Betty Dodson's blog

How Do I Practice First Time Penetration?

Sat, 11/05/2011 - 09:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dearest Betty,

I have been reading all the posts in the subject "first time penetration" in your site, the reason is that I only do clitoris stimulation in masturbation, I know it is very important penetration but I feel uncomfortable and almost any pleasure, so I read and read, I feel very relieved because many women are in the same situation, as you said we have to practice, but it is difficult especially if I don't have any good dildo and I don't dare to buy one, what do you think? please I need your advice again, I really want to feel good when penetration.

Thanks a lot, hope you are in good health.

Best regards.

Dear P,

Can a Man Orgasm Without Ejaculating?

Thu, 11/03/2011 - 12:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I have been hearing it is possible for men to have an orgasm without ejaculating. Is that possible? I can last for 30-40 min but then have a hard time (lol) getting back up again after ejaculating. I have heard you can control your pc and stop yourself from EJ. I feel I have a strong PC but when it starts to build I can't stop.

Dear M,

The Hymen - Myths & Misconceptions

Wed, 11/02/2011 - 14:36
Submitted by Betty Dodson

A colleague sent me this clip and I love this man.  Prof. Dr. Erwin J. Haeberle, EdD.,MA dispels the myth of the hymen.  My favorite line: "Virginity tests are stupidity tests.  They test the stupidity of those who perform them and those who believe in them":

I Can Only Masturbate If Someone's Watching

Wed, 11/02/2011 - 08:34
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Madam,

I am facing this problem since I was 14 and it is still continuing though I'm 40. I cannot masturbate normally. I need to be watched by a girl / lady. I know it is shocking but it is true and I want to be out of this habit. Recently I have taken to cam sex and it is only increasing.

Please advise
Warm regards


Dear D,

How Do I Tell My Boyfriend to Slow Down & Communicate My Sexual Needs?

Sat, 10/29/2011 - 14:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am 20 years old and am finding it difficult to communicate my needs to my partner about sex because I don't wan't him to feel inadequate. For example, within 5 or 10 minutes of kissing he heads straight for fingering me, while I want to spend more time building up to it.

If I tell him to go slow and tease my cunt before fucking me, he'll tease it two or three times and thinking it's sufficient, plunge right in there. There is such a hurry! I have also told him that when he licks me, it feels best to just focus on gentle strokes on my clit but still, he focuses on tongue-fucking me and shaking his face between my thighs which does nothing for me. And by this point, I'm not even in the mood anymore and am frustrated with both of us.

Marija Gimbutas: "I Never Got Grants for Goddess Work"

Fri, 10/28/2011 - 17:36
Submitted by Betty Dodson

My friend Anita Hoffer traveled to Malta last September on an exploration of Neolithic societies of Old Europe that honored the goddess. Women had high status in their respective societies. These civilizations lived in peace (no organized wars) for thousands of years…..until the Bronze Age. The woman we owe so much to in terms of documenting this is Marija Gimbutas. My latest hero. Although I identify as an atheist, I confess to honoring the goddess of sexual love and abundance.

This series of clips are well worth watching:

Occupy Oakland: Marine Veteran Critically Injured

Thu, 10/27/2011 - 08:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I've watched this clip several times and it gets worse which each viewing. I'm appalled at police violence throughout OWS peaceful protests. Do the police really think they are part of the 1% because they take orders from them? A huge wake-up call is at hand. Look closely America, this is what we have become. . . a violent nation of men wearing different uniforms:

How Do I Get From Childhood To Adult Orgasms?

Wed, 10/26/2011 - 13:43
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Your website and videos have been very helpful in educating me about women's sexuality, but I have some specific questions about masturbation now. When I was little I would get off by laying belly-down on the floor and rocking myself to stimulate my clitoris. I continued this throughout my childhood because it was the only masturbation I knew. I didn't even know the clitoris existed until I was in middle school. I continued my rocking method of masturbation until fairly recently, about a week ago (embarrassing as that is to admit). It only took me about 30 seconds to come that way, and from the information on your website I realized that that isn't normal. So I stopped masturbating that way and started following your instructions in "First-time Orgasm."

My Orgasms Are Better With A Woman Than A Man

Tue, 10/25/2011 - 12:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I am going to cut the admiring part short but just know that you are inspiring me not only in sexual matters but in 'liberating myself from all things bringing me down and enjoying selfloving'.

I'm Thrilled to be Joining the Ranks of Accomplished Academics

Tue, 10/25/2011 - 09:15
Submitted by Betty Dodson

When I first self-published Liberating Masturbation, I was joking when I said I would have to award myself a degree in masturbation. Then in 1994, I received a PhD in Sexology from the Institute for Advanced Study in Human Sexuality (IASHS) in San Francisco. My thesis was a self-published book about masturbation, a video documentary about the Bodysex workhops and a list of all the books on sex that had referenced my information on female self-sexuality. All those years of running masturbation workshops constituted unique fieldwork.

This November I'm receiving SSSS's (Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality) Public Service Award. Then in March I'm receiving  SSTAR's (Society for Sex Therapy and Research) MASTERS AND JOHNSON AWARD.

My Husband Slaps Me During Sex, and I Like It. Is This Normal?

Mon, 10/24/2011 - 07:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have been married for 4 years now. Sex have not been great all the time but can't complain much. Like 3 months ago my husband and I were having sex when suddenly I see that he grabs my hair and slaps me in the face. It was not a gentle slap but neither did it hurt. While he was doing this he kept asking me if I wanted for him to keep slapping me...I was not sure what to answer but I also liked it! So my question is my husband did not change his sex style like for years and suddenly this change and he wants to do it every time we have sex. Is this normal?

Dear J,

Chris Hedges: Occupy Wall Street is Real

Thu, 10/20/2011 - 10:34
Submitted by Betty Dodson

On October 15, Occupy TVNY met with Pulitzer prize-winning author and journalist Chris Hedges in Times Square, New York City, where tens of thousands of people assembled on a global day of action.  Chris has covered "movements" - all the revolutions in Eastern Europe - and he believes occupy wall street "is real and it could take them all down":

Here's another clip where Chris Hedges schools a CBC reporter on occupy wall street. They had to issue a formal apology after this interview:

How Can I Ever Come To Understand Polyamory?

Thu, 10/20/2011 - 08:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've sent you a question before, regarding my sexual frustrations during sex, thanks to my physical handicap. I have a new problem, unfortunately. It has nothing to do with my sex life, but it does have to do with the emergence of polyamory in our popular culture.

Warren Buffett: "I Could End the Deficit in 5 Minutes"

Wed, 10/19/2011 - 13:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Warren Buffett, in a recent interview with CNBC, offers one of the best quotes about the debt ceiling:

"I could end the deficit in 5 minutes," he told CNBC. "You just pass a law that says that anytime there is a deficit of more than 3% of GDP, all sitting members of Congress are ineligible for re-election

The 26th amendment (granting the right to vote for 18 year-olds) took only 3 months & 8 days to be ratified! Why? Simple! The people demanded it. That was in 1971...before computers, e- mail, cell phones, etc.

Of the 27 amendments to the Constitution, seven (7) took 1 year or less to become the law of the land...all because of public pressure.