Is My Vagina Too Small?

Wed, 01/13/2016 - 11:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm 22 and don't have a boyfriend. I've had sex with 7 people, each a few times (so I'm not very experienced). With the first, sex was great and felt good the whole time. He couldn't orgasm (that's a whole other issue) so we would have sex for hours on end. My first time with him didn't hurt at all, and neither did the times after. He was pretty average sized. After that, sex was sometimes painful, even with guys who were smaller than he was (I'm guessing that was an issue with lubrication though). However, sometimes I can tell that a man's penis will hit my cervix during sex. This happened very obviously when I was with a man who was larger than average - we couldn't even have sex properly.

We tried several times, but it became more painful each time. Since then it's just been when I'm in certain positions. The last man I was with I noticed it when we tried to have sex standing, and I think I was bent over with my hands on the bed. I had to stop him because it hurt. We didn't use any outside lubrication other than spit, so I feel like if I was aroused enough to produce enough lubrication, arousal probably wasn't the issue, but I really have no idea.

I would like to find a way to stop it from hurting though! I want to experiment with different positions, and I don't want sex to be painful! What is going on? Is there a way to fix it?

Dear S,

Women must learn to take control of partnersex and "Run the Fuck" is how we said it back in the seventies. The moment something is painful STOP! Always use some form of additional lube. Saliva is too thin and dries out quickly. Any time a guy penetrates from behind when you are bent over means he has full access to going in up to the hilt! Never use rear entry position unless you are with a lover you know and trust. Experimenting with positions is fine BUT not with a one night stand or some dude you don't know very well.

You must honor you magnificent vulva and guard her well. Slow down. Be more selective. Spend some time learning more about a boy before you jump into bed. And don't forget to continue to practice masturbation by adding vaginal penetration along with your clitoral stimulation after you have given yourself a vulva massage using some organic massage oil. Communicate! Talk before you "put out" to determine whether or not he deserves you. Run the Fuck!

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Hitting Her Cervix

Tue, 01/19/2016 - 01:46

I found this very interesting.  As per a post to Dr Betty previously, after a lengthy 'career' in clitoris loving, I ended up with a partner who I described in a book as "the best fuck in the Southern Hemisphere" - multi-orgasmic doesn't do her justice.  I could hit her cervix in some positions quite easily, and when I did she went right off the planet, almost instant orgasm (when we first met she told me she had no contraception, but I felt the tail of her IUD so I knew she was lying, why I don't know; she was peri-menstrual, and I also knew when her IUD was taken out).

This is the first time I have heard that hitting a woman's cervix can be painful. Is this general? This question isn't frivolous, she had diagnosed narcissism and I am now wondering if this "hitting the cervix for pleasure" was pathological, and related to SPD more than NPD (terms are explained on wiki, look up 'personality disorder'); I know one psychiatrist had said she was on the spectrum between the two.


Hitting her Cervis

Fri, 01/22/2016 - 02:16

Hi, it never occurd to me to worry much about penis size, if anything I worried that I might not be big enough (maybe that's why I got so good at oral sex, I don't know). Bur after we had only known each other for day or so Edith said (inter alia) "size matters, if any woman tells you otherwise, she's lying". So of course I said "how am I?" and she said, "you'll do, you can hit the right spots when I want".  That of course led me me to measure myself, but I didn't think it was important. It was a recent post about "hitting the cervix" that made me wonder. I think I've said enough on this site to assure anyone that I love giving oral sex. With my ex-partner Edith we would do oral sex for a rather long time, and it usually culminated with penetrative sex, but not always. especially from her rear if she wanted a vaginal orgasm. I would hit her cervix, and despite the fact she might have said "no more, I can't take any more" when I went into her, if I hit her cervix she would orgasm almost immediately.

So, what's it all mean? I dunno, I am anti-DV and I want to talk to school children (not kids, they're baby goats) about how they need to respect people, especially women.  Obviously I can't talk about the joys of oral sex, but maybe I can be an influence in the direction of understanding that sex is good, and it has a lot to reward parties that share it. But the main message is "Respect".



Hey S. My husband is a lil

Fri, 01/06/2017 - 06:37
Nlburgess (not verified)

Hey S.
My husband is a lil bigger than average. We've been together since 1998. I can tell you that my stuff is tight as hell. I have done cooch exercises since I was little,  since before I knew what they were. If you think about it,  you naturally do them. I have always liked the way they felt and it's a way to hold your bladder in. (Squeeze tight) lol. There is no such thing as too tight. You'll appreciate it if your still that way close to 40. Use Grape seed oil. It can be used as a lub and a massage oil.