As I Get Older Concerned About Having the Privacy to Masturbate

Tue, 05/12/2015 - 09:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have been lucky to be a masturbator since I was a young girl. My mother would try and catch me at it and then shame me for doing it. Since I couldn't understand how something that felt so wonderful could be so bad I kept doing it--and learned to be a very good listener while so involved! I am about to turn 60 and I'm STILL masturbating, more than I have in years thanks to bio-identical hormones.

I have 2 friends in their 80s and 90s who have moved into assisted living. They cannot have locks on their doors. I don't know that they are still interested in orgasms but as they're still breathing, I would think they are. It is a concern that has entered my mind lately: I will want to ALWAYS masturbate! But if the time comes I must go into such a place, how does one find privacy to do this activity that I so enjoy? Are we depriving the elderly of this wonderful gift?

C

Dear C,

Yes, most elder care facilities are like the rest of America... really hung up on sex, especially masturbation. Thanks to Christianity, we are still a Puritan Nation. When (if ever) you go to assisted living, I'd challenge anyone who walked in on me while masturbating. What a marvelous opportunity to become a sexual revolutionary in our old age. Privacy is a joke in America with our Government listening in.

I just give them my political agenda and tell them to fuck off! We will NEVER give up our masturbation, never!

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Don't Worry C

Tue, 05/12/2015 - 11:33
LizW (not verified)

C,  

Just to make you feel more at ease, assisted living facility employees know residents masturbate and generally respect their privacy. I have worked in many facilities and it's just a given that the elderly masturbate. The better facilities have a policy of knocking on the door and announcing who you are before entering the room. Masturbate on C. :)
Thanks,

Liz 

Same here

Sun, 01/21/2018 - 17:38
lawesy

I'm now 72 and still masturbating 3-4 times a week (sometimes more, rarely less) My wife and I rarely have sex these days and I'm in the situation where I'm going to have to confront her with the news that I want private time during the day to watch a bit of porn and masturbate. Gee it's a difficult subject to broach with a conservative partner. I've been suffering anguish over the thought for some time. 
It's just not fair that there's (often) such a disparity between male and female libidos as we age