Kids Keep Getting Fed Incomplete & Incorrect Information About Sex

Tue, 06/09/2015 - 07:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

First of all I'd love to thank you for setting up this amazing website and posting all those clips on YouTube with Carlin (I watch them every week!). I think it's wonderful how you're making all of this information available for the whole world. This brings me to my second point.

I just got my Bachelor's degree a few months ago and over the last year I realized how incredibly uninformed my peers are when it comes to sexuality. They claim they have done everything imaginable, but they still have misconceptions about things like the hymen (it is a widely accepted belief here that the hymen is some kind of foil that needs to be broken with a lot of force) and the female G-spot (they seem to agree it's some magic spot in the perineum). Quite recently I played a game of "Never have I ever" with about twenty fellow students (mostly female) and then I found out that I was the only girl who didn't experience any pain during the first time penetration, but I was also the only one who ever had multiple orgasms.

I'm starting my Master's in September and my goal was to get a job involving sex ed once I graduate. A few days ago I read an article that said that some important education committee wants to change the sex ed in our country, so it will only highlight the risks of having sex. As far as I know that doesn't change anything, because that was in fact all that I learned in sex ed as well (and that the clitoris was supposedly located on the back of the vagina).

The thing is that we're living in 2015, but kids keep getting fed incomplete and incorrect information about sex. I would like to find a way to make sure that the next generations know more about sex than mine, but I don't know where to begin now that this seems to be impossible within our regular education. Do you have any suggestions where I could start?


Hi K,

To think you are complaining about the absence of pleasure in our sex education and you live in the liberal Netherlands. We are way behind here in the USA where organized religions inhibits our every move. I'm not convinced those advanced degrees do us any good except to impress people with how "smart" or well-informed we are supposed. My PhD was bestowed on me as a result of the work I'd already done in the field of female masturbation. They still don't have classes about sexual pleasure and orgasms in any school here or in Europe or Asia.

Get my Sexual Memoir and read about my process in more detail. It's available on Amazon now. After I began running my Bodysex workshops, we all learned about masturbation by doing it and then discussing it. Just imitate what I've done and if at all possible, get certified to run Bodysex workshops or just do them on your own and call them whatever you like. Certification entitles you to use the term Bodysex. For me it all started with feminism's consciousness raising when women sat in a circle sharing our stories using "I" sentences.

Women need all the help they can get NOW, so go for it!

In Sisterhood,
Betty Dodson

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Tue, 06/09/2015 - 10:08

There was a recent article in the Guardian talking about SexEd in Sweden which was eye opening. Imagine having 8 weeks set aside to talk to kids about sex and relationships.

Swedish sex education has time for games and mature debate

Ofcourse, we can all play a role in improving the situation, through our political involvement, our personal choices and behaviours, and the way we raise our kids. Above all, I'm hopeful that thanks to the internet and sites like this one, young people will be more able to find the information and advice that they need.

French Sex Ed

Mon, 08/15/2016 - 11:09

Just came across a good article about sex ed in France in the Guardian, that seems to incorporate a lot of Betty Dodson wisdom:

How a 3D clitoris will help teach French schoolchildren about sex ...