Living at Home...Can't Order Sex Toys...How Can I Masturbate?

Wed, 01/28/2015 - 11:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty

I'm not a teen anymore, but I live with my parents. Unfortunately I don't believe they understand I have sexual needs as an adult because they still see me as a kid (because I'm still an University student and I never dated anyone before) so they wouldn't accept the fact that I do masturbate and need sex toys.

Thing is, I'm too shy to go to a sex shop all by myself and I can't order online because of my parents.

What can I possibly do? Thank you so much.

Dear A,

Please do not believe you have to have sex toys in order to masturbate. You have your fingers and hands and a brain to conjure up erotic images. You can surely manage to get some kind of organic nut oil (to moisturize your skin) and massage your vulva. I enjoyed orgasmic masturbation with my hands until I discovered the vibrator at age 36.

Even then, I still used my hands and continue to do vulva massage with my hands today. You have many years ahead to experiment with toys. For now, you fingers will create your orgasms. Besides they don't make any noise.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Ya, bet people who work at

Wed, 01/28/2015 - 19:31

Ya, bet people who work at sex shops have never seen a shy self-conscious customer before. :) Can get a mailbox at Mailboxes Etc if you can't have things delivered at home like. And I've seen 'covert' versions of vibrators that look like other things than what they are and fit in your purse. Might check em out.

Grew up in a anti-sex home myself so figured these things out a long time ago. :)

Fingers as a Adult Toy

Thu, 01/29/2015 - 05:21
Conall Harrison (not verified)

Well, I totally agree with you that Fingers are really one of the god gifted option for getting orgasm without any noise. It's cool, adorable, afforable and trendy too in the market.

Less obvious sex toys

Sat, 10/10/2015 - 21:49
purple orchid (not verified)

 When you are young you might not want to go to a sex toy shop.  Using your fingers to mastubate is fine.  You can also use some things around the house that others wouldn't suspect you are using to masturbate.  You can hump your pillows or stuffed animals.  You can use your hairbrushes.  An electic toothbrush can make a really good vibrator.  You can use a separate attachment for your sexy time.  

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