I've been in a long distance relationship for 4 months now. It's a very loving connection we've made together, and for the first time in relationships we've allowed our partners to bring us to orgasm regularly (although she orgasms more regularly than me and I'd like to orgasm more).
In all my past relationships I've been really wet and moist during sex but my girlfriend gets so wet so quickly I feel intimidated and I'm not getting as moist as I normally would. I also usually have a really high sex drive but find I want sex a lot less in this relationship. I feel more satisfied than I ever have before but I can't help feeling like there's something wrong and I could be having a better experience. I'm not sure whether it's because Im comparing myself and feel inadequate, or whether I don't fancy her enough physically. My girlfriend is very feminine and I'm usually attracted to more boyish/ queer girls than femmes.
I'd love some advice, insight or reassurance if you have any.
Thank you : )
I love it when my questioner answers her own question so perfectly. Let me repeat what you said to me: "I'm not sure whether it's because I'm comparing myself and feel inadequate, or whether I don't fancy her enough physically."
The two worst conditions for a fulfilling sex life: "Comparing and Doubting."
Just trust your body and make an effort to turn off your brain. As for doubting she's "your type" what a terrible restriction. We need to expand beyond "types" and open our erotic horizons to all of humanity. That's what was so great about the sixties and seventies group sex parties. Some of my best orgasms were with people who had previously been on the "Not my type" list. What a waste of sexual energy. We all need to expand our self-imposed limitations.