Betty Dodson's blog

If He was a Republican, Obama's Social Program Cuts would be Conservative Victory

Tue, 07/19/2011 - 10:39
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Paul Krugman describes how the GOP is "getting to crazy" in our debt ceiling crisis:

"President Obama has made it clear that he’s willing to sign on to a deficit-reduction deal that consists overwhelmingly of spending cuts, and includes draconian cuts in key social programs, up to and including a rise in the age of Medicare eligibility. These are extraordinary concessions. As The Times’s Nate Silver points out, the president has offered deals that are far to the right of what the average American voter prefers — in fact, if anything, they’re a bit to the right of what the average Republican voter prefers!

How Long Does it Take a Man to Get Hard Again After He Ejaculates?

Sun, 07/17/2011 - 07:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

My husband and I have been together since we were teenagers. As a result he is the only partner i have ever had. We are now on our 13th year of being together. We began having sex early in our relationship and we have learned together about what we like and don't like. I have a question though that I have always wondered about.

Do All Women's Vaginas Pulse During Orgasm?

Fri, 07/15/2011 - 10:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

My wife is a big fan of the Hitachi Magic Wand (thanks to you). After a warm up period with the wand, I am lucky to be able to pleasure her with a large dildo. (How I wish I was that big!) This is a guaranteed orgasm for her - never fails. I really love this ritual as it allows me to enjoy her visually - there is nothing quite so powerful as watching a woman you love enjoying an orgasm. She always takes the dildo out when she reaches orgasm and her vagina pulses repeatedly. It is truly the most powerful thing I have ever seen and I can't get enough of it.

Am I Having Orgasms?

Wed, 07/13/2011 - 14:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I've been sexually active for a short period of time now I'm only seventeen. And while having sex i do get pleasure but i don't know if i'm actually coming. I'm too young to get a vibrator so fingers are my only option. Penis in the vagina feels good to me but my clit is what really gets me going. Touching it and rubbing it turns me one and makes me wet. but is that really an orgasm. Some of my friends squirt but I don't seem to release any liquids.

How Our Educational System Kills Our Creative Instincts

Tue, 07/12/2011 - 10:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Summerhill is a drama serial inspired by a true story - you can watch the four part series on vimeo (sorry but they didn't enable embedding so you have to click the link).

The film shows the problems with how we perceive education. It's all based on authoritarian rules, rules, rules and kills off our creative instincts.

When I look back at my own education, grade school was fairly painless as I got to draw on the black board for all the different teachers; geography maps, different birds and plants and I even illustrated a few of the characters from Ivanhoe. As an undiagnosed dyslexic, reading and memorizing was nearly impossible but I was very talented at drawing whatever I could see or imagine.

Post-Ovulation it's Almost Impossible to Orgasm

Mon, 07/11/2011 - 12:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

First of all, thank you! Before I found your site four years ago, I had had one single orgasm in my forty years, and that was the first time I made love with my now husband, a four hour marathon!

Thanks to you I bought a magic wand and was able to fairly easily orgasm powerfully and get that blessed release. I now masturbate with my wand (I have a few other toys as well but they aren't effective) and porn about 2-3 times a week. I find it relaxes me and keeps me satisfied since life with small children does not lead to an active sex life!

When I Drink I Can't Ejaculate

Thu, 07/07/2011 - 17:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

So i have been noticing the past year that after drinking I am having a hard time cumming. I have never had this before?

Overall my penis is a little less senstive? I have starting taking medication for my tryglides and thyroid. Would that have anything to do with it? Also I am a heavy anti flamitory user once in a while because of my foot. Or have I just started to wear my penis out now that I am 37?? I masturbate every other day. I bought a toy - Handy something?? after I divorced 2 years ago What do you think??

Dear M,

How Can I Make Girl on Top Positions More Comfortable?

Wed, 07/06/2011 - 12:18
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

You wonderful woman you, the knowledge and acceptance you share on your website has already helped my sex life and body image in more ways than I can count and now I have a question for you.

