When I Have Sex I Never Achieve Orgasm

Mon, 05/04/2015 - 08:18
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I watched your videos and I've always admired your sexual liberation topics. I'm a 20 year old guy, just lost my virginity a few months ago. when I do have sex, I can never achieve orgasm. I thought it was an attraction issue, so I sort out very good looking escorts and went a long while without masturbating each time to increase the sensitivity. But still, It doesn't happen.

I often find out that during sex, I try as much to go for it and be in the moment but I'm somewhat disinterested tho I maybe really attracted to the girl. Have no problem achieving orgasms through masturbation. Is this asexuality or I just haven't found what sexually turns me on?.

Pls help.

Dear T,

It's somewhat unusual for men to be unable to ejaculate which is assumed to be an orgasm. However, that's not necessarily true. It's definitely NOT asexuality. If you are jacking off to porn on a regular basis, a live girl can turn out to be not as good as a porn star. Also it's not smart to stop masturbating and save it up for a date. Keep the plumping working smoothly..

Another possibility is that you are not getting sufficient stimulation from a vagina bc you're used to the grip you use while masturbating. If that's the case, then get the sex toy called "Fleshlight" that simulates a vagina. Some guys have said it's better than a real thing cause you don't have to take "it" out for dinner first. Finally, you might also be concerned about getting a girl pregnant.

If you're just learning how to use a condom, time and practice will solve that problem. Like I tell all my newbies, it takes time to learn a new skill and fucking while we all think it's so hot, is another art form to learn. So start reading about female sexuality on our website cause your penis thrusting to orgasm inside her pussy is how to make a baby but not how to get a girl off. You have a lot to learn so get busy reading D&R. I predict a lifetime of happy orgasms for you alone and with all the future lovers.

Dr Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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