Did My Vibrator Break My Clit?

Fri, 01/09/2015 - 08:27
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been having some problems with the sensitivity of my clitoris lately and hope you can give me some advice with my situation. I'm 21.

2 or 3 Months ago out of boredom I ordered some sex toys online. After some excessive trying them out and using too much pressure with a new vibrator on my clit and inner walls of my vagina, I noticed I got rather numb around that area after orgasm (nothing too unusual yet for me). But after a few days I felt that my clitoris sensitivity was almost gone.

I waited for it to get better and I'm able to reach orgasm again by rubbing the sides of the gland and around the hood but I feel no real pleasure anymore. It's like the physical reactions are all there : quick heartbeat, heavy breathing, getting wet, muscle contractions (even the after glow afterwards feels nice) but the clitoris gland itself feels almost "numb" or maybe very sensitive to the point a slight touch is almost unbearable and the actual process to reaching climax which before was the best part for me, now feels still "nice" in a way massage feels good, but not like I'm pleasuring the most sensitive spot of my body to the point of losing myself.

Also, my clitoris gland doesn't swell when I get aroused anymore, before it used to get almost twice it's size. The orgasms I reach right now are dissatisfying and just seem to "take the edge off" of my needs. Im worried I broke something in my body or damaged nerves permanently because of this stupid vibrator...

To me this is very frustrating, I never had problems with experiencing pleasure, masturbated since I was little (used lubricant, fingers, vibrators, shower head, never had any problems before :( ) I took it for granted.

Thanks in advance for reading this.

Dear J,

A common misuse of the vibrator is what you said, "using too much pressure with a new vibrator on my clit." The good news is you've learned an important lesson. Do not bear down or stay in one place or demand that your body respond.

Nerves are great because they can repair themselves. Just give your body time to recover. When your clitoris is hypersensitive to the point of going numb, give her a rest. She's on overload from just having an orgasm! It sounds like you are being a bit of a brute with your sweet little clitty.

The part where you worry that "something is broken" or you've "damaged nerves permanently because of a stupid vibrator" is your mind interfering with your orgasms. The rest of your complaints seem to be more psychological than physical. There is such a thing as over observing our sexual responses. Next time you masturbate, focus that overworked brain by having a hot sexual fantasy and trust your body.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Clitoral Orgasm

Sat, 06/06/2015 - 15:39
Vicky M (not verified)

Dear Dr. Betty,
Lately I've been having some trouble when it comes to my clitoral orgasm. It's been almost a month since the last time that I recall having an actual orgasm. I masturbate since 12 or so (I'm 21) and never before had i had such a problem.
During the last week I attempted to reach orgasm 3 times and I wasn't able to climax. Each time I felt like I was almost there, but somehow the feeling I usually had was not there. I still get wet though, and enjoy myself during the proccess, yet the "final" part isn't there. It is really strange to me given the fact that nothing has changed in my daily routine and it's not like I used to masturbate very often to the point that I've "exhausted" my clitoris. I am actually frustrated at this point and I am too shy to talk about it with anyone, especially with my boyfriend who is currently away for his studies. Do you suggest that I abstain from it for a certain period of time, and if so, for how long?
I look forward to hearing from you at your earliest convenience. Thank you in advance for your time.
Sincerely, V. 

Dear V, just read the answer I gave above

Betty Dodson's picture
Mon, 06/08/2015 - 15:34

And if you want more information go inside the website and read whats there. I'm sure you are not too shy to read when no one else is around. Go for it.
Dr. Betty

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