Dear Dr. Betty,
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years now. In past relationships I have performed oral sex with success. I love to do it because of the reaction I get while doing it. It turns me on more. With my boyfriend, I have attempted oral sex on him, but he says each time, "I can't feel that". It frustrates me because I know i know what I'm doing, and am trying really hard not to take it personally.
I asked alot of questions trying to figure out why we have this problem. I asked him about any possible past medical procedures he may have had that would cause him not to be able to feel what he obviously should. He made me aware that he experienced kidney stones in the past involving his penis. I asked him to speak to his doctor to see if its possible that his history is the cause.
What do you think? I really, really, really want to be able to do this with him. Can you help?!!! I'm damn near desperate for answers!!
I suggest you figure out why blowing him is so important to you. If it's just a matter of being "in control" getting on top and running the fuck while you do your own clitoris is also being in control and getting what you want at the same time.
However, if you want to explore more blow job techniques, first thing I'd do would be to have him show me how he masturbates. Or have him jerk himself off while you tongue the tip of his cock. Another technique that might work is to do anal penetration while sucking him off (IF he will allow it). Most guys resist this yet they are more than willing to dive into our little butty holes. Finger nails short, lots of lube and plenty of sweet talk might get him to surrender. Just remember to have fun.