Is It Possible to Get ED From Watching Porn in Moderation During Masturbation?

Mon, 12/01/2014 - 09:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm a 35 year-old man living in Brooklyn, New York. I've constantly been on your site for years now and it's helped me out a lot. I've subscribed to DodsonandRoss on facebook and I recently purchased your book "Orgasms For Two": The Joy of Partner Sex"and I love it. It's difficult to put it down.

Anyway getting to the point, I have a question about masturbation and pornography. I watch pornography sporadically (2-3 times a week) and practice my come control whenever I masturbate to it. I'm able to go on for a long time whenever I masturbate to watching porn. I don't have a girlfriend yet nor a sex partner yet, but my main concern is, if it's possible to get ED from watching porn in moderation while masturbating.

I wouldn't want to be able to get an erection from watching porn but not be able to get it up when I hook up with an actual woman. If watching porn regardless of the amount causes any kind of porn induced ED, then I'll happily give it up. But I'd like to know your thoughts on it beforehand.

With much admiration and respect,

M

Dear M,

I'm so happy to hear from a guy who was smart enough to get my e-book Orgasms for Two. It's been a "best kept secret" for too long. One reason I've come up with is that I'm supporting the use of vibrators during partner sex. Seems too many hold the romantic image of Juliet coming from Romeos cock. I've got nothing against the concept, but for all the girls and women who have orgasms with vibrators, what's wrong if they want to use one during sex with a lover? The vibrator revolution is a fact of life so why not embrace technology?

Now onto your question about porn. The problems occur when a guy uses porn consistently which leads to diminishing pleasure. Like a druggie needing more to feel the affects after long time use. I also believe it's better to just form your own fantasies mentally instead of relying on the cheap canned images of commercial porn. That's why so many turn to "Amateur Porn" as being more real and therefor hotter. Fantasy is at the heart of the creative process so delving into your own mind is far more interesting. You're going to make some lucky woman happy with your inquisitive mind seeking sex information.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Happy to report

Mon, 12/01/2014 - 19:48

That at age 43, and after more than 30 years of happy masturbating to porn, I still laugh (in my head anyway) during ED commercials. Becomming arroused will make becomming arroused easier regardless of the stimuli used like porn. It's blood flow, nothing more complicated than that. If you keep those veins and arteries working and clear as with regular erections, future erections become easier. Whereas if you get arroused less as only during partner-sex, it's conceivable obstructions and gunk building up in unused veins could happen easier.

An erection is caused by your thoughts. If you're worried about getting used to porn, that the real thing doesn't turn you on any more, don't be. More you worry about that sort of thing, the more likely it'll have real power over you. But in a self-fulfilling prophetic way, not anything objectively having to do with what you're doing.

I'm wondering what's going on

Mon, 12/01/2014 - 22:02
lsjb (not verified)

I'm wondering what's going on with being 35 and a virgin. Seems to me that the masturbation and the porn has already put you at risk, or covered up your fear of having sex with a real person.
Please consider stopping this fantasy sex  and find out what else is keeping you from getting real expeience.

I'm not a virgin.

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Tue, 12/02/2014 - 12:42

[= medium]This is in reply to the last comment.  I believe there has been a misundertsanding.  When I wrote to Dr Dodson I didn't tell her that I was a virgin.  I just told her that I don't have a girlfriend or a sex partner at the moment.  But I'm not a virgin.  I lost my virginity at the age of 13, had 3 girlfriends and had sex with 5 women.  [/]
[= medium]    So to answer your question, you don't have to worry what's going on because nothing is going on.  I wrote to Dr. Dodson to ask if watching porn may affect my future experiences.  Have a nice day.[/]

[= medium]M
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A Varied Sexual Diet

Tue, 12/02/2014 - 12:54

Ringo007

There is a very interesting post from Jake E on a similar topic that really struck me.

We all know that to stay healthy we need a varied diet. Maybe to stay healthy and happy with sex, we should aim to have a varied sexual diet and experience.

