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What You Need to Know About Filter Bubbles

Mon, 05/16/2011 - 14:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I have admired this young man ever since I first got involved with It was right after the Un-Supreme Court selected Bush Jr. to be president. This grass roots organization helped to ease my feelings of being helpless, so I've been with them from the early days. A handful of young people have shown Americans a new way to access people power. Now Eli is calling out the Internet biggies like Google and Facebook. Check out his brief talk at TED:

Boyfriend Can't "Get Off" During Oral Sex or Intercourse

Mon, 05/16/2011 - 08:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

In the past I asked you a question regarding my guilt over having sex. Great news, I worked on it and now I don't feel anything but happy when all is said and done. But recently I've taken a lover that I feel very comfortable with, and he expresses the same towards me. But we have a problem that is really bothering him-he can't get off during oral sex or intercourse. We have tried tons of techniques and weird things to try to do it for him and he just can't. We wouldn't think it was that strange if he was going soft, but he stays rock hard the whole time. I'm enjoying his endurance to no end but its starting to upset us both that he isn't finding completion. Can you help?

Worn Out Girl

Dear J,

Can We Stop Blaming the American People for Our Economic Crisis?

Sat, 05/14/2011 - 14:27
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Paul Krugman explains who's really to blame for our economic crisis:

"The fact is that what we’re experiencing right now is a top-down disaster. The policies that got us into this mess weren’t responses to public demand. They were, with few exceptions, policies championed by small groups of influential people — in many cases, the same people now lecturing the rest of us on the need to get serious. And by trying to shift the blame to the general populace, elites are ducking some much-needed reflection on their own catastrophic mistakes.  Let me focus mainly on what happened in the United States, then say a few words about Europe.

Should I Tell My First Lover That I'm a Virgin

Fri, 05/13/2011 - 14:44
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty & Carlin

This is going to be an extended story, but I will try to keep it as short as possible, cause I know you have more to do. I grew up in a christian family and was surrounded by 'good' (moral) people, never doing anything wrong, no sex, no drugs, not even a hangover. I always felt like this was not a personal choice and now that I am living at a different place and have more mixed friends (with different morals) I more and more discover the 'real' me. But my old life is the reason I find myself ending up at the age of 24 and still a virgin (you would not call it that way, since I do masturbate).

I Can't Orgasm Manually with My Fingers

Thu, 05/12/2011 - 16:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson


I'm 19 years old and I have only really been masturbating for about half a year. Before that I would only dry hump my bed, but this would only feel good and I would never have an orgasm.

Then whenever I tried to touch myself with my hands, I wouldn't really feel anything and I still don't. I've tried for hours, but nothing, even if I use porn. So since I was so frustrated I decided to buy myself a toy. Since then I have had my first orgasm and I enjoy masturbating.

Bill Maher- Obama is 'One Black Ninja Gangster President'

Thu, 05/12/2011 - 11:10
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I must say I’ve spent some time feeling somewhat betrayed by Obama, especially when he sent more troupes to Afghanistan. That started my downward spiral that we’d been fooled again. However in comparison to the GOP’s possible candidates for president, he now looks like a superior choice by far.

Yes, I know we are no longer even considering America is a democracy since the corporations have taken over. Thanks to the Supreme Court that is no longer supreme but a bunch of bought and paid for GOP mouthpieces. However the other night listening to Bill Maher’s rants nailing the Republicans stand for their phony policies, I squealed with delight when he said:

“Why can't you just admit that Barack Obama is one efficient, steely-nerved, multi-tasking, black Ninja gangsta president?”:

How Can I Transition From Pressure Orgasms?

Wed, 05/11/2011 - 08:40
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

I am 24, and I've just discovered your website today. I am a women who cums through pressure. I first came in kindergarten when shimmying up a pole in the playground. I then learned to cum by squeezing my clasped hands, or a banister, between my legs. I now cum pretty exclusively by pressing my vagina against the arm of an armchair and squeezing my legs. I have learned to slow down the squeezing to delay and strengthen the orgasm, but still I generally cum within 5 minutes.

Deeply Attracted to My Boyfriend But I Can't Orgasm

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 09:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm now 18, I lost my virgintiy when I was 15 years old. Ever since then people even my friends consider me as a sex fiend. I'm also bisexual an very determined to sleep with a female (just haven't found one yet)

I've been dating off and on with this amazing guy for 9 months now, even through all the hard times in his life and mine we've always been sexual towards each other. I'm deeply attracted to him but my body or I can't seem to orgasm. Is it me?

Is 16 Too Young to Buy a Sex Toy?

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 09:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm a 16 year old girl capable of reaching multiple orgasms. Lately though, I've been wanting to use more than just my fingers or a toothbrush. My mother and I have a very open relationship where I have talked to her about masturbation and such before. I have asked her if she would buy me a sextoy and she has refused. Where else could I get one, as everywhere I've looked says you have to be at least 18?

Dear R,

You can make a dildo by carving a zucchini or carrot to size using your mom's potato peeler. Since you are having multiple orgasms using your fingers, stay with it. There is plenty of time for toys later on. Continue to enjoy yourself.

Dr. Betty

I Have Sex with Guys But Fantasize About Women

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 09:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I've only had sex with guys but I've always had this fantasy about fucking another woman. So I've tried to kind of invite other girls at parties to having sex, but they've always said no. I guess I'm not really good-looking and all that but I have the confidence. I would love to see if it's more than just a fantasy. Maybe I'm doing something wrong?

It's really hard to get to know new people where I live because it's a small town where everyone knows everyone. So then you get worried about stuff like; If I sleep with her, maybe people will start talking, and I mean saying really mean things. You see, most of the people I know, except for my closest friends, aren't open to masturbating women and same-sex sex.

51 & Never Had an Orgasm

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:55
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr Betty,

I wonder if you can help me? I'm 51 and I've only ever had one orgasm, which was years ago and happened out of the blue when I went into the bathroom after I had made love with my partner,. I only realised what it was a little while after.

What's the Best Form of Birth Control?

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I recently stopped taking birth control and now I want to jump by boyfriends bones all the time. Since then we have just been using condoms. However, I want to find an alternative form of birth control so we wont have to use condoms, but one that doesn't lower my sex drive. I was wondering what you think the best form of birth control is?

Thank you!

Dear J,

Nothing Seems to Give Me Pleasure

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I've got a dilemma. I've been exploring myself and various techniques on how to please said self for a few years now, but nothing seems to give me any pleasure. And I have a vibrator, but it doesn't seem to do much. Either it's too much to handle, or nothing at all! I haven't been forcing myself to feel anything, or trying so hard I lose all ability!

I Have Orgasms By Myself But Can't Orgasm During Sex or Oral

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:43
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am 30 years old and just recently lost my virginity to my current boyfriend. We've had sex about maybe 15 times so far and my problem is that 1) I don't feel much pleasure (if at all) through vaginal intercourse and 2) I have difficulty having an orgasm when he goes down on me. I often feel disapointed after sex because he seems to enjoy the whole process and has a great orgasm, and I am left there not feeling much pleasure at all.

Husband Doesn't Want Sex After Hernia Operation

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:30
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

My husband had a Hernia repair operation last November, since then we did not have sex at all. he said he does not get excited with me anymore ( because of the operation). He wont go to a doctor to check it out, and he said I should wait...... the sex has been always fast and non passionate, and not as often as i wish it were. I am kind of shy, so i never dared to suggest things or complain.

first it was impossible to have an orgasm with him, and then i learned push myself and get faster and managed to have orgasms (tension orgasm you call them) Obviously, I cant wait no more hence this letter to you.

Please tell me,
what shall I do?

Dear A,