Thank you for your website its great and empowering!
I'm 45 a widowed mum with 3 kids 11..13 and 16.
I have been single for 2 and a half years. I have been putting myself out of my comfort zone and have had amazing orgasmic sex but have not found a constant partner. Well other than a married man. He is beautiful physically and we are sexually on fire.
I have kept dating and sometimes we have a break when I start seeing someone else. He is fully supportive of me in this regard.
I think the trouble is that I'm finding is that I don't want to commit to anyone. When I start seeing a single man he wants me to see only him. I have been called a slut.
I am loving going out on a Friday night and meeting gorgeous young men who devour me and don't want commitment.
I have 5 more years to raise my children and I don't want a non biological dad influencing my kids. Ideally I would like to meet a single man who I can have a great friendship and sex with a few times a week. My divorced friend I have trouble with because he is dishonest with his wife.
Am I making my life more complex than it needs to be? Am I expecting too much? After being in 2 monogamous marriages for over 23 years should it be naturally hard to commit? Do I just keep going and eventually find someone who will allow me freedom and great sex. I think I keep searching. Do you?
I love it when my questioner answers her own question! Yes, "keep searching." Your problem is hoping to find someone who will allow you freedom and great sex. This is where YOU state your pleasure and get what you want. YOU are in charge, not some guy you're dating.
As for your married lover, you are not the morality police in charge of how he lives with his wife. I often preferred married men as I wasn't responsible for their emotional or relationship lives. We simply got together for sex. There's a lot of wives who are relieved not to have to put up having sex with hubby when they get nothing from it, so that sense, you are doing both of them a favor.
Single guys want to own you cause "good pussy" isn't that readily available. I'm sure they don't want you to "own their dicks" so they can continue to screw any and everyone they choose. Next time a guy calls you a "slut" thank him. Tell him it's taken you years to learn to be one. So it's nice to know you've finally arrived.
I'd say after a lifetime of monogamy and commitment, enjoying a variety of lovers is perfect tor now. You know what you want and you deserve to have it so all you have to do now is to have sex on YOUR own terms, which will change over time. It's not easy to embrace an abundance of pleasure but I'd say you're doing just great. Continue to enjoy yourself.