Betty Dodson's blog

Deeply Attracted to My Boyfriend But I Can't Orgasm

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 09:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm now 18, I lost my virgintiy when I was 15 years old. Ever since then people even my friends consider me as a sex fiend. I'm also bisexual an very determined to sleep with a female (just haven't found one yet)

I've been dating off and on with this amazing guy for 9 months now, even through all the hard times in his life and mine we've always been sexual towards each other. I'm deeply attracted to him but my body or I can't seem to orgasm. Is it me?

Is 16 Too Young to Buy a Sex Toy?

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 09:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm a 16 year old girl capable of reaching multiple orgasms. Lately though, I've been wanting to use more than just my fingers or a toothbrush. My mother and I have a very open relationship where I have talked to her about masturbation and such before. I have asked her if she would buy me a sextoy and she has refused. Where else could I get one, as everywhere I've looked says you have to be at least 18?

Dear R,

You can make a dildo by carving a zucchini or carrot to size using your mom's potato peeler. Since you are having multiple orgasms using your fingers, stay with it. There is plenty of time for toys later on. Continue to enjoy yourself.

Dr. Betty

I Have Sex with Guys But Fantasize About Women

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 09:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I've only had sex with guys but I've always had this fantasy about fucking another woman. So I've tried to kind of invite other girls at parties to having sex, but they've always said no. I guess I'm not really good-looking and all that but I have the confidence. I would love to see if it's more than just a fantasy. Maybe I'm doing something wrong?

It's really hard to get to know new people where I live because it's a small town where everyone knows everyone. So then you get worried about stuff like; If I sleep with her, maybe people will start talking, and I mean saying really mean things. You see, most of the people I know, except for my closest friends, aren't open to masturbating women and same-sex sex.

51 & Never Had an Orgasm

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:55
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr Betty,

I wonder if you can help me? I'm 51 and I've only ever had one orgasm, which was years ago and happened out of the blue when I went into the bathroom after I had made love with my partner,. I only realised what it was a little while after.

What's the Best Form of Birth Control?

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I recently stopped taking birth control and now I want to jump by boyfriends bones all the time. Since then we have just been using condoms. However, I want to find an alternative form of birth control so we wont have to use condoms, but one that doesn't lower my sex drive. I was wondering what you think the best form of birth control is?

Thank you!

Dear J,

Nothing Seems to Give Me Pleasure

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I've got a dilemma. I've been exploring myself and various techniques on how to please said self for a few years now, but nothing seems to give me any pleasure. And I have a vibrator, but it doesn't seem to do much. Either it's too much to handle, or nothing at all! I haven't been forcing myself to feel anything, or trying so hard I lose all ability!

I Have Orgasms By Myself But Can't Orgasm During Sex or Oral

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:43
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am 30 years old and just recently lost my virginity to my current boyfriend. We've had sex about maybe 15 times so far and my problem is that 1) I don't feel much pleasure (if at all) through vaginal intercourse and 2) I have difficulty having an orgasm when he goes down on me. I often feel disapointed after sex because he seems to enjoy the whole process and has a great orgasm, and I am left there not feeling much pleasure at all.

Husband Doesn't Want Sex After Hernia Operation

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:30
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

My husband had a Hernia repair operation last November, since then we did not have sex at all. he said he does not get excited with me anymore ( because of the operation). He wont go to a doctor to check it out, and he said I should wait...... the sex has been always fast and non passionate, and not as often as i wish it were. I am kind of shy, so i never dared to suggest things or complain.

first it was impossible to have an orgasm with him, and then i learned push myself and get faster and managed to have orgasms (tension orgasm you call them) Obviously, I cant wait no more hence this letter to you.

Please tell me,
what shall I do?

