Any Tips for Using a Diaphragm?

Tue, 12/16/2014 - 08:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty.

A few days ago I went to the healthcare center and tried out my size for a diaphragm. The woman who I had scheduled a meeting with was a midwife. She was really nice to me but still seemed like she was reluctant to the idea of me getting a diaphragm. She had a discussion with me where she asked me several times if I knew that there were other types of birth control that I could see myself trying out instead but I stood my ground and told her everything I knew about hormones and the diaphragm. In the end she stopped trying to convince me and I got to try out my size.

It was the first time I had shown my vulva to any kind of hospital personnel and I was really nervous. Since I'm only 21 I've never been called in to do a test for cervical cancer so it was a pretty big thing. But everything went well and I now have it in my hand. I feel much more mature now that I have taken full control of my own sex organ. I have talked to my friends and family about what hormones do to your body and some of the people I know have actually gone off the pill. More and more people I know and meet in forums are starting to use hormone free methods of protection.

My question for you is: Do you have any tips that you've learned from using the diaphragm? I would love to hear if you have any special tricks.

Best wishes, E

Dear E,

A big congratulation! It is never easy going against a trend like the pill with all the damn hormones that actually lower women's sexual interest. Several things I found that helped me: I automatically put in when I was going out on a date even though sex was not on the menu. Just in case was smart cause sometimes I did have sex unexpectedly. The other thing was to leave it in overnight when I had a lover stay over in case morning sex happened.

Since I have short fingers, I did get a diaphragm inserter but I doubt if they are still available. At some point, I hope we can a page devoted to new diaphragm users where you can share tips and topics of interest. Yay! Lets start a diaphragm revolution and save women's orgasms in the process. People don't know that the pill has negative side affects as well as lowering sexual desire.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time