Betty Dodson's blog

Do All Women Bleed The First Time They Have Sex?

Tue, 09/13/2011 - 16:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I was wondering if all girls bleed their first time having sex. I have fingered myself and been fingered, but I have never had a penis inside of me. I'm only 14 but I want to know if I will bleed my first time.

Dear M,

Most women do not bleed after first time intercourse unless the guy is unnecessarily rough, has a big penis and doesn't use any extra lubrication. I advise you to wait before having penetration sex. The first phase of a young girls sex life is learning what she likes in terms of clitoral stimulation and enjoying orgasms by masturbating on a regular basis. Spend some time reading the information that's available on D&R.

Dr. Betty

Am I a Freak to Want Daddy/Little Girl Sex?

Mon, 09/12/2011 - 07:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm an 18 year old girl who has been having sex for about three years with about three partners. I have never been turned on having sex with any of them, ever. It was always consensual and usually emotionally enjoyable but my body just feels numb. When I masturbate it feels good, but only for a few seconds and then the pleasure stops.

My Boyfriend Masturbates But Rarely Wants Sex With Me

Mon, 09/12/2011 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

First of all, thank you so much for your website. Even with as liberal of a mother as I had to raise me, the down and out details of sex, and overall how-to's are hard to find.

Need Your Advice on Creating a Clitoral Stimulation Device

Mon, 09/12/2011 - 07:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Dodson

I am a Product Design Student currently undertaking a project to design and develop a new Clitoral Stimulation Device. Having read some of your articles, I have a clearer understanding of clitoral stimulation and would be interested in any advice or features to include in a design of such a device.

Kind Regards


Dear T,

First I suggest you take a look at all the toys currently available. Then interview many girls about what they like for clitoral stimulation. You'll find they all are quite different. My current favorite vibe is the Mystic Wand that is battery operated that makes it possible to use in countries with different electrical current than ours. It has 5 different settings for variety. What a fun project.
Good luck.

Dr. Betty

Learning to Love My Labia

Mon, 09/12/2011 - 07:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I Feel Contractions But I Don't Feel an Orgasm

Mon, 09/12/2011 - 07:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am 23, I've been masturbating since childhood, and always thought I never had an orgasm, but after reading some of the stories on the page i realized I might be having them because I can feel contractions in my vagina but I dont feel anything with them.

I feel the building up sensation, get really tense and then when the tension realeases I don't feel anything, I actually prefer the build up sensation than the release, are those orgasms? If so what can I do to feel them? I know I shouldn't idealize it and expect a big explosion or something like that but I'd like to feel a little something at least.


Dear M,

How Do I Increase the Amount Cum I Ejaculate?

Sun, 09/11/2011 - 18:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I have been a long time self lover. Thanks to your wonderful web site and the content you cover I have great self confidence. Years ago I had a very hard time if a woman asked me to touch myself or masturbate for them. I just didn't feel right. After seeing your site and looking at porn in general, I have changed much for the better. I never realized how much ladies love to see a guy touch or play with his cock. I don't know why, since most guys love to see a woman play with their pussies!

I Get Horrible Cramps After Clitoral Orgasms

Sun, 09/11/2011 - 18:01
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am 30 years old female. I have been experiencing cramps after I have an orgasm by masturbation (clitoris stimulation) or after my bf gives me oral sex. The cramps are horrible from scale 1-10 I will rank them as a 9. They feel like birth contractions. I do not want to stop enjoying this type of orgasm because of the pain that follows the pleasure. I used to have endometriosis but not anymore. I am fine now. Is it normal to cramp after an orgasm? Is there anything I can do to lessen the pain? It only happens when I have a clitoral orgasm not with intercourse. HELP!!!!

Dear M,

Should I Buy a Saddle Vibrator?

Sat, 09/10/2011 - 07:38
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

Firstly, just like so many others, I'd like to say thank you. On to my question. Recently I've been looking into the possibility of purchasing a saddle vibrator. I own a magic wand (and many other less fantastic vibrators), and I love it, but I'd like something new. Looking over your videos and other suggestions, I haven't ever seen a saddle vibrator mentioned. Is it something you really suggest, and do you think it's a worthy investment?


Dear E,

I'm a Self-Sexual Virgin & I Love It

Fri, 09/09/2011 - 08:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Not so much a question but a thank you.

Thank you. Thank you. THANK YOU! I just watched the Its Not an Orgasm. I Didn't Ejaculate video. Thank you for confirming what I already knew. Thank you for telling me I know what the hell I'm talking about and being the voice of sanity in this world of a cluster fuck storm of misinformation and exaggerated entertainment theater fantasy.

I am two years from thirty and still a virgin because I have not had intercourse with another person (there is and has been no one I felt even remotely safe with or interested in and I'm not really motivated to kiss a bunch of slime).

I Don’t Feel Anything When I Stimulate My Clit

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 15:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hey Betty :)

I'm a 17 year old and have been learning hard off your site in order to overcome my lack of abillity to orgasm. Lately I've discovered that I'm simply not sensitive in my clitoris. I've tried your "how to orgasm" guide- touching it doesnt make me feel aroused, its just being touched. And when I am aroused, I dont think I feel stimulatiosn from it. I've tried using it when I'm already aroused from a fantasy- but touching it had no effect, and the thought touching took keeps making me break off my fantasies and lose the arousal completely. I've never tried a vibrator because I cant get one, I'll consider trying an electric toothbrush if you think it might help.

How Do I Extend My Orgasm Beyond My Own Body?

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 14:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Aunt Betty,

A year ago, I began self pleasuring on a daily basis to experience ecstasy as my base level of reality. Well, mission accomplished. I am in a state of almost perpetual orgasm now, whether I touch myself or not. My orgasm is taking me, ravishing me, and it is delicious, but is soooo much to feel. I feel like I am bursting. Now my desire is to surrender even more and extend this past my body.

I heard that the Dalai Lama's auric field of love extends for 2 miles in every direction. I want to do the same thing with my orgasm. I feel like this is my destiny and I am being called to play big, be vulnerable, and be seen.

Do you have any fun recommendations on how to physically extend my orgasm beyond my own body?

Dear J,

Penetration Hurts & Tears Up My Vagina

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 14:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm 20 years old and started having sex at 16. I'm not sure when exactly it started but I know it didn't happen the first time. Pretty much every single time I have or have tried to have penetrative sex it hurts and/or it tears just below the opening of my vagina. My boyfriend and I have tried more foreplay, lube, different positions etc. It only sometimes changes how bad the issue is not whether or not it happens.

How Can I NOT Bend My Partner's Penis While I'm on Top?

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 14:33
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty!

I recently am new to sex. I have had it about three times now, but the last time I bent my partner's penis while I was on top. Thankfully I didn't break it, but I left him in pain. I was wondering what my movements should be in order to avoid hurting him again in the future.

Thank you,

Dear D,