Betty Dodson's blog

At a Loss with My Sexual Orientation

Wed, 12/07/2011 - 15:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I’ve been struggling with my sexual orientation for a couple of years and am wondering, if you, knowledgeable and esteemed lady :-), might have a word or two of advice, as I don’t seem to be able to get anywhere on my own.

Never Realized I Had Orgasms Until I Went to D&R

Wed, 12/07/2011 - 09:26
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I never realized that I was having orgasms until I read this website. Since I was a little girl I've masterbated the same way, lying on my stomach and rubbing my clit with my hands. Since I was little I've gotten the same fluttery, pleasurable little experience after rubbing for not very long at all. I never thought these were orgasms, I just thought it was sexual pleasure and could never figure out why I couldn't keep up the momentum to get an orgasm. I'm now aware that there are many different kinds of orgasms of varying strength. It's clear to me that all my life i've been having little ones (I am nineteen years old). How do I have bigger, better orgasms?

Dear T,

Learning to Live in the Present

Tue, 12/06/2011 - 11:48
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Kasia sent us a copy of her film several months ago and we were touched. She is a doctor who became a patient when she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer.

Her documentary focuses on her battle to redefine her life and survive. Filmed over nine years, Outside In draws from 170 hours of footage, film clips, home movies, still photos, artwork, and clippings, enhanced by artistic elements and a highly evocative music score. Through frank discussions with her medical doctors, psychiatrist, physicist father, artist mother, schizophrenic sister, and close friends,

"I'm Hard-wired to Look at Your Breasts"

Tue, 12/06/2011 - 09:44
Submitted by Betty Dodson

The Yoga dude is right! Men are hardwired to look at titties as are some women. I also look because I was breast fed too! So them that shows em gotta own them and be generous about others looking!

Can't Get it Out of My Head that Giving a Blow Job is Degrading

Mon, 12/05/2011 - 15:58
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

I am a 20 year old female and my partner is a 20 year old male. Neither of us have done anything beyond manual sex with each other or previous partners. We have been having manual sex (although I have not been able to orgasm when he tries to stimulate me which has been making me feel bad because I haven't really experienced a full blown orgasm on my own either so I feel fully responsible, but we're working on that), but he brought up the subject of oral sex and I just can't seem to bring myself to be comfortable with giving it.

Can I Go Back And Forth From Anal Sex To Vaginal Penetration?

Mon, 12/05/2011 - 09:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I have been enjoying anal sex for some time but I won't let my partner go from my anus to my vagina so my sex sessions tend to end after any anal (sad day). I have always been concerned that I could somehow get an infection in my vagina if I bring toys or a penis from my ass to my pussy. I keep my booty clean with enemas but it still concerns me. I would like to be able to go back and forth. Is this a real concern or can I do what I want in this respect?

Dear C,

I Left a Successful Art Career to Occupy Vulvas

Thu, 12/01/2011 - 15:15
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I was thrilled to see this article in the MassU Collegian about Megan Andelloux. Several years ago, she came to see me about wanting to do sex coaching. She went on to get a degree in sexology and is now teaching sex education in colleges. Another one of my many spiritual

How Do I Penetrate My Hymen?

Thu, 12/01/2011 - 10:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Yes I'm 21 yrs old and I want to break my hymen painlessly. I know how but I don't have a dildo I'm trying to do it with my finger. I'm able to insert my whole index finger inside me. When I pull out I see some watery blood on my finger. Did I break it or did I stretch it can u give me some tips on how to break it?

Dear J,

There is nothing to "break" when it comes to the over-stated hymen along with the concept of virginity. check out our post that explains all of this clearly:

Why Do I Constantly Get UTIs?

Wed, 11/30/2011 - 09:34
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Betty,

You've probably heard many questions regarding vaginal health but I don't really have anyone else to ask. I'm 20 years old and I'm kind of ashamed of my.....lower region. My mother has never talked to me about taking care of myself so I kind of feel hopeless. I get constant UTIs, I take two showers a day and I still feel the itching and sometimes burning. The burning and itching is even worst after my period. I did get antibiotics for a recent UTI but the symptoms still persists. I'm not sure if it's my diet, the soap I use, or the occasional masturbation. I've tried unscented soaps body washes and then I tried just cleaning myself with water.....nothing worked. is it possible that not wearing underwear at times can cause frequent UTIs?

It's Too Intense When He Rubs My Clit

Tue, 11/29/2011 - 08:04
Submitted by Betty Dodson

My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost two years now and we just experienced what I believe was my first vaginal penetration orgasm. In order for me to "O" I had to sit on top of him and sway back and fourth and eventually I just lose control with myself like my body is going nuts. He is always wanting to rub my clit and I always stop him because the feeling is to intense for me, or it feels like I am ready to pee the bed. I need help with this, I want him to make me feel like he can give me pleasure, because he can!! Please help, I want to let go but its too hard!

Dear K,

I Want To Take My Own Virginity

Fri, 11/25/2011 - 12:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I just first off want to say that ever since I discovered yours and Carlin Ross's youtube videos, and then your website, you have educated me so much and also made me feel way more comfortable with myself. Thank you so much! You two are such badass women!

Alright, now to the nitty gritty. I am a 19 year old woman, and I am a virgin and frequently masturbate. I am able to penetrate my vagina with two fingers, but three fingers starts to hurt a bit. I read an article posted on your website about a woman who took her own virginity. Everything she said made sense to me and I knew that's what I wanted to do. I also feel that I will be too small for a guy to fully penetrate me on my first time. So I wanted to experience the pain and everything with myself first.

How to Do a Male/Female/Male-Threesome

Tue, 11/22/2011 - 14:29
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

My partner and I are going to bring a third person into our sex life. It is going to be completely physical for us both, as we are both stable in the way we feel for each other. I am a little lost on how to have two men inside one woman. Can you send me any advice on how or where I should look for inspiration. I have looked at porn, but seriously I am not that gifted.
Thank you for your help

Dear J,

How Do I Teach Kids About Pleasure in Sex Ed Class?

Mon, 11/21/2011 - 17:04
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty :)

I'm a soon to be a teacher (1.-7.'th grade) and was just wandering if you have any tips on how to talk about pleasure. Norway is a fairly liberal country, but still i'm kind of scared to offend anyone by talking about the pleasure of having sex with yourself or a partner. And I do think it's a very important topic so I want to address it in the right way. Students will be 12-13 when sex education starts. I would really appreciate advice from you, and maybe it could help other parents as well :)

-T- (23)

Dear T,

On The Subject of Bush

Mon, 11/21/2011 - 08:19
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Merry sent me the link to Disappearance - an article about the disappearance of pubic hair in the culture.

It got me to thinking about how my own pubic hair has been ever changing and fun! I know we don't often think of our public styles as fun, but I believe that's a healthy way for women to view this. Not the current conformist attitude by so many young women determined to imitate a porn image of having a naked vulva just to please a boyfriend.

How Do We Make The "First Time" More Comfortable?

Fri, 11/18/2011 - 11:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi there, Dr. Betty

I'm a young woman, and I recently discovered this website through a couple of sex positive blogs I've started following. I started following them because I'm becoming increasingly aware of how little I actually know about my body, and how irritated I am with the lack of sex education (and by lack of sex education, I mean that I was absolutely convinced for quite a while that condoms don't really work, ever, at all, and that you will die if you don't abstain). I want to know everything I can about my body and how to enjoy it not only with others, but with myself. So, I have a few questions.