I have been dating a man for two years; for one of those years we have lived together.
Twice, while in the middle of some hot and heavy love making ( dirty hot sex really) he has whispered/asked me some things that have made me uncomfortable.
The first time he asked me how big my tits were when I was 15 and what I looked like while wearing a mini skirt at that age.
The most recent was that he asked me how old I was when I first started masturbating and if I masturbated all the time upon discovering myself. He whispered, "I bet you did. I bet you also wanted to know what it felt like to be f#cked, too."
Fine questions I suppose but not while he was inside of me getting himself off.
It has me rattled.
Does he engage in teen porn?
Does he have pedophilia fetishes?
Is this normal male sexually and I am over reacting?
How do I know?
How do I talk about this with him?
I have a daughter that is 12.
This makes me remember when I first got breasts and much older men would oggle me. I hated it. It made me feel terrible and dirty before my time.
How do I talk about this. Do I need to be concerned?
Your advice is sorely needed.
You talk to him about this just like you explained it to me. It might simply be his style of dirty talk to help keep his dick hard. That's harmless unless, it upsets you for whatever reason. If you want him to stop say so. Tell him his fantasy turns you off. But then it would make sense for you to suggest what you would prefer.
The pedophile label is way overdone and has become another buzz word to scare people. Everyone appreciates the innocence and desirability of youth. So don't blow this into a big deal. Just figure out what you'd rather have him verbalize or tell him shut up and breathe.