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Betty, Will You Please Stop Referring To Yourself as Old!

Thu, 03/08/2012 - 10:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,
Will you PLEASE do me favor, and stop referring to yourself as old? If I had to describe Betty Dodson, here are some adjectives I might use: beautiful, intelligent, vibrant, revolutionary, sexy, wise. But old? Oh hell no! If age is a state of mind, then you are as young as they come. Ageism is just as evil as sexism, racism or any other -ism. Free your mind and your ass will follow!
Your fan, C

Dear Insightful fan, C,

Making a Journal on Our Sexlives

Wed, 03/07/2012 - 09:27
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I have an idea, and want to get your input. My boyfriend and I are middle aged professionals separated by great distance. We get together every few months and have fantastic sex. We’re open to new adventures and opportunities to increase our pleasure. We communicate very openly about what we want to do, what we like and don’t like, and what we want to do differently. However, sometimes we just plain can’t remember. I was thinking…. that we ought to start keeping a journal of our sexcapades, in the interest of processing improvement. I see lots of possibilities for making our communication even more open, helping us keep track of what we did, what we liked and what we want to try next.

How Can I Get My Confidence Back After His Infidelity?

Mon, 03/05/2012 - 09:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

My husband & I have been together 20 years. My husband had only been with 5 partners before marriage, and I lost count at about 40. Honesty was always my first priority, and I made that exceedingly clear. I encouraged my husband to let me know if he was attracted to someone and that maybe we could work some fun sex out, I'm bisexual.

I introduced him to a few sex parties and brought a couple of girlfriends home for threesomes, but it was all very tame. I wanted him to be able to express himself sexually in a way he hadn't been able to with his past lovers, and was encouraging him to be more open sexually. I wanted him to have good sexual experiences within our agreed boundaries. The agreement was to be honest, that was the main agreement.

Disillusioned But Determined to Hold My Own Bodysex Group

Sun, 03/04/2012 - 11:16
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

Marion here- i had a session with you in january (from australia) well- well- as my subject title suggests i'm feeling quite despondent re the overall response from my women friends to starting a group.

My plan is to show your bodysex dvd in two parts over two meetings followed by (clothed) sharing. I sent an email to about 15 of my closest female friends and women whom i felt would be open to exploring/discussing their personal experiences/feelings re sexuality and masturbation in particular.

We Have Great Sex But I Can't Communicate About Difficult Topics

Fri, 03/02/2012 - 16:58
Submitted by Betty Dodson

dear betty!

i am glad to have found your youtube-blog and this site here - i think you and carlin are so inspiring and i hope to find other inspiring sex-workshop-stuff here in europe...anyway, what i wanted to ask you. i am in my mid-twenties and in an lesbian relationship for almost 12 years now. in the early years there was a lot of repression of feelings and desires, sexual guilt - we both come from quite difficult backgrounds. but each of us liberated herself - also sexually, but there is still a lot of healing to do.

Is There a Big Difference Between Having Sex with a Circumcised Penis vs. an Uncircumcised Penis?

Fri, 03/02/2012 - 10:37
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I hate being the person who asks this question but I'm a 20-something year old woman who loves sex. I know exactly what I love and how to get myself off when I'm with a man and have a good, healthy sexual appetite.

However, I find myself facing something I've never come across before. All of my previous partners have been uncircumcised men but, my new boyfriend (who I have yet to get physical with) *is* circumcised.

I'm hearing myths and all kinds of stories about the lack of sensitivity in a circumcised penis and I feel as though everything I ever learned about sex, how to get a guy off and stimulate him, as well as myself is about to be thrown out of the window.

I Want More Than One Orgasm During Sex

Tue, 02/28/2012 - 09:37
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I've written to you a couple of times over the past few years. I doubt you'd remember, as you're a very busy lady, but real quick... I had my first orgasm w/ the magic wand about seven years ago, enjoyed many orgasms from that wonderful device but was determined to learn to come w/o a vibe, progressed to coming from the shower heard, then to while watching porn, then to my partner's fingers inside and mine on my clit, to finally enjoying orgasms induced by oral stimulation or my partner's hands in (sometimes) less than twenty minutes. I am quite happy with the progress I've made and have very much enjoyed the journey.

The Roman Coliseum Has Nothing on Us

Tue, 02/28/2012 - 08:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

For the most part, I rarely watch Hollywood’s Oscar award night. I know it’s mostly about politics rather than skill, talent or art. Hollywood is and always has been a dynasty. When I came across an article in Truth Out titled: “Anti-War Critics Forgotten on Oscar Night" by Adam Hochschild, I started reading:

“Well in advance of the 2014 centennial of the beginning of “the war to end all wars,” the First World War is suddenly everywhere in our lives. Stephen Spielberg’s War Horse opened on 2,376 movie screens and has collected six Oscar nominations, while the hugely successful play it’s based on is still packing in the crowds in New York and a second production is being readied to tour the country.”

The Global Issue of Sexually Repressed Women

Mon, 02/27/2012 - 08:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hey Betty

I have recently been working in Asia and exploring myself sexually here. In many cultures, there is the expectation that a women is a virgin when she gets married. It's expected that a woman is a virgin, but men can use prostitutes. I have had a lover here, and he has been pretty open to learning new things but clearly was very unexperienced.

I thought western society was repressed because of the emphasis on sex for procreation, but perhaps it is women all over the world that are sexually repressed and even more so than us in the west. Yet women here do not complain but they also do not masturbate or talk about it. Western culture seems very individualist but here it is collective, but individualism creates sexual empowerment verses just fulfilling a family role.

Can You Read Too Much About Sex?

Sat, 02/25/2012 - 16:22
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty and Carlin!

You guys are awesome! And I have to thank you for guiding me to a better self-confidence and of course, great orgasms. Your posts about feminism, orgasms, body and sex in general has made me feel better about myself and I’ve become less ashamed of my body. So thank you – so much!

How to Set up a Bodysex Workshop

Fri, 02/24/2012 - 16:07
Submitted by Betty Dodson

The wisdom of Consciousness Raising Groups began with 70’s feminism. It was based on the concept that, “The personal is political.”

When women talk about our personal lives, we are describing the political system we live in. We are not isolated cases of misfortune, but victims of a male dominated authoritarian system determined to control our bodies and our sexuality. The CR solution was simple: By sharing the truth about our lives, we could find solutions through our collective efforts to change ourselves.

How to Become a Slut at 40?

Fri, 02/24/2012 - 08:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dearest Betty,

I asked a friend to bring me your book because she is coming from USA, but she told me that it seems that is only available as an e-book, where can she find it as a paper book? is it available like that?

I have been reading a lot of interesting post in your site the last days, and I'm really surprise because many woman write you from all USA, from Europe, they tell you all the things I think too, so living in a 3th. world country, or in Denmak, or in USA is the same thing for some women, we all have the same problems and worries about sex, incredible!!! I can't believe that, I have always complained for living here!

Can't Orgasm During Masturbation Only During Sex

Thu, 02/23/2012 - 08:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

Your website has helped me so much over the past few years, along with some other reading and research. I overcame sexual shame and inhibitions and I was able to have my first orgasm last year with a new partner who I could relax and be open with. But I know how much emphasis you put on the importance of masturbation, and I can still only orgasm with my partner through penetration and clitoral stimulation or just through dry sex (rubbing myself against him). This is great, and really gratifying for him, but I really want to take total control of my own orgasm.