How can I make girl on top positions more comfortable? I'm more than aware of its popularity with men and women and I as a seemingly decently fit woman am terrible at it. I do tons of yoga and yet my hips just don't seem to want to make it work and when I move to something more akin to squatting I'm then dealing with lots of pain in my quadriceps. This leads to me putting my hands above his shoulders and leaning forward, the most comfortable position for me but then we risk him slipping out or worse, the miss thrust.

I Had My First Orgasm During Sex. Thank You

Sat, 07/02/2011 - 18:18
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty and Carlin,

I don't have a question but some amazing feedback! I wrote you about a year ago asking if those little tiny good feelings I felt after I masturbated were real orgasms, you told me to stop worrying about it and just enjoy them! Hah easier said then done, but I'm happy to report back as a success story! I am 21 and have been in a relationship for over a year.. it's my longest relationship ever. Before Tyler, I had only had sex with one other man. He was the one I lost my virginity to and a good ol' fuck buddy. From him I learned the basics of sex, but didn't come once. After a while of really fun and athletic sex, he would cum, roll over and ask, "did you come?" ... I never replied, just smiled.

Girlfriend Pushes Me Away Right Before She's About to Orgasm

Fri, 07/01/2011 - 18:14
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Just before My girlfriend is about to orgasm she pulls and pushes away and can't stop her self from doing so, Doesnt matter if its, Oral, Vaginal Sex or Masturbation, She just cant get over the line...

Please help! :(

Dear D,

Bless you for asking. My first thought was that whatever kind of stimulation you are doing, that pushing away means the sensation on her clitoris has gotten too intense and has turned into pain or discomfort. The other times this happens is after a woman has had an orgasm (and some are quite small and sweet) and her clitoris needs a rest.

I Orgasm Stimulating My Clitoris Through My Panties

Thu, 06/30/2011 - 08:38
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

Absolutely love your website and have learnt so much from it. I am a 49yr old divorced women with a new partner of just over 2 years. With both masturbate and do partner sex. I find stimulation of my clitoris and subsequent orgasm far easier and more intense if I am stimulated (or stimulate myself) through a layer of underpants.

"Now that Gay marriage is Legal, Will You Marry Me?"

Wed, 06/29/2011 - 09:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Today my darling long term friend Jesse, a gal I’ve known since the 80’s showed up with a sweet bunch of flowers that looked very much like a bridal bouquet, and said, “Now that gay marriage is legal, will you marry me?” Without hesitation I said “I do.” We hugged and howled with laughter.

I'm Worried About My Penis Size

Tue, 06/28/2011 - 15:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

dear betty,

The past month or so i have been worried about my penis size. i am 7-8 inches erect but soft i am anywhere from 2-5 inches. i dont know why this is. it seems like all i am seeing these days is 9 or 10 inch hung guys on porn or on the websites i look at. i am a us marine and am currently in an almost perfect long distance relationship with an amazing girl. when i come home we have sex and everything is good. i just have this little pet pieve about it, i know im above average but its hard to be naked around my girl when im not at least semi hard, do you have any advice?

Dear O,

Trying to Become Sex Positive & Feel Comfortable Penetrating Myself

Sun, 06/26/2011 - 08:34
Submitted by Betty Dodson


First of all I want to say thank you for your life long work to liberate masturbation. When I first read your introduction to Inga Muscio's book, "Cunt", I cried. I have been on a quest for the year to heal myself of my issues surrounding sex and your books and website have really helped me.

I now have a blog and have an exhibition of cunt artwork as part of the Brighton Fringe Festival. I answer to the name Lady Cunt and hang out with my friends Queen Clit and The Cuntess. We have a lot of fun and my sex life has come a long way.

I Feel the Intensity of Orgasm But No Release

Thu, 06/23/2011 - 10:30
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm not really sure how this site works or if this is the right place to ask questions, but here goes.

So, I'm 18 and for the past six months I've been in a happy, committed, trusting and openly communicative relationship with an 18 year old boy. We started having vaginal sex about two months ago, but we'd been heavy petting since about the first month we'd been together, gradually working up to performing oral sex on each other and other more sensual play about a month later. I'm completely attracted to him. He's a sensitive, generous lover and makes me feel special and beautiful. Out of bed, we're very compatible as a couple, too.