Hi Dr. Betty,
I'm 17 years old and really want to become sexually active. However I am worried that I am not 100% normal down there/ if there is something wrong with my vagina because to me it doesn't seem completely right; so I'm worried about having sex. I'm also worried about the pain of the first time.
I don't really know what to do and I am too embarrassed to talk to anybody about it. Do you have any advice?
You and a gazillion other teens have been thrown into society without any sex information or coping skills. Naturally you think something is wrong with your sex organ with no idea of how orgasm feels. You are a sexual zero and it's not your fault. Parents rarely can deal with the subject and we know most religions control us with sexual repression.
It's time for you to begin learning about your own sexuality. This starts with guilt free masturbation where you explore your body alone privately.
The information you need is inside our website so access it and start learning. There are drawings and photos of vulvas to show that you are "normal" and how to begin learning what feels good for you when you touch your sex organ after discovering all the different parts. D&R is your home study course in female sexuality. After you have learned how to give yourself an orgasm then you can consider the next step. Until that happens, continue having a love affair with yourself. Now start reading and learning. It's fun and exciting and we all know that knowledge is power.