I Want to Introduce Anal into the Bedroom

Wed, 11/11/2015 - 11:19
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty-

I'm 46 and have been with my husband since I'm 16. Yes 30 years!!!! I have to admit that the bedroom became very boring the last couple of years. I think a multitude of things- more on my part. Probably all on my part. I almost felt like sex was a job. I must add to this twist- I HAVE NEVER MASTURBATED!!!!!! Well maybe twice I touched when I was like 12. Ok get back on your chair. I bet you don't hear that often. So I decided to look within myself and say I'm young and attractive (normal) I do not get dressed up to go to the mailbox- My husband truly loves me and I figured WTF am I doing. I have issues with dryness and PH issues in the flower area. But I decided to just give it an uninhibited whirl.

Well I am proud to say- I HAVE A SEX DRIVE!!!!!!! I had sex on Thursday night that was amazing and then 3 times on Friday bought a wevibe on Saturday had some laughs with that. Now the scary thing is that I internally feel horrible for my husband- I had the most amazing orgasm- me on top leaning back him stimulating my clitoris. Holy Crap- If that is what an orgasm is- That was my first one. I feel bad- I mean I always get wet but not the body shaking and bring me to the mattress kind of thing. But it was addicting- It felt so good- I wanted to do it again- It was so good- My poor husband I was grinding and I just have never experienced anything like that- This was minus the wevibe too. So I think my clitoris woke up. Could it have been asleep for so long- I have small and large fiber neuropathy and kind of always blamed things on that.

I actually had mad passionate sex for 3 hours on Saturday night. I'm telling you my husband is in heaven at this point. My question is I want to introduce that dirty word "anal" into the bedroom- I did order some things online. Thank you for the videos because I actually really watched the anal ones- That was an item I bought. And I know my husband has always wanted to do anal but I was always hesitant. But I'm open to it now.

I have read all these things on the internet and some of them sound so crazy. So I want to know if I start with the "butt plugs" is that a starting point? I almost think I need to make an appointment and come in to see you.

Thank you for having a very truthful and informative website.

E

Dear E,

Yes, women going most of a lifetime without ever masturbating is more common than we think! So happy to hear your clitoris had an awakening

Congratulations!

Now, as for anal, I'd suggest having a few orgasms with hubby's finger penetrating your butty hole first. Lots of lube, going VERY slow and all this is after you're sufficiently turned on with clitoral stimulation. Butt plugs can be fun, but lots of lubrication, trusting your hubby will stop when you say stop so you can focus on breathing and letting the muscles relax before continuing is important.

All the while continued clit stim is taking place. Might be best if you take charge of your own clitoral stimulation so he can focus on what he's doing. This is where good communication comes in. Be sure to tell him what you are feeling and for him to go slow and hear what you're saying no matter how exciting it is. I repeat, lots of lube, smooth finger nails and manicured hands. It's also a good idea for you to anally penetrate him at some point. This helps men to better understand all that's involved. Having a sense of humor also helps. Most important is to enjoy what's happening and to stop when it no longer feels good. AND if anal turns out to not be your thing, just move along to other forms of sexplay.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Tristan Taormino

Wed, 11/11/2015 - 13:44

E,
For detailed instructions, Tristan Taormino has excellent written and video material on anal sex.  Very informative.  I'm so happy for you.  And envious!

Butt da Butt!

Wed, 11/11/2015 - 13:50
Buttmore Jackson (not verified)

Betty D. my gurl loves her ass played with when we got together she had never had her booty loved ike that so I was having her for lunch one day and while i was eating her out I slid my index finger in her ass! she responded very well and now thats all she wants with her kitty lickin especially! My question is how can i get her to cum from it? or is there a combo I need to learn thanks!

If I can give you advice,

Tue, 11/24/2015 - 00:05
SS. Jy (not verified)

If I can give you advice, before starting anal penetration, use an <a  Href="https://sextoy-online.com/shop-by-categories/anal-toys/anal-trainer-kits.html">anal trainer kit</a>.

This will help you in your relationship. 

 

 

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