Betty Dodson's blog

My Vibrator is Too Intense

Wed, 03/28/2012 - 14:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty

Thank you sooooo much for your advice! My Mystic wand arrived today and I am pleased to say I have had my first orgasm! I have to say though, i was a bit disappointed.

It wasn't very intense - and it took 45 mins to get there! I am hoping it will get quicker and easier to climax the more I use this new toy. Can you just tell me....should I be moving this wand around for best results or keep in one place? Not sure how to use exactly!

Thank you Betty :)


Good News!

"I Am Beginning to Become Truly Alive"

Wed, 03/28/2012 - 08:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

When Carlin forwarded this email from mayward in response to our latest podcast Beyond Sexual Guilt, I knew it was a must-post:

"I really like this podcast. when Betty said that feeling fear at least once a day confirms to her that she is alive. I am going through a big transition in my life right now and realise i have been afraid all my life - of what I don't know! I'm 50, last year i had my first orgasm, I celebrated my 50th birthday week with 50 orgasms, realised I am not sexually compatible with my husband of 24 years (i am a slow learner - or just was very unaware of my sexual self), am in the process of seperating from him and having my first orgasms in partner sex (my sexual partner is also a woman).

Wife Read 50 Shades of Grey. Need SM Pointers.

Tue, 03/27/2012 - 09:11
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

HELP!!!!!! I've listen to you and Carlin over the years very helpful thank you. Problem married over 25 years. We're early 50"s I think some change of life issues. She was always very guilt ridden very basic stuff, I'm very oral but we'll have non of that!. Long conversation this week end, she wants me to read 50 shades of Grey.....S&M wow!

I'm a game for just about anything,,,, we have been falling sexually apart. Really love her and she really turns me on.. She wants me to take control, But putting her over my knee? Look if this will help I'll try just about anything...Any ideas?????

Your student in training,


Dear F,

My Thoughts on the "Coregasm"

Sun, 03/25/2012 - 16:58
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Here we go again with academics love of letters to signify the latest in sexology: The results of this recent online survey of only 124 women who reported experiencing exercise-induced orgasms (EIO) and 246 women who experienced exercise-induced sexual pleasure (EISP). Sometimes I worry that we have forgotten the (CIO) clitoral induced orgasms.

How Do I Have a Fulfulling Sex Life with a Paraplegic

Sun, 03/25/2012 - 08:17
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty

Hope your well.

Please can you help me. I am 40yrs old, dating a paraplegic man aged 53. He depends on a wheelchair and his very strong arms. He is paralysed from the below the nipples down. I have searched your site for help but the stuff was not specific enough. I guess because disabilities are so variable and people have such specific needs.

I want to know how to have a fulfilling sex life with this man. I am turned on by his mind/thoughts/ideas/spirit but not his body. He has managed one partial erection in 6 months of sexplay. I am frustrated by the lack of erection. He uses an hitachi to have an ejaculation, but its so rapid, I just don't find it arousing.

How Do I Move From Sexual Abuse to Sexual Relationship?

Sat, 03/24/2012 - 08:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty!
Well, I would consider myself a very sexual person. I like it and I want to experience everything I can. I have one problem though. I was raped from the ages of 2 to 6 and again by someone else at age 8. It hasn't "ruined me" technically, but I feel like that sometimes. Now I'm an adult, 19 years old, and I want to connect sexually with others. I desperately do. I just can't seem to. When I try that, I go somewhere else in my head. What do you suggest I do? Wait until I find someone I can completely trust? I enjoy phone sex and masturbation but any further than that and my mind leaves me hanging. Help.

Dear T,

My Boyfriend is NOT Good at Oral Sex

Fri, 03/23/2012 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a very loving and attentive boyfriend who has just one unfortunate flaw...oral sex. He gives it the old college try but, he is not very good at it. While I applaud his effort unfortunately my clit is not pleased. I have tried my best to guide him but, it does not work. He feels terrible about it and I try my best to console him.

Is there anything that I can refer him to help him adopt a better technique?

Dear M,

Is Zoophilia Normal?

Thu, 03/22/2012 - 08:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

My gf likes to have sex with her dog. Is it normal? Is is harmful for me? How can I prevent her from it?

Dear U,

While it's true that having sex with one's dog is much more common than most would expect, it's still a big taboo. Bestiality is a big "No No" in America. However there are many different ways to have sex with one's dog. The most common is simply licking. Vaginal or anal penetration is next. There are porn sites that feature sex with animals. . . Zoophilia. Also check out this link from Google that went into details about possible risks.

It Took Me 77 Years to Find Her

Wed, 03/21/2012 - 08:32
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I just got this email that Carlin sent to all the women in our Bodysex documentary. It's a perfect example of how fortunate I am to have the kind of real caring quality she brings to D&R:

"We're working on the second film and today I watched your interviews. I'm so fucking proud of all of you. Looking back on the project, I was afraid that we missed some critical points - no, my women were right there. You were all amazing.

Sheila - oh my god, you are so beautiful on camera. Hearing you talk about meeting Betty...not having any sex ed...wanting to be thinner as a young girl just touched me. And then you brought it back to Grant which was so important.

He Has Herpes. I Do Not. Is Risk-Free Sex Possible?

Tue, 03/20/2012 - 08:36
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

I hope you are in good spirits, as you're reading this.

I have met a potential sexual partner, who revealed to me on our first coffee date that he has herpes, and is on daily antivirals. This did not completely rule out us having sex, however, I am concerned about the rate of transmission. I've done my research, but would still like your opinion.

Do you believe having sex with an HSV suffer is too risky?

Thank you for your time,

Miss. Chief

Dear C,

Since a large portion of the population has Herpes (which I see much like the common cold) you are narrowing your field of possible lovers. I have Herpes outbreaks from time to time and lived with a sex partner for 10 years who never contacted the virus.

Get Erections But Can't Ejaculate

Sun, 03/18/2012 - 08:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm a healthy, straight 18-year-old boy who became (sporadically) sexually active this year. I had my cherry popped by a girl well-versed in the art of orgasm, but despite her best efforts I never felt much more than a light tickling sensation in my penis during our time together. The same has been true with one other partner--despite relaxing to the greatest possible extent, I haven't felt anything close to an orgasmic sensation or ejaculated.

A Victim of Foreskin Elitism

Sat, 03/17/2012 - 08:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I don't know if this is going to be a question or a complaint. I'm a 48 year old male, that feels he's becoming a victim of Foreskin Elitism. My parents are Jewish, and being the male child of Jewish parents, I had no choice in the matter of circumcision and I would have to say that in a way neither did they. Family was important and being Jewish was part of it.

Finding My Way Out of Sexual Repression

Fri, 03/16/2012 - 12:14
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Well, I'm really young (almost 17, actually.), and this is all extremely new to me. I've always been afraid to even look at my own vagina, much less even touch it. With help from a friend, I've managed to learn a lot more, and in turn become more comfortable enough to touch myself and start taking better care of my body.

A Day of Gratitude

Thu, 03/15/2012 - 07:58
Submitted by Betty Dodson
Secret Rapture by Andrew Gonzalez

Spring was definitely in the air. I planned to go to my water aerobics class and was feeling the usual resistance. Finally I got off the computer. As I was getting dressed, I noticed the time. The clocks had been turned forward an hour so I’d missed my class. “Ah ha!” I thought. “Now I can take this time to enjoy a Sunday orgasm.” For several minutes I watched oversized black cocks being stuffed inside all three orifices of a skinny blonde girl, sometimes two at a time. As soon as I felt the first throb of blood in my clitoris, I turned off the computer.