I am an 18 year old student and I have been experiencing pain during penetration for the past 7 months or so. I have not made any major lifestyle or medical changes. If anything, I have been healthier as I have cut down on sugar and exercise frequently.
I use lots of organic oil during sex so I dont think lubrication is an issue. I have been on the pill for 3 years due to horrendously painful period cramps, and I am almost positive that this is lowering my sex drive. I do masturbate regularly, but far less often than before the pill. And without lube I am completely dry and have little sensation.
My boyfriend is very kind and understanding, and we do mostly manual sex, but I still like to try penetration to see if it is getting any better. It never is. I am extremely frustrated about this because I really used to enjoy penetrative sex, and I don't know why it doesn't feel good anymore. Is it because of the pill?
I want to go off of it and have considered an IUD but IUDs scare me and I am not in a place in my life to get pregnant right now. If the pill is the problem, is there any other birth control I can use that is effective and doesn't cause pain during penetration/dryness/low sex drive? And if the pill isn't the problem, then what is? I have tried to ask my doctor if I should go off the pill but she thought it was a horrible idea (ridiculous big pharma industry....). Thank you for reading this, any reply is very appreciated.
Yes, the pill has been reported to decrease a woman's sexual desire but as to causing pain, I'm not sure that's the problem. It might be the lube you are using like Astro Glide or KY jelly that irritates the vaginal canal. If you must use a water based lube with condoms for BC, I've been told that Liguid Silk is the best.
Be sure to read the ingredients in any product that goes inside your body. For many, many years I've been using 100% pure Almond oil with no adverse affects. Many women enjoy coconut oil or olive oil. Any pure nut oil is likely to be safe unless you have an allergic reaction to nuts.
From all I can tell, the IUD with a touch of hormones to reduce heavy periods is far better than the pill. Of course my preference was always the diaphragm. There is a new one on the market that claims "One size fits all." It called the Caya with very clear instructions for use. The main reason diaphragms fail is forgetting to put it in before sex and checking to see if it's in place.
I just finished reading a book Slippery When Wet by JE Ellington a reproductive physiologist who suffered with pain after vaginal penetration.She ended up inventing Pre-Seed, a balanced lube especially for couples wanting to procreate. However, the pure ingredients make it desirable especially for any woman who struggles with pain after intercourse. Let me know what worked so I can share your success story with other girls and women.