We'll Need Clear Minds for the Next Wave of Sexual Liberation

Fri, 08/28/2015 - 09:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I decided to post this email exchange with one of our bloggers, Bila. Everyone knows my feelings about antidepressants and I'm sickened by the FDA's approval of flibanserin. Here's our conversation on the topic:

Bila: I cringed when I read the news that the FDA recently approved the first prescription drug to boost sexual desire in women, especially concocted for those who report emotional stress due to a lack of libido. Addyi, Big Pharma’s Viagra-esque gift to women, had been rejected in 2010 and 2013 due to its harmful side effects including nausea, drowsiness, dizziness, fainting, and dangerous lowering of blood pressure, as well as lackluster effectiveness. During clinical trials, 14 per cent of participants dropped out due to adverse side-effects.

And that’s not the worst of it. Unlike Viagra which is a ‘pop a pill an hour before you need a hardon’, Addyi requires women to take the drug weeks and months before seeing any effects. Addyi is meant to activate sexual impulses in the brain. It is similar to a class of other drugs known as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, or SSRI's, that include antidepressants such as Prozac. Yuk.

I decided to find out how Sprout Pharmaceutical came up with the name Addyi and my search got nowhere, so, here’s my take:

Addyi is an abbreviation for Addictive yi betta beware.

I’ve never taken Viagra and don’t plan to. I don’t have a problem with my libido because I love myself and happily engage in solo and paired sex. I realize that ‘what the mind can perceive, the body can achieve’ and so my healthy body and vivid imagination trump drugs in terms of facilitating sexual arousal and performance. It grieves me to see how Big Pharma stealthily realizes its tacit mission to drug humanity into an addictive stupor.

Betty: One big reason I'm healthy at the age of 87 is that I refuse to take medications, especially those put out by Big Pharma. Over the years, whenever I have any kind of medical check-up (friends insist) I leave with some prescription that ends up in the trash. My medication is organic food, clean water, and happy orgasms with myself. Marijuana enhances all of the above. Any healing that ever takes place is plant based, not some scary chemical.

Oh yes, I should also mention that the missing element in so many women's lives is masturbating with a quality vibrator on a regular basis. The latest Magic Wand is now cordless and keeps a charge for a long time with several settings. I'm loving number four. Women must stop wallowing in romantic notions about being "given" an orgasm by some mythical lover. I'm teaching them how to go and get an orgasm whenever they please by combining vaginal penetration with clitoral simulation at the same time while using organic almond oil.

The universal sex problem for women is continuing to use the male model of sexual response that works for guys but not for gals. Unless my clitoris is actively engaged during penetration, men are just masturbating inside my vagina. It's not such a big mystery but PR is a powerful tool that keeps people missinformed.

Big Pharma is intent upon controlling us by drugging people into submission. A pliant population that follows the rules and doesn't make waves. Buyer beware. We'll need clear minds and a healthy bodies for the next coming wave of sexual liberation.

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Sun, 08/30/2015 - 10:31
lsjb (not verified)

People, women too, need to have choices. Sometimes their choice is not my choice but its not my decision.  If someone has depression,they may delight in the fact that there are meds to take -- even tho they have other side effects.  If my sex drive is flat, and I  don't want it to be, and I know it to be different than it once was -- and a pill might give me one more lovely moment of sexual interest, maybe I'll get that little pill.  Then again, maybe i won't.
But if You do, rock on sistah!


Sun, 08/30/2015 - 11:42

I have some sympathy for Betty's distrust of BigPharma but there are limits.

BigPharma are not intent on drugging people into submission so much as maximising the profits they can pay to their shareholders and to their senior executives. They are not that different to any other big corporates, such as BigBankers, BigAgri etc. Take away the profits or insist that their products work well for real problems and the problems with BigPharma disappear.

The real surprise here is that the American body supposed to regulate the industry, to make sure it acts in the people's interest, work to make the people healthy and most importantly, do no harm has turned out to be is so very impotent when it comes to little pink pills. You have to wonder how many law suits, over how many years will result from the side-effects. How expensive will it have to get before the judgement will be overturned?

I'm hopeful that Europe and the UK will reject the application, as the FDA did initially. I'd like to believe that without the same finance incentive to prescribe, UK doctors would be less likely to go along with it's roll-out to non-orgasmic women but patient demand is hard to refuse.

All of the women I've know who didn't enjoy sex, didn't enjoy it because it just wasn't that great sex. The sex wasn't great, usually PIV, usually quick male-centric sex and they were usually tired, stressed out by work or family and left wondering what the fuss was about. 

A pink pill isn't going to fix the problem because the problem doesn't lie in a woman's brain so much as society's attitude towards sex and women's sexuality.

