I LOVE your YouTube videos!
I'm 47 years old and you answer all the questions no one else ever did - thank you! My question is this, as I get older I much, much prefer to be "selfsexual" - meaning I no longer want or feel I need a partner. I don't consider it just masturbation however as I feel it is my "sexual-preference" to NOT be with another person. In fact, truthfully, I never enjoyed having a partner. I am realizing I was probably always selfsexual. I would love to get your opinion and insight on this.
Is being selfsexual a legitimate and "okay" way to be?
Great question. I'd say YES, being self-sexual is a legitimate choice. Many people could do with a conscious period of focusing sexually on oneself exclusively. For me, some of those periods were work related and others were simply to heal after a love affair ended badly.
Recently I went through a phase of contemplating, "To fuck or not to fuck" was my question. Since I am in the second half of my eighties, partner sex seems like too much effort. Especially since my private practice of teaching women about orgasms is as intimate as any date I've ever had. Plus group masturbation during Bodysex workshops several times a year.That's a lot of action for an octogenarian.
Yes, I believe there are folks who prefer to be self-sexual over dealing with the complexities of another person. And there are many people who simply don't have a choice, so self-sexuality saves their day. That said, if some special person showed up and the vibes were Great, knowing me, I'd most likely go for it again. Maybe. Meanwhile I do enjoy the sex I'm having with myself and all those dirty fantasies I've collected over the years.
Happy O's on our terms,