First let me say you are an absolute inspiration and thanks for all the knowledge you've shared with us all on this site.
I often work in situations where I live and work with a small group of people and develop crushes on people just because we spend so much time together. Right now I have strong feelings for a guy I work with but I know we wouldn't be good for each other in a relationship. It would be weird if we hooked up because we have to spend so much time together in this small work group. I don't like his personality but I can't stop thinking about his body! It's just a physical attraction, not mental or emotional. Things would get messy if anything happened between us... but I can't stop thinking about him! What would you do in this situation?
After watching the group orgasm vid I am wondering where I can learn more about the ritual that is ancient. The prehistory of woman and the god of sexual health and abundance.
Where and when did they go to church to have sex?
One of our subscribers wanted to hear my thoughts in a post on our site about Anthony Weiner. Part of me dislikes giving something as foolish as this more space or air time, but here's my response:
It's pathetic how sex starved America is that something as mindless as sending a photo of your dick inside your underwear becomes a national issue because it belongs to a fuckless senator! And to imagine there were some news sources that actually pixelated the image for fear someone might figure out the already indistinct shape was. . . OMG! It's a penis!
Dear Dr Betty,
Two years ago when I was 21, I had intercourse for the first time with a boyfriend I had been dating for about a month. It was anal intercourse because I was on my period and felt too sore for vaginal penetration. It was also unprotected, without my knowing the extent of his sexual history, while he knew that I was a virgin. The next day he started to ignore me and a few days later he told me he wanted to take a break. When I asked why, he said he just wanted to and gave no further info. I never heard from him and soon after the experience I began to panic about how stupid I was to be so irresponsible by not using protection.
In all my years on planet earth, I have never seen such a disgusting attack on a woman's right to choose how she wants to have her family and enjoy her sex life. It's time for them to stop.
Dear Betty and Carlin,
I so appreciate your viewpoints and opinions. You have reminded me how powerful I can be, as a woman and as a person. I'm in a major transition point in my life: divorce after 10 years of marriage. I know that both of you have been married, and divorced. I am feeling isolated as divorce is such a taboo subject in our society, much the same as sexuality and reproductive freedom. Would you two please share your thoughts on this subject?
All the best.
I was curious, do you think that men like it shaved? My boyfriend just likes me to please him in whatever way and the previous relationships I have had all told me that they like my pussy clean and shaven. Why is it that they like it shaved and should I do the same for my current boyfriend? It's a little embarrassing to let him see me with hair.
I think as women we have to ask why we knock ourselves out to please men? What do you want, shaved or trimmed or a full bush? After all it's you sex organ not his! He's lucky to get to play with it when you're in the mood.
Dear Betty, (Oh,this is exciting=D)
Well, first off I love this site and all your and Carlin's videos. Anyway I'm a 17 year old girl (two months from 18) and you will probably find this message choppy but here it goes! Sex has always intriqued me and since like most I had a mother who never was open about sex, except to tell me how scary it was and to save myself for marriage. I have taken it upon myself to pave my own views and teach myself about it and everything related to it that I can. I am a big mastubator.. I find it's not something to be embarrassed about as it's natural and probably the first sexual thing you will ever do and I see myself as a sexual person.
Thousands of years before the time of Christ, the cannabis hemp plant was Earth's largest agricultural crop that produced the majority of fiber, fabric, lighting oil, paper, incense and medicines. Hemp was also the primary source of essential food, oil and protein for humans and animals.
From 1776 until 1937, hemp was a major American crop that supplied textiles, paper and medicines. This hardy plant grows 6 to 8 feet tall in one season and sends oxygen into our atmosphere. Using hemp could slow down deforestation that also provides our atmosphere with oxygen along with all the other material goods. So we might wonder why America would declare war on such a beneficial plant.
I know that this might sound REALLY strange but, here goes! I am a 18 year old girl from England. I am, shall we say, of a bigger size and i dont really feel comfortable getting intimate with a guy. I masturbate, so i know that i can get pleasure from sex and foreplay. I am a size 18 which i think contributes to the problem, but i am well proportioned. I've had a few boyfriends, but there has always been a problem with intimacy. Please help me with this because it is really damaging my sex/love life.
Nicole Rodgers discusses how women's economic parity is affecting gender roles and modern marriage:
"The generation coming of age today grew up with the belief that women can do everything men can do. More men than ever before are taking on the primary caregiver role and, in almost one quarter of marriages, the woman makes more money than the man. After years of the fight for equality, true collegiality and partnership between genders appears closer than ever before.
Wow that sounds so informal. I absolutely love your advice and I've come to get my own from you. I'm 19 years old and my s.o is 23. We have been together for a year and two months, and have been staying together. Before me he was a virgin aside from masturbation. So our sex life was quite good from the start. But I've notices lately it's getting harder for me to get him to have sex with me.
We used to have sex at least once a day everyday, now it's once every three days. And I'm a real sexual person and he knows that. So can you please tell me how I can get him to want more sex, and not to put a label on it, but I thought guys wanted a lot of sex, especially when they first start out? Any advice from you will help. Thank you.
I'm not really sure how to start this message. What I'm hoping for is some advice on how I can get my thinking straight to be a better boyfriend to my girlfriend. But it'll be a long email.
Hi I saw your videos on youtube a few days ago and have been hooked!
I am learning so much that I had never know about sex and orgasms. I am a 19 year old female and my question/problem is that I am so uncomfortable around guys that I get embarrassed and nervous to even kiss guys. when I am physical with them I get so embarrassed. I have had sex with two partners and had been in monogamous relationships with them. but both have cheated on me. I am currently single and have been wanting more physical relationships without the commitment. I am both scared to commit and scared to be physical with someone I am not committed to. How can I get over this ? and is this normal?
This is less of an 'ask' and more of a 'tell' but here goes.
I am sure you are aware that most women lose most (if not all) libido after menopause. My wife lost it all about 18 years ago, and as she has a strong aversion to HRT in particular and long term medication in general, I have not suggested that she do that. There were and are too many question marks about HRT.
I knew for a year or more that she had lost all interest and enjoyment in the act, and so when she informed me of the situation I had little problem accepting her situation. I had NO intention of forcing my needs on her.