I am nearing 50 and unable to fully orgasm, if I am at all. I have been using a hitachi magic wand which I have to cram into my clitoris in order to feel some kind of build up, which then has some kind of end to it. It is nothing like what other people have described to me. I feel nothing when I use my hand. Never have. I am not comfortable with men going down on me because oddly, it feels too sensitive or just uncomfortable. So is it possible that I simply have a clitoris that feels very little? I'm far more excited by penetration and so I wonder if my nerves are concentrated in my vagina more than in my clit.
And please, WHY is there not a title in your topic section for women like me who have great difficulty or cannot orgasm??? I have been trying for years so "how to orgasm" or "how to enhance your orgasms" do not entice readers who are deeply sad or feel sexually crippled like I do. I'm angry at my body and I'm scared to search for G-spot pleasure because this is my last hope. Can you imagine what this feels like? Thank you.
Dear L, OK I will try to chose a title and pick the best parts of HOW TO ORGASM For all my CRIPPLED readers. How many time and ways can I say the same thing over and over again? This will take some special effort on my part, but I'll try to pull out the best I've offered so far.
But first, I can tell you that your anger toward your body makes you a terrible lover for you! Instead of "cramming the vibrator into your delicate clitoris" STOP!
You simply cannot be that angry with your body and expect it to give you any pleasure.
You have to first do some mirror work. Look into a full length mirror and find one thing about your body you like or vaguely approve of. Any thing at all that you can appreciate. I suggest you use candle light or soft electric lights. Not the harsh glaring lights in department store dressing rooms with those awful from all sides mirrors.
Every day do your mirror exercise to overcome a good part of your anger toward your body. Poor body! You've been beating it up wondering why it won't give you any pleasure. Just one thing you like. Appreciate it and say "Gratitude" for it.
Get a professional massage
Do a spa day
Go for a walk
Smoke a joint
Listen to your favorite music
Learn to love your body