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Penetration Hurts & Tears Up My Vagina

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 14:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm 20 years old and started having sex at 16. I'm not sure when exactly it started but I know it didn't happen the first time. Pretty much every single time I have or have tried to have penetrative sex it hurts and/or it tears just below the opening of my vagina. My boyfriend and I have tried more foreplay, lube, different positions etc. It only sometimes changes how bad the issue is not whether or not it happens.

How Can I NOT Bend My Partner's Penis While I'm on Top?

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 14:33
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty!

I recently am new to sex. I have had it about three times now, but the last time I bent my partner's penis while I was on top. Thankfully I didn't break it, but I left him in pain. I was wondering what my movements should be in order to avoid hurting him again in the future.

Thank you,

Dear D,

Partner Sex Feels Better When I'm on the Bottom

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 14:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I so admire your running the fuck concept and would love to put it into practice as you describe, but I really struggle with being on top. I used to feel quite shy about my body, but have done a lot of work to deal with those self-esteem issues. Now I enjoy being watched and the sense of power when on top.

Nervous About My First "Time" Hurting

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 13:48
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm 16 and engaging in partner sex (penetration) for the very first time this Friday. My partner is quite a bit older than me and has a lot of experience. I masturbate on a regular basis and know my body and orgasms well. While I'm comfortable with my partner, and know that there will be lots of foreplay, I'm still nervous about my first time hurting. Another concern of mine is orgasm. My partner tells me that it typically takes him 20 to 30 minutes. This is daunting to me because I typically orgasm in 5 to 10 minutes. Do you have any suggestions for my first time?

P.S. I want to send out a huge thank you to you and Carlin. You have inspired and empowered me so much!

Dear M,

I Feel Self Conscious About How Long It Takes Me to Orgasm

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 13:34
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I've recently started exploring your site and I want to thank you for creating such an open community. I wasn't raised to talk or even think about sex (not that my parents were strict or very religious--it just wasn't something anyone in my family ever discussed, and my parents are not openly affectionate with each other), and so I feel like I'm a little behind in terms of fully accepting myself as a sexual person who enjoys intimacy. But I'm working on it, I really am, and your site is helping me.

How Long Should I Wait Before Having Sex with My Date?

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 13:26
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

My question is probably really basic, so I'll get right to the point. How long should I wait until I sleep with him? I've just met a guy. It's a pretty funny story because he was serving me at a drug store and I thought he was really nice and handsome. So I asked him out. (Something I have never done before. And I couldn't believe he said yes.) I haven't seen him since, but we've been texting a lot and we're going out later this week. He seems genuinely nice and interested. The mistake I have made in the past is sleeping with a guy very quickly - on the first or second date. And every time I did that it always ended up in him just playing me. I'm 23 and haven't had a relationship in 5 years. And I'm sick of guys just wanting me for sex. It just makes me feel really cheap.

Wife has Anal Fantasy but Then Recoils When I Approach It

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 13:16
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am a 37-year-old man married to a 39-year-old woman. We have been together for 17 years and have three children together. We have always had an amazing sex life and are still as passionate about each other as we were when we met. We are both in excellent health and great physical shape.

Am I Staying with My Boyfriend for the Right Reasons?

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 13:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

My boyfriend and I are in college and were only together for about two months before summer hit and we decided to stay together for the summer. It has been so long since he has been in my daily life (we talk on the phone regularly, but its not the same) and I am really nervous about how things are going to go when we get back in a week. He needs constant reassurance that I love him and even when I do all I can to express that sometimes it doesn't seem like it sinks in with him.

Can All Women Squirt?

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 12:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Can all women squirt and how can we do it? And sorry for bad writing. I'm from Puerto Rico. Have a lovely day

Dear A,

No, not all women squirt when they have an orgasm and women who can squirt say that it is not the same thing as an orgasm. The expert on female ejaculation is Deborah Sundhahl who has books, videos available and she also runs workshops to teach this. I personally don't care for the concept and I now have women asking how they can stop squirting as it makes a big mess that requires doing more laundry.

Dr. Betty

Why Do I Pull Away From Clitoral Stimulation?

Thu, 09/08/2011 - 08:22
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

How come i can give myself back to back orgasims while masterbating but yet i pull away from my partner when he tries pleasing me. It feels awesome but before i can orgasim i pull away or push myself away from him like it feels so good i cant handle it, can you help me?

Dear S,

When we pull away from some form of clitoral stimulation it can mean

1. You have already had a small orgasm and the clitoris needs to calm down for a few moments before continuing.

Is There Any Way to Orgasm Without Touching My Clitoris Directly?

Tue, 09/06/2011 - 15:39
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am a 26 year old woman, and I can only have clitoral orgasms, I've had them alone since I was 11, and also with my partners since I was 16, when they're patient enough to let me masturbate during slow penetration or any other moment during sex.

I never had a problem with that, but lately, I've been talking to so many women, and even seeing with my own eyes, how easy it is for them to have vaginal/g-spot orgasms (not sure it's the same?). I know it is not good for me to be comparing myself with any other women on that aspect but... I just can't help but feel like I'm missing out something really good!

I Feel a Building Sensation Then It Stops

Tue, 09/06/2011 - 12:43
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm 67 years old. i have never climaxed. there was a time when i felt a building sensation, then it stopped. i have never masturbated. i am an incest survivor. i would like to learn how to climax with a partner as well as by myself. can you help me?

Dear H,

The best case scenario would be a private session with me. We would spend an afternoon together for up to 7 hours or until we are finished. The fee is $1200. Otherwise, go to *How to Orgasm* and follow my simple step by step process which is based upon how I teach.

The Filming of "Betty's Bodysex Workshop" Begins on a Full Moon

Tue, 09/06/2011 - 08:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

We're shooting the bodysex workshop next week: September 12 - 16.  Eric Francis did an astrological reading - our production starts on a full moon:

The Virgo New Moon on August 28 set the tone for September. The Sun and Moon aligned with two different goddesses -- one is Venus (the bright planet that will soon be visible in the evening sky) and the other is Isis (an asteroid). The alignment was precise.

There is a receptive, intelligent energy in the air and Eric reminds us to use it wisely, listen before we speak and remember to keep our minds in the 'on' position. The Full Moon is the 12th of the month (the day we begin filming). How perfect it that? The Goddess of Sexual Love & Abundance continues to provide divine guidance and protection.

Our Best Hope: Orgasmic Mothers

Mon, 09/05/2011 - 15:18
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Mark Karlin, the editor of BuzzFlash at Truthout states: “This Labor Day, in 2011, the middle class is incrementally disappearing and we are fighting wars that we no longer have a coherent rationale for fighting. But these unending Pentagon battles are a growth industry in a declining job market. They are one of our few "successful" jobs programs, employing everyone from GIs to weapons assemblers to "security" contracting firms to our extensive intelligence network.”

Can You Feel a Difference in Vaginal Secretions with Uncircumcised Partner?

Mon, 09/05/2011 - 08:07
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I got to play with my first un-circumcised penis the other day! I was only giving a hand job, no penetration yet, but I was fascinated and a bit thrown off and found I had to alter my technique.

Anyways, you mentioned in your most recent video that "unless they are un-circumcised, its dry." I had never heard these correlated before, but after searching the rest of this blog I found Carlin explaining in a post that: