I Feel Nothing in My Clit & Vag

Tue, 09/06/2016 - 06:48
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I hit puberty when I was only 9 and started feeling really sexual at about 13. I would try rubbing my clit,fingering, the "come here" motion and nothing worked. Not only did I not feel pleasure, but I barely felt anything at all. Especially in my clit. I was so disappointed and frustrated about not feeling anything that I threw away my virginity to see if it was different. It wasn't. I felt absolutely nothing. Not even pain. The boy was only 13 and it was his first time too, but he really tried. He tried sucking on my clit and rubbing it during penetration. Didn't feel it. I took a break from sex after hating it so much and tried to stick to masturbation.

I'm 18 now, and still nothing. I've tried dildos, vibrators, shower heads,and even electric toothbrushes. I still feel nothing. My boyfriend knows about this and I really wish I didn't tell him. He'll spend 30 minutes to an hour trying to give me oral and I still feel nothing. He even bit my clit once for a reaction and I barely felt it, yet it hurts when he bites my nipples, which also feel very little. I started birth control when I was 14 due to unbearable periods, but I don't think that's the problem since I had it a year before then. I'm so desperate and frustrated, especially since this generation of women is all about expressing their sexualities.

One of my best friends is really big and open on the topic and she's always talking about how amazing it feels with guys of every size.I want that so bad. Is there anything I can do?

Dear K,

You need to go inside the website and begin to read the information posted. There is no magic formula I can give you except to continue exploring your vulva focusing on your clitoris with fingers covered in an organic massage oil. Be sure to do a vulva viewing following my basic steps. I just posted a recent article for "Women Still Searching for Their First Orgasm." Read it more than once and then read it again.

There is no special vibrator nor anything I can tell you except KEEP AN OPEN MIND while you are masturbating. NO EXPECTATIONS of what an orgasm should feel like. And continue practicing with yourself. Adding some kind of a personal hot sexy fantasy will keep you focused and distract you from your romantic expectations or pornographic notions about what an orgasm will be like. You must continue to learn about your sexual body and the info is there for the taking on our website.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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