Betty Dodson's blog

What's the State of Feminism?

Mon, 01/16/2012 - 14:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Doc Betty, I'll send links to the vid's when I get home. I'm in a public internet cafe now. Not a lot of privacy.

The beach isn't quite itself, not the way I remember it. I wanted to see some topless lovelies, feeling comfortable about their bodies. I did see a few nice, plump, round bosoms. But most were on overweight men.

The bulk of the people, according to some workers here, are from South America. They seem to be Argentinians, mostly Italian and some Spanish. And presumably the others are from the upper strata of society there, where being European seems to count highly. Only when they speak do I know if they're American or predominantly Spanish people from South American countries.

I Easily Orgasm But Not When My Boyfriend's There

Mon, 01/16/2012 - 14:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm 23 and I've been sexually active since 17 to my boyfriend at the time. It was never sex as I experience now and it soon became something we didn't do often. I have since had a few more relationships and a few sexual partners all to which I have experimented with and tried lots of new things but never been able to climax during oral or sex.. I can make myself come easy alone and fantasizing. But I've even tried doing it in front of a partner and I still couldn't. I felt close but just couldn't get over that bridge. It's embarrassing that I can't with a new partner who I am with now. He feels amazing and does all the right things but it just gets too intense and I make him stop. I don't like to bring it up but I want to cos I know he wants me to feel good.

Dear K,

Do Bigger Women Need Men With Bigger Packages?

Mon, 01/16/2012 - 14:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear betty

I assume that this type of questions must really get on your nerve, but I'll take my chances anyway, the reason I ask it is because every time some other guy asks this question women generally say that they prefer average size, but whenever I'm in the mood to watch porn I don't know if I'm not good at noticing facial expressions but I don't really see the women in pain while being penetrated by those big ones, in fact I think sometimes I see them wet or liking it, I prefer voluptuous women so most of the time that's what I look for in porn, could it be that bigger women need men with bigger packages ?

Feel free to answer with all honesty

I know I'm going to get a lot of " heat " for comparing porn and all that, ha, but I just needed to ask it and well I'll ask it.

Just Can't Get Through The Barrier to Orgasm

Mon, 01/16/2012 - 14:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I've never orgasmed through sex or through masturbation. I've not been very sexually active over the years, but this year I bought a vibrator and tried to use it to get to orgasm. However, I find that whenever I'm close it just gets too intense and I can't past this stage. I physically can't move past this.

I've just started a new relationship as well and during sex get very aroused and have also been quite close to orgasm, but come against the same barrier that I just can't continue. If you have any advice on how to push through this barrier or get over this it would change my life. I seem to have a high sex drive, but just can't reach the end!
Ever hopeful!

H from the UK

Dear H,

Did I Have An Orgasm?

Mon, 01/16/2012 - 14:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I'm 15 and recently exploring myself. It took me a good two weeks until I started to feel some sort of orgasm coming on. I wanted to know if it was a full orgasm or not. I would massage my clit and then all of a sudden my area would get tense, it wasn't a really amazing feeling, it kinda felt like when you have a dead leg, but it wasn't as painful and more pleasurable. My back muscles started to pull down so my back was fully touching the bed, my breathing wasnt that heavy but it was starting to ellevate. I never got any vaginal muscle contractions though. I just wanted to know if maybe this was the start of an orgasm?

Dear L,

Feeling Deprived of All The Good Stuff

Mon, 01/16/2012 - 14:01
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I discovered your videos today and have become completely wrapped up in them. I will cut through my life story and ask what can a late bloomer do to make the transition into adult sex easier (better sex, longer sex, etc)? I'm 21 approaching 22, have only kissed one person, and have had sex with one which was unmemorable and quite honestly, emotionally crippling (nothing was gained on my part). I find myself becoming more anxious as the years roll by. How can a prude-who-doesn't-want-to-be do in a situation like this?

