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I Have a Very Unusual Perineum

Sat, 04/23/2011 - 09:52
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I've seen porn. I've seen naked woman, etc. Every woman's pussy and anus is different and that is a definite fact. But...I have a very unusual perineum. The skin sticks out. It's about an inch long, and I can literally pull on it and it stretches out about an inch as well. Now this make me feel very uncomfortable.

Is it normal? My fiance says he doesn't care. He see's it as my way of being different. But to me, it's annoying and disgusting. Is there a way to get it removed? Should I? Is it normal? Does it have some significant factor? I just don't feel comfortable with it. Help...

Dear F,

My Husband Hates to Touch or Look at My Vulva

Sat, 04/23/2011 - 09:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

My husband expresses genuine distaste for vulvas. He thinks they are ugly and scary looking, and is not at all interested in looking at me down there or even touching my vulva unless it's dark and under the covers. When he does, he is tentative and very unskilled (no surprise there). In the throes of our early passion I somehow didn't notice any of this, or perhaps it's gotten worse since marriage and kids. (He was present for two natural births, after all).

Can a Woman's Vagina be Stretched Due to Cheating?

Sat, 04/23/2011 - 09:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I just had "make up" sex with my girlfriend after a two day break up over stupid things that got stopped half way through because i asked if she had been with anyone else. When we started she felt different inside like it was looser... i was used to having sex with her prior so i know what it usually feels like... i felt as though it could have been someone else that had been with her... or could it be that she was really stimulated and became much more "wet" so to speak which gave the illiuson of it being looser?

What to do or think I need some help here and fast so i make the right decison..please

Dear D,

I've Been Trying for 3 Years to Masturbate to Orgasm

Sat, 04/23/2011 - 09:43
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am 19 years old and been trying to reach orgasm through masturbation for 3 years now but i just cant seem to make it happen. I have done lots of research in to the matter and have tried lots of different things i.e vibrators, the shower head, all types of clitoral stimulation, anal stimulation but i still haven't experienced this.

Is It "Bad" to be Open About My Sexuality?

Sat, 04/23/2011 - 09:41
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

First off I want to say you and Carlin are amazing I'm in love with you both, I'm a lot like you guys when it comes to sex I've always been a very sexual person and a very open person about sex. When I was younger I had a neighbor, who was a girl just like me, and we would fool around. We would both sit there marveling as we watched my dads porn together. It was the first time we had both been sexual people. We had both never masturbated until we met. It was fun and interesting, but I always felt bad... my mom walked in on us one time and she wasn't completely sure what we were doing but suspected...

How Can I "Accomodate" His Large Penis?

Sat, 04/23/2011 - 09:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm a veteran when it comes to sex and I finally met a man with a penis that is so large that I can only get his head in my vagina. I was very aroused and very lubricated, but still I could not get his penis in my vagina. What can I do to accomodate this lovely manhood into my wanting depths of womanhood?

Dear T,

When you try again, don't rely on your own lubrication. Depending upon your birth control, get a viscous oil if you're not using condoms. Actually sesame seed oil is thick, if you don't mind smelling a bit like a Chinese restaurant. Just remember, there is such a thing as genital size incompatibility so if you don't succeed after several more attempts, just throw your arms around it and cry, but say goodby.

Dr. Betty

My 24 Year Old Son Lives with Dad & His Girlfriend Sleeps Over

Thu, 04/21/2011 - 14:42
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I have a question that I know the answer to but would like your input. My ex husband and I divorced when our son was l4. My son stayed with me and my ex put the two of us thru hell. Now that my son is 24 and presumably going to college, he is staying with his dad. No rent, no food bill, car bills, no cleaning, I'm sure you get the picture. My son has met a girl that is a year older than he is. She says she's through college, but who knows. I've never met her nor seen her. The latest is that she is now sleeping over, in my son's room (with him) and not only is dad there but big sister (32) is also.

My Wife Hates Receiving Oral Sex. I Love Giving.

Wed, 04/20/2011 - 08:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Doc!

So here's my problem: my wife is one of those "extremely rare" women you describe that has exclusively vaginal orgasms. She has never had one outside of penetrative intercourse. As such, she's not really interested in receiving oral sex. Problem is -- I love it! I wish she would let me go down on her more often, but it just doesn't do much for her. She's not too uncomfortable with my face planted between her legs to enjoy it. How can I help her get more comfortable with being on the receiving end (she gives great head, btw)??

Dear R,

Catholic Church Using Sex Ed Guidelines Developed by Prostitutes

Mon, 04/18/2011 - 17:16
Submitted by Betty Dodson

The Catholic Church is using sex ed guidelines created by COYOTE to develop their new sexual abuse awareness program for children, called Talking About Touch. They didn't use her name, but called Margo St. James a 'wiccan priestess.'

Can Too Much Sexual Information Create Sexual Fatigue?

Mon, 04/18/2011 - 07:39
Submitted by Betty Dodson

These podcasts are really cool stuff and contain very good information about sexuality in detail. I have noticed though that listening to so much info over and over creates a numbing effect on the excitement of sex, which parallels a concept from a college course way back in 1968 -"The Psychology of Being" by Abraham Maslow.

Learn to Last Longer During Sex

Sat, 04/16/2011 - 16:18
Submitted by Betty Dodson

For every smart man who has ever asked, “What do women want?” the sexual desires of each wish list will differ from woman to woman and will depend upon her age. When I was a romance junkie in my early twenties, I went along with whatever kind of sex each boyfriend did as long as he was cute, promised to only have sex with me and said he loved me.

When I got married I was more concerned with financial security and a solid relationship than sex. After I got divorced and began logging in sexual experiences with different men, I was able to name several things I enjoyed about sex. By the time I reached forty I was a sexually sophisticated woman who looked for specific qualities to indicate whether or not a man would be a good lover.

My Penis is 4.5 inches. Is That Good?

Thu, 04/14/2011 - 14:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

hi betty i have a 4 1/2 inch penis is that good?

Dear M,

What you have is always good if you can see it that way. The national average is said to be 5 to 6 and a half inches so you missed it by half an inch. But not to worry!

As a bisexual I can tell you that women and men who learn how to use their hands and tongues are often the best lovers. When it comes to vaginal penetration alone, very few women can come from that. Oral sex is by far the best way for women to have orgasms. The size of your tongue or your fingers is meaningless, yet if you learn how to use them you will be in demand. The same is true of a 4 and a half penis. It's not the size of the fish but the motion of the ocean.

Porn Wars

Tue, 04/12/2011 - 13:30
Submitted by Betty Dodson
Betty Dodson original drawing

When it comes to creating or watching sexual material, we are still debating what is acceptable to view, create or to enjoy. The porn wars rage on while most guys secretly masturbate to what turns them on while too many women want to censor pornography. Most people will agree that sex is a very personal matter, but now that sexual imagery has become so prevalent with internet porn available on our computers 24/7, I’d say like it or not, porn is here to stay.

She Asked if I Touched My Neice's Clitoris

Tue, 04/12/2011 - 11:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am woman of 50 from North Italy.

I don't have children...I like sex, I need sex and I am very flirty.
My story:
-me, Carla
-my younger sister, Louise
-her 7 years old daughter, Virginia

One summer in my mother's garden, my sister Louise approached me and with low voice asked me if I touched her daughter Virginia with the intent of showing her the position of her clitoris!!!!

Because the little girl showed her clit to the mother all excited.

I said no of course I did not touch your daughter, I would never consider to touch a girl to teach her where is the clitoris is located. I really never thought of something like that.