Betty Dodson's blog

They Didn't Even Mention the Clitoris in Anatomy Class

Sun, 02/05/2012 - 14:14
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty!

First I want to thank you for your wonderful website and all the information on here which has helped me tremendously transform my sexual well-being from practically zero to excellent! Also I want to thank you, Carlin, and everyone else for helping me realize many things about femininity. It is so true that females are being oppressed by the male-dominant world!

I'm Afraid Female Circumcision Has Left Me Numb

Sat, 02/04/2012 - 09:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I had FGM when i was 12, now i'm 22 and never had any kind of sexual experience in my life, never been touched by a guy, i'm afraid i won't feel anything. i tried masturbating and there's nothing, it's ticklish down there but no pleasure at all. I have part of my clitrois left..there's a very small part left.

Where i live (egypt) there's nothing such as reconstructive is there any advice on how i can have a normal sex life?? or at least a satisfying sex life? i know you met many women who had FGM and maybe you have some advice for me.

Dear R,

Fortunately the clitoris is a much larger organ than the tip of the glans which is what we can see on the outside. The clitoris is quite extensive. Here's a link to me drawing the internal clitoris.

What To Do With My Teeth During Oral Sex?

Thu, 02/02/2012 - 11:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I've never been a big fan of oral sex, but my current boyfriend really seems to like it so I want to get better at it. Problem is, I cannot seem to "hide" my teeth well and hurt him. He is very thick, and I do not have a big mouth. Please give me as many tricks as you can!!!


Dear M,

I Want Sex to be Pleasurable & Fun but Physically I Can't Get There

Wed, 02/01/2012 - 10:32
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty and Carlin,

Thank you for reading my question. I appreciate your time and perspective and I hope that my email addresses a worthy, yet lesser-discussed topic that will interest your audience.


I have been asking myself: “Do I need to accept medical celibacy due to a low libido, anorgasmia and dyspareunia?” If so, do you have recommendations for accepting this lifestyle?”


Will a Vibrator Replace Me Pleasuring My Wife?

Tue, 01/31/2012 - 09:36
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Betty,

I have been reading the wealth of information on your site for some time now and it has proved invaluable to my understanding of my wife's needs, has increased the quality of our sexual relationship and has improved the maturity of my views on what constitutes a mature, healthy sexual relationship. It's like free therapy and I thank you.

Getting Close to Orgasm Freaks Me Out

Mon, 01/30/2012 - 16:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

My boyfriend is a god, he's great with his hands, great with his mouth and everything else. He gets off making me feel good. He's amazing! But I've never had an orgasm, every time I get close I get freaked out, if I'm masturbating, I stop, if it's my boyfriend, I end up fighting him off. The feeling of getting there is already so intense that my body freaks out before climax and I have to stop. Please help.

Dear L,

Get Ready for SHE-CHANGE

Mon, 01/30/2012 - 09:38
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Several years ago, I was invited to take part in one of Faith Popcorn's think tanks. This was long before Occupy Wall Street so I was far more impressed with large corporations that I now see as dinosaurs about to become extinct.

Faith was well paid for her future predictions so all the PR vultures could swoop down and feed off consumers. She’s been very good at calling future trends. Her latest one got my clit throbbing with excitement:

“If you think that women are taking over the world, you’re right. Women control $12 trillion of the overall $18.4 trillion in global consumer spending. By the end of the decade there will be more businesses started by women than men. We’re calling this widespread shift SHE-CHANGE.

It Felt Good but I Didn't Have Any Vaginal Contractions?

Sun, 01/29/2012 - 11:29
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty.

Recently I've rediscovered the joy of sex, and now I want to put an effort in to trying to get an orgasm, which I still haven't had at the age of 34, not on my own and not with a guy.