Dear A,

An Open Letter to All Sexually Frustrated Husbands on Mothers Day

Sun, 05/08/2011 - 14:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I deal with your problem all the time and my answer begins with, “Accept her just the way she is.” Do not put any pressure on her to have sex. Other than cannabis, the only other drug that would create sexual desire in a woman would be to duplicate the early romantic phase of falling in love. However, I doubt the pharmaceutical companies will ever come up with a little pink pill that simulates Romantic Love. Believe me that would revitalize a woman’s sexual interest. That’s when we wanted to find our very own Mr. Right, fall in love, get married and settle down to raise a family. It was all so fanciful and theoretical with little to do with any reality.

I Can Only Masturbate to Orgasm Face Down on My Stomach

Sun, 05/08/2011 - 13:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Dodson~

My name is M and I am 18 years old. I have been doing-it-myself for about 2 years now. I started off merely humping my bed, and a few months ago I started to apply my hand to my clit, which took a little bit of practice, but overall it wasn't too difficult.

My problem is that I can only masturbate face-down, on my stomach. I find the combination of humping, squeezing my legs and being able to get pressure on my clit much, much easier in that position. However, my back is beginning to hurt me and I'm guessing it's from humping too much.

So, because I'm always horny and can't just simply stop for a week, I'm thinking I'll just switch positions and lie on my back like most women do and that that will help.

Do Clitoral Orgasms & Vaginals Orgasms Feel Different?

Thu, 05/05/2011 - 12:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm a 22-year-old female in a healthy relationship. I lost my virginity at the age of 18, but I had been achieving clitoral orgasms since the age of 14 on my own. Since having a few different partners, I am unsure whether I have ever had a real vaginal orgasm.

I have never really got much out of sex in the past, but with my current boyfriend everything is great as he always ensures I am fully aroused before sex and makes sure that if he (on the rare occasion) comes first, that I still get mine.

With him I do get a building sensation during sex and fluttery feeling inside which usually peaks, which I assume is the orgasm. The reason I'm questioning it is it's not as big as a clitoral orgasm.

My Wife Isn't Interested in Oral Sex...I Love It

Tue, 05/03/2011 - 18:37
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Doc!

So here's my problem: my wife is one of those "extremely rare" women you describe that has exclusively vaginal orgasms. She has never had one outside of penetrative intercourse. As such, she's not really interested in receiving oral sex. Problem is -- I love it! I wish she would let me go down on her more often, but it just doesn't do much for her. She's too uncomfortable with my face planted between her legs to enjoy it. How can I help her get more comfortable with being on the receiving end (she gives great head, btw)??

Dear R,

Will Menopause Cure Painful Penetration?

Sat, 04/30/2011 - 16:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Dodson,

I have physical issues with my lower back, legs and feet which affect my overall mobility and also cause me to cramp very easily in my legs and feet and cramps and spasms in my back. My menstruation is about 2-3 days a month with a heavy 1-2 days bookended by spotting and light flow. My questions are about making love with my husband and positions of least resistance, menstruation problems with pain in tampon insertion and also if I began my period at the age of 13 years old, when can I basically expect menopause to occurr?

Marketing Drugs to Women

Fri, 04/29/2011 - 09:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Cindy Pearson explains how pharmaceutical companies are duping women with their marketing campaigns - flooding women's mags with deceptive ads:

"Before 1997, prescription drugs generally were not advertised directly to consumer audiences. Instead, such advertisements appeared only in journals published for doctors and other health professionals.

Since the August 1997 issuance of a special "guidance" from the Food and Drug Administration (FDA), pharmaceutical companies have been formally allowed to market these drugs directly to consumers, and this phenomenon of "direct-to-consumer (DTC) advertising" has burgeoned into a multi-million dollar effort.

Asked My Doctor About My Wife's Loss of Sexual Desire...He Gave Me Viagra

Thu, 04/28/2011 - 10:34
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm sure that this is a common problem as people age but seeking help to sexual problems when you are older can be quite disconcerting it seems.

In recent years, my wonderful wife who is 64, has lost almost all interest in sex. Sexual intercourse for us is a once or twice annually event and I happen to know that she rarely masturbates now either. I'm 65 and in recent years have noticed a decline in my libido too and in particular a decline in the strength of my erections.