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Sun, 08/30/2015 - 21:44
Trevor (not verified)

Dr. Betty, I guess the same might be said for men. If a man finally relaxes with himself, becomed friends with his own genitalia, and allows himself to masturbate regularly, he will find he does not need the aid of a drug when opportunity knocks.  So much research by now has taught us that regularity, several times a week at least, strengthens sexual function and sexual desire overall. So many men such as myself have tried this and benefit from this realization every day.

I feel like viagra and such drugs may ensure an erection but masturbation ensures a lifestyle and a desire.


Hooray, we got the pill, nothing else matters!

Thu, 09/03/2015 - 10:05
bila kolbe

The cause-effect dynamics influencing any physical, emotional, or sexual dysfunction are truly complex and defy simple resolutions. Nevertheless, while Eastern approaches to many disorders focus on cause, our Western means often flutter around the effects, i.e., 'take the pill, you'll feel better.' Yes NLH, marketing drugs is meant  to generate profits, big profits; however, to get there Big Pharma first needs submissive consumers willing to bypass their body wisdom, willing to forgo deepening and expanding their self-knowledge and the cause(s) behind their condition, and consenting to suffering complicating deleterious side-effects. The end result is a drugged populus equating the med with the cure, drugged into submission, drugged into addiction. Big Pharma watches the profits soar. Their next market is enticing the obese populace with a drug now that scientists have discovered the gene linked to obesity. We can again submit to Big Pharma; mothball willpower, diet, and exercise; and stoically maintain our penchant for fast food, sedentary lifestyles, and over-dependence on cars. Hooray, we got the pill, nothing else matters!

I Worked in Big Pharma....

Fri, 09/04/2015 - 22:15

And male sexual enhancement drug was one of them......these drugs are ultimately dangerous!! Side effects are alarming, I read the Clin Trials too! And personally, I think what they do is unnatural, they are abused terribly.

Big Pharma is not about helping people thru drugs...it's about putting Big Bucks into corporate pockets! I know!

Antidepressants Can Save Lives

Sat, 09/19/2015 - 12:34
Anne O. Nymous (not verified)

Yes, I agree that many Americans are on a lot of medicines for invented ailments, and that corporations are duty-bound protect their bottom line, often to the detriment of their customers.

At the same time, though, it's really difficult to celebrate our sexuality and enjoy sexual activity, whether solo or partnered, if we are dead.

Clinical depression is not the psychic equivalent of a stubbed toe. I'm 54, and I've fought against depression since about the age of 3; no exaggeration. I'm bright, personable, educated, AND I have a version of a brain chemistry ailment that often interferes in my daily life, even with a variety of treatments in play, and that periodically proposes self-destruction as a remedy.

People's depressions and reactions to interventions will differ. Whether the intervention is non-allopathic (diet, physical exercise, meditation and/or other spiritual practices, talk therapy, herbal therapies, writing, and anything else that people do, alone and/or in combination) and/or allopathic (antidepressants and other medicines) even the same person will respond differently at different periods of time. What once worked can suddenly stop.

Ms. Dodson, I'm glad you do not know the depths to which depression can drive the psyche. I would not wish that torture on anyone. Or maybe you DO know, and found something that worked so well for you that you have never had to revisit that hell. It is my sincere hope that you never have to find out if it will work again.

There are many methods of coping with brain chemistry problems, and I hope that anyone who is suffering stays alive long enough to educate themselves on the many alternatives and is stubborn enough to keep searching for what works for them.

If I've misinterpreted your comment about antidepressants, please accept my apologies.


Each human being is a unique universe

Sun, 09/27/2015 - 20:24
bila kolbe

Greetings Anne, I co-authored this blog with Betty and I am truly appreciative of the eloquent and diverse comments that have been posted in response. You opened up another perspective on the issue where allopathic remedies can provide effective treatment for people who suffer from serious chronic maladies such as depression attributed to brain chemistry issues. You also aptly stated that "Americans are on a lot of medicines for invented ailments, and that corporations are duty-bound to protect their bottom line, often to the detriment of their customers." I don't believe Betty and I advocated for a 'one size fits all' assessment of Big Pharma's curative-financial endeavors. We recognize that each human being is a universe of physical, mental, and spiritual uniqueness. This is why I opened my comment above with "The cause-effect dynamics influencing any physical, emotional, or sexual dysfunction are truly complex and defy simple resolutions." I concur with you in hoping that "that anyone who is suffering stays alive long enough to educate themselves on the many alternatives and is stubborn enough to keep searching for what works for them." I feel fortunate and take time every day to give thanks to God, to life, to love that I was given the means to educate myself about the wonderful generative potentials of our sexuality without having to sign a binding contract with Big Pharma and suffer the pangs often hidden in the fine print. Bila