A few days back I was masturbating, using only my fingers. I had 1 finger inside my vagina pressing up towards the g-spot and making sideways motions, and the other hand was rubbing my clitoris. After a while I felt this warm and burning feeling in my vulva, my feet were moving like drumsticks and it was really good, but I didn't feel any contractions. My hands and fingers at that time were so tired that I couldn't control them properly anymore so I had to stop. Would you say that this was close to an orgasm and that if I just had continued I probably would have got an orgasm?


How To Deal With My Six-year-old Masturbating?

Fri, 01/27/2012 - 16:30
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

Before I start off, I must say that I am really enjoying everything that you and all your readers and contributors have put out on here.
It's great to get some frank talk about sex and masturbation.

My question is this, and I'm sorry if it's a repeat of another person's question. I have 2 boys, aged 6 and 3 (as of next month). My oldest son seems to constantly have his hands down his pants. For the most part, I think that he just puts them there because it's a comfortable way to sit, and I simply remind him to take his hands out of his pants. There are other times, though, that he has his pants down and is full-on masturbating, usually while watching tv.

Takes a Long Time to Orgasm Even with My Vibrator

Thu, 01/26/2012 - 10:11
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I used to be able to orgasm with my hands quite reliably and always with a vibrator. UP until my mid-forties I always used masturbation to reach orgasm with a partner. Oral sex brought it about on occasion but never reliably (the last time I came with oral sex was at Burning Man 1998!), though I can get very close this way, and also during intercourse, it seems I hang on the threshold forever.

I Haven't Had An Orgasm Since I was 15

Wed, 01/25/2012 - 09:14
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 27 year old woman who has not had an orgasm since I was 15. I don't know what happened. There was a guy that I liked and he attempted to give me oral sex. All was well until the moment where I was about to release and I somehow stopped myself. I tried everything but, nothing seems to work. Now I have a boyfriend who wants more than anything to please me. The first time he went down on me all was well but, I did not cum.

Is there something wrong with me?

Dear E,

How Do I Get Out There and Become a "Slut"?

Tue, 01/24/2012 - 09:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

I first of course want to say that your website has changed my life and I am so thankful for the work that you guys do liberating womens' sexuality (reading it made me realize I'm not a freak or unnatural to believe what I've always believed about sex).. it's really a beautiful thing. Orgasm

Tue, 01/24/2012 - 08:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

It was going on way too many months since I’d given myself a nice big yowling orgasm. This was especially serious since we recently filmed a Bodysex workshop and during the shoot, I was unable to come. I was so exhausted and stressed out I couldn’t get off so I finally just gave up. Worst of all was remembering that during past Bodysex workshops, my group orgasms were always some of my best.

Suddenly My Build-up Is Gone and It Doesn't Feel Good Anymore

Mon, 01/23/2012 - 15:16
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I was referred to you by a friend of my boyfriends after a conversation we had last week. I am 21 and i have been active for 3 years, and up until now i have not had sex with anyone who could even get me close to climax, nor have i done much self loving. Since me and my now BF have started having sex he hasnt gotten me close a few times, just as i have myself the few times ive been alone, but every single time the same thing happens to me when i think i reach climax. Suddenly all the tension building up in my body releases and everything happening feels really akward to me and i get sensitive but it doesnt feel good at all. What is causing this and how can i stop it so that i can actually finish my orgasm and come?

Dear B,

How Do I Introduce a Guy to the Ideas of D&R?

Sun, 01/22/2012 - 09:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

First of all thank you. Thank you for inspiring a 20-year-old young woman from Denmark. You inspire me to inspire other young women to gain more sexual self confidence. Often when I claim to be a feminist I am confronted with prejudice: "that is so 70s!", "so you hate men?" or people just laugh. Young people. I remember once in high school, a girl told that she would wash her boyfriend's boxers, if she had given him a handjob or they had gotten dirty from sex in another way. Apparently because it was her fault. So I asked "does he wash your panties everytime they're dirty from you getting wet?" and the whole class laughed. Apparently that was different...