What is a Good Age to Teach Kids About Sex?

Tue, 11/22/2016 - 08:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am brand new to this amazing resource and have spent all day combing through posts and podcast videos and I really appreciate what a wonderful set of educational tools you and Carlin have provided here.

I have a 5 year old daughter and I'm wondering how I can incorporate sex education into her development in a healthy way and at what age it's appropriate?

She is a VERY active pillow humper and my pediatrician advised us to encourage her to only do it at home and preferably in her bedroom. My husband and I both don't want her to feel like exploring her body is a negative thing so we've never get angry with her when she's on the couch with a pillow enjoying herself with an episode of Scooby Doo or whatever and we just remind her that what she is doing should be a private thing and encourage her to go to her room, although often times it just happens while we're taking care of dinner or whatever and we don't make a big deal about it.

As she gets older, I would love to be able to coach her to explore her body and really own her sexuality so that she's not stuck being dependent on someone else for pleasure when she gets older, but how do I incorporate that into her life at the right time?


Dear H, How nice to hear from sexually enlightened parents. My best advice is to simply be available for answering questions when they come up. Due to our sex negative society that is drenched in commercial porn, most kids do NOT want to discuss anything sexual with a parent. She already has a great start with you not interfering with her natural sexual exploration via masturbation.

Just continue to enjoy your own orgasms and your positive vibes will suffice. It's also a good idea to have some good books about sex in your house. Let her find them on her own when she's interested. You're doing great!

Dr. Betty

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