I Get Contractions in My Vagina But No Orgasm

Mon, 03/16/2015 - 09:14
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

This is my deal— since I was young, I have only been able to feel anything in the O realm (and I’m using this term VERY loosely) by rubbing my legs together or rubbing on the floor (all with clothes on) . However, the feeling produced from this is extremely unsatisfying…it only lasts about a second, and I’d give it like a 1/10 on enjoyment scale. It isn’t very though I recognize it's *something*.

I can produce this feeling easily and quickly this way. I have tried to use a vibrator (very very good ones mind you...I have the eroscillator and magic wand, both highly recommended) more times than I care to remember (I'm talking the realm of 100 to 200 times) and every single time the EXACT same thing happens….I reach a point where pleasure orgasm should happen, but instead of pleasure, I get contractions inside my vagina with NO feeling – not even a 1—I am talking a 0. I know the difference. Not even the mildly good feeling like when I rub the floor or rub my legs together.

Nada!

At that point, any further stimulation is annoying, and it’s completely over. I've tried to push through a few times after, but I either get no where or experience the same no sensation "O" which is very upsetting and frustrating. Gosh even a 5/10 O would be great right now...and in a way that can translate to a parneray and doing things with my partner does not work. By the way, I am gay woman. It always seemed like the vibe was my best chance of getting anything more than a 1, but it’s the worst of all.

Also, I never liked using my hands. I feel nothing. I have tried all the supplements creams, gels, reading erotica, using lube, get myself "Ready" etc but why does the vibrator produce no sensation...like a completely pleasureless orgasm?? I don't think "trying" that way any more is gonna fix it. I think 150x is a good effort. Thoughts??

L

Dear L,

The sex quacks are just waiting for desperate women like you to gladly take your money for a worthless procedure. Your situation will rely on your ability to practice consistently without any immediate results. Your floor humping masturbation is a specific type of sensation that you can't easily recreate but with consistent practice you can overcome. But you must proceed with a more positive attitude than what you presented in your question to me. Read my essay "Upgrading Your Masturbation Practice."

Seek and you shall find. Practice and you will succeed. BUT not if you have a defeatist attitude by refining your problems and not appreciating any progress no matter how small.

Dr. Betty

Hi Dr Betty,

I appreciate your reply, though I admit I found it disheartening. I agree that continuing to try with a vibrator has proved more than uneventful -- and frustrating. I guess what I fail to understand is why I am able to have some sensation consistently-- though it is quite mild-- when I hump the floor or cross my legs together, but NOTHING when I use a vibe. Doesn't the former at least show that I have some potential? Possibly I am grasping at straws, but it's a bit hard to give up on this. I learned of something called an O-Shot. Have you heard of this? Might this help me?

Thank you, truly, for your input and candor.

My best,
L

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Sun, 10/30/2016 - 15:41

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