Oral Sex or Using My Fingers Won't Make Me Orgasm

Mon, 01/16/2012 - 14:01
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am 37 and have amazing orgasms only when my partner hits my g-spot through vaginal intercourse, or when I stimulate my clitoris area under a running water faucet in the bath. Even what feels like the most amazing oral sex or my own efforts to stimulate my clitoris (using fingers or vibrators) doesn't get me to an orgasm. I know clitoral orgasm is possible because of my experience with the faucet, but I can't seem to get there any other way. My partner is very generous with oral sex and I would like to orgasm from that. Help!

Dear K,

I Used to Orgasm by Rubbing Myself on the Edge of a Table.

Mon, 01/16/2012 - 10:32
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Hi, I'm 18 years old and have been masturbating since I was about 8. I usually "balanced" on the edge of things like tables and stuff and could always orgasm that way. Well I started getting sexually active over a year ago and have never orgasmed with him. We have tried everything--clit stimulation, hitting g spot-- a bunch of different positions, but I never get there.

I feel good at times and usually feel like I have to pee at some point and once or twice have gotten a severe tickling sensation I couldn't stand-it was almost painful...what's going on with me?????? Oh and now I dont masturbate much so now I'm having issues climaxing that way too! I'm soooo sick of no orgasms! HELP!

Dear B,

Are The Stories About Vaginal Wall Muscle Control True?

Sun, 01/15/2012 - 08:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson


I have heard about women who have enough control of their vaginal wall muscles that they can shoot ping-pong balls out. I have heard about a Korean/Chinese/Japanese adult show where a gal can insert a peeled banana and asks a guy how many pieces he wants it broken into and proceeds to do it while it is inside. Is this really possible? I can barely feel my wife's muscles contract when she reaches orgasm but she does not have good muscle control anywhere on her body. One guy posted something his girlfriend does on a dick that she can give the equivalent of a hand job with her vulva. I would guess that pelvic floor exercises (Kegels) may help out on this front. Are these shows/rumors true? How do I get my wife interested in doing these, for both my pleasure and hers?

Why I Believe Antidepressants Don't Work

Wed, 01/11/2012 - 09:46
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm not going to back down on my belief that antidepressants are overprescribed. I stumbled upon an article by Dr. Levine, a psychologist, who argues that america's mental health industry is a threat to our sanity:

“Prior to psychiatry’s proclamation that depression was caused by too little of the neurotransmitter serotonin, few Americans were taking antidepressants. But by declaring that depression was caused by a serotonin imbalance analogous to diabetes and an insulin imbalance, depressed Americans became far more receptive to serotonin-enhancing drugs such as the “selective-serotonin-reuptake inhibitors” (SSRIs) Prozac, Paxil, and Zoloft.

My Penis Is Only Erect on One Side

Tue, 01/10/2012 - 09:46
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Do you have any knowledge about what can be done about peroni's condition. One side of my penis no longer engorges at erection. It curves to one side, is shorter than it used to be and is not as big around. I saw a urologist a few years ago who said there was not much that could be done about it. He said the surgery that some had tried was not very successful. It definitely limits the kind of things my wife and I can do together. Do you know of anything that can be done.

Dear K,

What Am I...Sexually?

Mon, 01/09/2012 - 09:32
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I’ve been struggling with my sexual orientation for a couple of years and am wondering, if you, knowledgeable and esteemed lady :-), might have a word or two of advice, as I don’t seem to be able to get anywhere on my own.

My Boyfriend Can't Make Me Come

Sat, 01/07/2012 - 13:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am 19 and just under a year ago i found your website i brought myself to orgasm for the first time, using circular motions with my hand over my clitoral hood. My clitoris itself is too sensitive to touch directly. I have only been able to orgasm from this method, even when my boyfriend performs oral on me, i only feel a tickling feeling or if he gets too close to my actual clit it hurts, this is disheartening as alot of women seem to report that oral sex feels really good.

Do you have any suggestions as to exploring different ways to orgasm?, i feel very limited and depressed over the subject. If i invested in a vibrator would that change things? i am scared that i would become dependant on the vibrator to orgasm.

Thanks A

Dear A,