Betty Dodson's blog

How Can I Reduce the Chance of Farting While Reaching Orgasm?

Wed, 02/15/2012 - 10:04
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

This is a really embarrassing question, but I sometimes fart when I orgasm. I'm sure it's a fart and not a queef. It happened in front of a partner for the first time recently because my partner was trying really hard to make me orgasm and I felt like I was taking to long, so I tensed my body and stimulated myself with my hands intensely to make myself have a very quick orgasm which was also accompanied by a very loud fart and I was humiliated.

Now I hold myself back from reaching orgasm when we have sex because I'm afraid it will happen again.This sometimes happens when I masturbate as well. Is it something I'm doing wrong? Or is there something I can do to reduce the chance of farting while reaching orgasm.

Dear D,

How Do You Control Your Hormones with Multiple Partners?

Mon, 02/13/2012 - 09:32
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty,

You and Carlin are very adventurous and obviously you both have had sex with numerous people and continue to explore our vast population. I learned in sex ed that when a women has sex with a man, her hormones are automatically going to make her somewhat attached to that man. So my question is, is that true? And if so, how do you and Carlin curb those emotions? How are you both able to not feel attached or in love with someone you only had sex with?

Dear A,

Thought I was Empowered But the Whole Time I was Pleasing Men

Sat, 02/11/2012 - 18:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Your videos have really changed my whole outlook on sexuality, and I thought I was so empowered! I thought I knew it all! How wrong I was. The whole time I'd just been pleasing men, pleasing men, pleasing men, did I have any orgasms during partnersex? Maybe once in a blue moon. It's funny, that I considered myself a sex expert, even though the only thing I was expert in is pleasing men and god knows that's not hard. It's not that I'm not comfortable with my sexuality, I am definitely very creatively, openly and voraciously sexual and know what I want, unfortunately, I just don't know how to get it.

Can't Have Multiple Orgasms. Can't Come Unless I Touch Myself

Fri, 02/10/2012 - 09:27
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty, please help me!

I'm a 40-year-old woman, frustrated w/my orgasms. I'm able to reach orgasm multiple times (either with a male partner in bed or on my own), but I've gotten used to the digital stimulation that I do. When in bed w/a partner, I do get very aroused but can't come unless I touch myself. If I feel comfortable doing that (which hinges on my partner's reaction), then I can come in as quickly as 60 seconds though it often takes longer. I move my hand once I've started coming and let my partner go from there. However, a pattern has developed where eventually my partner expresses regret/dissatisfaction because he wants "to be the one who makes (me) come."

Female Ejaculation or Urinary Incontinence?

Thu, 02/09/2012 - 10:18
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I'm now 19 and am lucky enough to have been following your work, and have become somewhat of a fangirl.

My question is a bit odd but I'm hoping you can shed a light on it. I am female bodied and identify as female. I find that I'm squirting significantly after I orgasm, it can be a few minutes, but sometimes even hours later. Sometimes it happens because of a cough, sneeze, etc. and sometimes it just happens out of nowhere. My partner doesn't know I can ejaculate and doesn't like female ejaculation, so it's really stressful leading up to it. I usually have no sign it's going to happen. it's not an often occurrence, either.

Thanks!

Dear N,

I'm Not Interested in Hormone Contraceptives. What are My Options?

Wed, 02/08/2012 - 14:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty,

I have a question for you. My partner and I are trying to find a method of birth control that is perfect for both of us. I'm not interested in any type of hormonal contraceptives, or an IUD. I want something that leaves me in a natural state. We've been using condoms but both of us prefer skin to skin contact during intercourse. After hearing you talk so highly of the diaphragm we are considering this as our option.

My only concern is the taste of the spermicide. I have heard awful things about the taste and numbness that it can create and I was wondering what your experience is with the use of spermicide in the diaphragm and oral sex. My partner and I both love oral sex and cutting that out is not an options. Thanks for your sharing you knowledge!

Dear T,

Is the "Marriage" Talk Ruining Our Sex Life?

