I had to think of you last week. My daughter, who'll be 4 in January, was sick with high fever. She was lying in bed, at times "reading" books, at times sleeping. I was lying next to her and reading. Suddenly she lifted the cover and said smiling: "Look mum, I'm playing with my little vulva." I said: "I see". I was amazed by how she had perfectly figured out the technique by herself (why shouldn't she, I suppose). It made me feel happy and proud.
I'm just worried because she seems to have her hand in her underwear most of the day, no matter where. I wouldn't like her to get any comments from teachers or from other children at school. So I said: "But remember that we only do that at home. Not at school, not in the subway, not at someone else's place. Other people can be put off by watching you do it. I play with my vulva too, everybody does, but they only do it when they're on their own".
She replied: "So can I do it in front of you and Dad?" I said: "Yes, we don't mind". I can't ask her otherwise because she's never on her own at her age.
I just wanted to thank you for inspiring me to give my daughter a sex positive education. I'm still struggling to heal my sexuality from the catholic education I got. I want her to have a healthy sexuality from the start.
Thanks for sending me this happy email. You handled it perfectly. I can only hope more mothers will be as sex positive as you for then we would have a world of happy and powerful women who will raise more sex positive girls and boys.
That's what will change the world with more Happy O's .