexy things go on in his head, but it's always the same answer..

Hysterectomy Pre-Menopause Increases Risk of Cardiovascular Disease

Fri, 05/20/2011 - 08:16
Submitted by Betty Dodson

My good friend Cindy Pearson reports that US doctors are performing hysterectomies for benign conditions which is damaging to women's health:

"The Swedish study, published late last year, reaffirms what we have been warning women about for so many years: hysterectomy, especially when done before menopause, increases women’s risk of cardiovascular disease, including stroke and heart attack.

My Love Pictures at the Erotic Heritage Museum

Fri, 05/20/2011 - 07:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

The large charcoal is from the original love pictures series. I'm at a loss as to who owned it or if I even sold it to anyone during the original gallery show.  The surrounding pieces are prints.  It was my first and most successful exhibition.

How Do I Overcome Inhibitions During Partner Sex So I Can Orgasm?

Thu, 05/19/2011 - 09:15
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

To start from, thank you! Recent discovery of your website and books have been a life changing experience. You must have answered a number of similar questions already, but then I decided to write to you anyway, thinking it can be quite a therapeutic exercise.

Part 1. Background and anti-masturbation childhood.