Tue, 02/07/2012 - 10:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for sometime (five years) and now we are talking about getting married. Even set a date and soon we will be getting a ring.

For at least two months though my boyfriend has been having trouble staying hard. He says he isn't happy with his weight and not comfortable with the way he looks so that is why. I feel it could be a combination of things. One he drinks too much, and two he is taking anti-anxiety medication, and possibly the talk of the wedding has him nervous. I've asked him if it was me and sometimes I feel that is the problem too. We also have sex less frequently. I know I'm responsible for my orgasm when he is not around or when I want one. But I feel like we used to be more together.

They Didn't Even Mention the Clitoris in Anatomy Class

Sun, 02/05/2012 - 14:14
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty!

First I want to thank you for your wonderful website and all the information on here which has helped me tremendously transform my sexual well-being from practically zero to excellent! Also I want to thank you, Carlin, and everyone else for helping me realize many things about femininity. It is so true that females are being oppressed by the male-dominant world!

I'm Afraid Female Circumcision Has Left Me Numb

Sat, 02/04/2012 - 09:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I had FGM when i was 12, now i'm 22 and never had any kind of sexual experience in my life, never been touched by a guy, i'm afraid i won't feel anything. i tried masturbating and there's nothing, it's ticklish down there but no pleasure at all. I have part of my clitrois left..there's a very small part left.

Where i live (egypt) there's nothing such as reconstructive surgery..so is there any advice on how i can have a normal sex life?? or at least a satisfying sex life? i know you met many women who had FGM and maybe you have some advice for me.

Dear R,

Fortunately the clitoris is a much larger organ than the tip of the glans which is what we can see on the outside. The clitoris is quite extensive. Here's a link to me drawing the internal clitoris.

What To Do With My Teeth During Oral Sex?

Thu, 02/02/2012 - 11:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi,
I've never been a big fan of oral sex, but my current boyfriend really seems to like it so I want to get better at it. Problem is, I cannot seem to "hide" my teeth well and hurt him. He is very thick, and I do not have a big mouth. Please give me as many tricks as you can!!!

Thanks!

Dear M,

I Want Sex to be Pleasurable & Fun but Physically I Can't Get There

Wed, 02/01/2012 - 10:32
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty and Carlin,

Thank you for reading my question. I appreciate your time and perspective and I hope that my email addresses a worthy, yet lesser-discussed topic that will interest your audience.

QUESTION

I have been asking myself: “Do I need to accept medical celibacy due to a low libido, anorgasmia and dyspareunia?” If so, do you have recommendations for accepting this lifestyle?”

BACKGROUND

Will a Vibrator Replace Me Pleasuring My Wife?

Tue, 01/31/2012 - 09:36
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Betty,

I have been reading the wealth of information on your site for some time now and it has proved invaluable to my understanding of my wife's needs, has increased the quality of our sexual relationship and has improved the maturity of my views on what constitutes a mature, healthy sexual relationship. It's like free therapy and I thank you.

Getting Close to Orgasm Freaks Me Out

Mon, 01/30/2012 - 16:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

My boyfriend is a god, he's great with his hands, great with his mouth and everything else. He gets off making me feel good. He's amazing! But I've never had an orgasm, every time I get close I get freaked out, if I'm masturbating, I stop, if it's my boyfriend, I end up fighting him off. The feeling of getting there is already so intense that my body freaks out before climax and I have to stop. Please help.

Dear L,

Get Ready for SHE-CHANGE

Mon, 01/30/2012 - 09:38
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Several years ago, I was invited to take part in one of Faith Popcorn's think tanks. This was long before Occupy Wall Street so I was far more impressed with large corporations that I now see as dinosaurs about to become extinct.

Faith was well paid for her future predictions so all the PR vultures could swoop down and feed off consumers. She’s been very good at calling future trends. Her latest one got my clit throbbing with excitement:

“If you think that women are taking over the world, you’re right. Women control $12 trillion of the overall $18.4 trillion in global consumer spending. By the end of the decade there will be more businesses started by women than men. We’re calling this widespread shift SHE-CHANGE.