Like most things, porn can probably have both a good or bad impact upon our lives depending on how we use it. Certainly the impact of porn can seem a bit like fast food - not directly harmful but perhaps also not something you would want to survive on forever.

I don't think you should worry about erectile dysfunction so much as losing out on developing a richer internal fantasy life that you can carry with you in your mind and maybe share with your future partners. Making time for masturbation both with and without porn, now and when you have a new partner may be the real challenge.

Wishing you well.

the edge on masturbation

Wed, 12/03/2014 - 21:53

Greetings M, Sounds like you enjoy edging your orgasms while masturbating, ergo the "come control" you mentioned. Kudos, you're capitalizing on the percs that come with sexual activity, among them a solid production of testosterone that will keep your organ functioning fine whether it be in the arena of masturbating while watching porn or visualizing your own fantasies, or, in any paired sex. Don't worry about ED, you won't get it from watching porn.  I too occasionally dabble in porn and I have a vivid imagination; however, I indulge best when I close my eyes and focus on the sensations of touch, of warmth, of erotic bliss, of sexual energy, of sensual ecstasy in solo and paired activity. I think since you mentioned you watched porn 'in moderation', you'll have ample erections for your fantasies and your future sexual partners.     

Thanks, Bila K

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Thu, 12/04/2014 - 13:56

Hello Bila,

    Thanks for your comment.  It was very imformative and I feel more self-assured that masturbating to porn "IN MODERATION" will not lead to any porn-induced ED.  But just like what you and Dr. Betty stated about using fantasy and imagination...  What I like to do best is think of past sexual experiences that I've had in my life and add some of my imagination to it that end up becoming these erotic scenarios all the while practicing my come control.  I learned that fromDr. Betty and I do that more often than I watch porn. I really enjoyed your feedback and I want to say thanks again.  Subscribing to dodsonandross is one of the best things I ever did.  Take care.

Por, Sexual Arousal, and ED

Thu, 12/18/2014 - 12:09
AllessioV (not verified)

Hi,

I am 45, my wife 40. We have been married since I was 28, she was 23. We are reponsible professionals and have raised 5 children.

We both watch porn together and sometimes individually. I would say we are both very much "sexual", that is, into sex. We stay fit and have both competed in sports, including body building in my case and bikini contests in my wife's case. Once a year we will go on vacation to an island, and during these times we "hook up" with other couples. That is, we enjoy group sex.

Instead of ED and diminished libido, my wife and I have increased sexual appetites when we watch porn. We stay away from humiliation-type porn, and instead we tend to watch "new age" porn, where there is an emphasis on love making, touching, caressing, foreplay, and mutual enjoyment.

We will try just about anything, although we are really not into anal sex (although I love so-called "hot dogging" where in essence I love rubbing my penis between a woman's butt cheeks and have done so to orgasm with many women, while married, with my wife's ok.) We are open minded regarding flirting with others, and, if either of us is really interested in another person, we have established "date nights" for that purpose. A date night essentially gives us the opportunity to experience a variety of sexual experiences with different people. Now, instead of causing jealousy and overall bad feelings, it has substantially increasef our libido. Call it what you will, but it is one of the best "aphrodisiacs" one could imagine.

Porn has taught us a lot about sexuality and of course has stimulated us to "experiment". For example, after my wife had seen her first threesome in porn, when she was about 25, she has consistently participated in them. If she meets a guy that she likes, she will ask me if she can bring him home, or, she'll ask me if it is "ok" for her to participate in one with two other guys or a guy and a gal. She now has two bodybuilder friends at the gym, and they hook up about once a month.

So to us, porn works. Libido is increased, not diminished. I do think some porn is degrading, but new age porn is highly stimulating. It all depends on the couple and what works "together". If one person is against it, it should not be used. If there is jealousy in flirting, or cheating is involved, then obviously that is wrong.

Like everything else, painting with a broad brush and generalizing circumstances to everyone is always inappropriate.

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