Is It Too Late for Me to Orgasm?

Sat, 01/02/2016 - 10:01
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm 64 years old and just found this site last night. Where were you 30 years ago?

I had a radical hysterectomy when I was 50. Before then I was never able to orgasm in my 30 years of marriage. I did find myself waking up at night with a clitoral orgasm which was great but I never figured out how I got there. I now am in a relationship with a very loving man and feel there may be hope.

My question is, is it too late. I noticed after my hysterectomy that my night time orgasms slowly left. I don't have them any more. My lover really arouses me and I am wondering what I can do to help myself become more responsive.

Thanks for your help.,

Dear R,

As long as you are breathing there is always hope. At 64, I would suggest you get my book Orgasms for Two (Amazon) and the Eroscillator vibrator or the Magic Wand rechargeable. If your new lover is really "loving" then he won't care how you get your orgasms. Share the book with him too.

All of our orgasms are "clitoral" so you were stimulating yours in your sleep. That was quite sneaky but effective, yes? So now you can consciously get your clitoris involved and share your orgasms with your new lover for a Happy New Year.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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No it's not too late

Sat, 01/02/2016 - 13:18
Lady in Devon (not verified)

Hello R
I finally orgasmed at the age of 62 after 40 years of non orgasmiic marriage. I have a new lover and he just wanted to please me and encoured me to see a sex therapist. This therapist was a fan of Betty and thus I learned how to pleasure myself and taught him how to pleasue me. 
I have a tiny tiny clit and the poor thing had been ignored all of my life. But with the help of mirror and light I found it and have never looked back!!
Good luck with future orgasms  C

Never too late!

Mon, 01/04/2016 - 02:53

I started enjoying orgasms only at age 65 after discovering Dr. Betty's instructive website. I bought a Magic Wand and started practicing. This took quite some time and was not blessed with fast success. Dr. Betty suggested to keep practicing, being patient and relaxed about my expectations and to be grateful for experiencing orgasms at all at my age even just small ones!
My problem with the Magic Wand was that over time - I'm 67 now - it seemed to become harder and take a very long time to reach orgasm if at all. I had expected that extended practice would make it easier! Knowing that you should never use undue pressure with the Magic Wand on your clit I used it mainly all over my vulva but always reached a point where I had to press quite hard to feel rising pleasure....which sometimes finally resulted in an orgasm but more often just in frustration and a numb vulva!
And then I purchased a womanizer (originally German sex toy) and really, really like it! It took some time to get used to but never, ever leaves your clit numb the least bit! It's quieter and lighter than the Magic Wand and can be recharged with USB connection. It does not touch your clit directly thus never resulting in numbness, not even after an hour. By now I can often reach an orgasm after about 20 to 30 minutes (not much in my case): Some vulva massage with nice oil, my favorite phantasies or light porn, then holding the womanizer to my clit with one hand while stroking my body, especially breasts and nipples with the other ..... and voila!
This toy is rather expensive but totally worth it .... and even works for someone like me who discovered pleasurable masturbation sooo late in life!!
There is a new, slightly improved version of the same toy in the German market called the womanizer pro - probably available in this country quite soon as well. I also heard that other companies are 'jumping on the bandwagon' producing cheaper toys with similar technique.
Anybody out there who has experience with this toy as well? Let me know what you experienced!

Thank you!

Tue, 02/23/2016 - 11:28
phoenix rising

I most definitely will try the Womanizer. Thx for the tip!