Will Masturbating Face Down Ruin Partner Sex?

Mon, 08/15/2016 - 07:12
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Betty,

I'm 18 years old and have been masturbating and able to reach orgasm since a really young age. I've always been and continue to be a very sexual person. I masturbate regularly, sometimes more than once. I'm a virgin but i've had phone sex with guys before. However, i'm always masturbating on my face, humping my bed, couch, walls, pillows, shower etc. sometimes i reach my hand and spread my lips and i'm able to orgasm every time. Lately, i've been trying to masturbate lying on my back and touching my clit, even inserting a finger in but I don't find it as pleasurable as being face down.

I've only managed to orgasm about 2 times this way and after a lot of time and effort. I decided i need to try and learn how to masturbate the correct way so it can translate to partner sex later on in my life. Would this really cause me problems with sex if i keep masturbating face down? And it is too late to change it? Thank you in advance! I love your website and what you're doing since not many people are open about sex, especially female masturbation.

C

Dear C,

Like learning any new skill, it simply takes time, patience and lots of practice. Go inside the website and read "How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Skills. The left hand column states all of our topics. You're smart to deal with this now. If you read inside the site, you'll hear many stories of girls with the same issue. Most of us start out "humping" but once we discover direct contact with our fingers, it starts to get much more pleasurable. Enjoy!

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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I'm the same way, I come best

Wed, 08/24/2016 - 07:41
Elise1 (not verified)

I'm the same way, I come best from sitting up and grinding my clit against something. After 10 years of masturbating and five of having sex I still have much much better orgasms this way. You can certainly try to broaded how you come with practice but its perfectly fine to come this way and you can incorporate it into partnered sex, it just requires that you be on top. 
With a man, sit on top of him with his penis in your vagina and grind away. Every man I've slept with has enjoyed it. I imagie it isn't much different with a female partner. 

My clitoris

Thu, 09/15/2016 - 15:23

I am VERY horny most of the time.  I rub my clit to orgasm many times a day, and my boyfriend sucks my clit to orgasm once or twice a day.  It takes me 30-60 mins for me to orgasm (with only clitoral stimulation).  I wonder if all of this attention to my clit will actually make the clit grow bigger over time.  Also, can my clit be harmed by licking, rubbing and sucking it so much?

An ex, once she felt

Sat, 01/14/2017 - 22:27
ceb20816 (not verified)

An ex, once she felt comfortable in our relationship, told me she wanted to show me how she had masturbated from the time she was a little girl. On her stomach, with her hand between her legs and a finger on her clit. As she was showing me she asked (begged?) me to get on top of her and replace her hand with mine. With the thunderous orgasm that followed she felt very proud of having turned masturbation into partner sex. It didn't seem to matter how many orgasms I gave her, she frequently wanted one more in her original little girl style. It was sexy as hell, both for the show that it was and for her being willing to be the vulnerable little girl again.
Incorporate your masturbation style into partner sex, even if it's only putting on a show for him. We all have a little exhibitionist in us, and good sex should be shared.

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