Dear Dr. Betty,
I just wanted to tell you about my latest incursion.
Today I went to planned parenthood to get measured for a diaphragm and it was just like a recent post from D&R, they looked at me as if I where a time traveler from the 70's.
The gynecologist said that it's passé, "I haven't been asked for one in decades. I don't even have the gear to measure you." When he asked me why did I want one, I said as a more natural method of birth control, he said natural? You know you have to use a spermicide and I said yes that is why I hadn't got one before but now there is one (contragel) that's organic.
Then he suggested a menstrual cup for my period as if I wanted to use it for that. And then he asked me if I was having sexual intercourse and if the method was condoms. I said yes and then he said well sorry that I can't help you. You might be able to buy or order one in a pharmacy, but you still need to get measured. I said that I've been investigating on the Internet and that there is a one size fits all diaphragm. And that there seems to be a come back of the diaphragm. And maybe soon more girls would ask for one. I wish you could have seen the nurses face.
After that I didn't ask the rest of the questions I had. I'm gonna try to find a private doctor that has the rings to measure the cervix, I was hopeful that they might have it in planned parenthood because I'm a bit tight for money at the moment. But if I can't find one do you think I can buy Caya the one size fits all? it covers from 50mm 65 and 75mm. Although it didn't go as planned and I'm still diaphragm ''free'', it was quite empowering.
Young women taking control of their bodies will make Big Pharma's BC pill obsolete. It has been shown that the pill lowers our sex drive so we won't frighten boys and men with our sexual appetites and demands. Truth is we are perfectly capable of sexually pleasing ourselves with all the marvelous sex toys available like vibrators and the huge variety of dildos. Is it any wonder why the topic of masturbation has been kept under wraps? Sexually independent women will change the world for the better but change frightens people.
I hope the one size fits all diaphragm works along with the organic spermicide Contragel. I was fitted with a size 70 and my BF could feel the rim when we fucked. Back in the seventies, my druggist and I became friends and he gave me a 60 and a 65 to try. The 65 was perfect. So I began to bring this up during my Bodysex workshops and soon, the women were trying on smaller sizes supplied by my buddy at the drugstore. He let me buy them without a doctors prescription. My conclusion was that most male doctors figured anything that goes inside the vagina, the bigger the better! We had to pay a doctor to fit us and then it wasn't the right size! Just another medical rip-off.
After I learned the self-help women in LA got busted for practicing medicine without a license, I stopped letting my Bodysex women try different sizes. We simply dipped the diaphragms in alcohol and then washed them with soap and water. Still, those of us who were involved in fitting our own diaphragms learned to trust our bodies and that not all doctors knew what they were doing when it comes to women!
My mother often said, "Betty Anne, not all doctors know what they are talking about." She was told she could never have children and she went on to have 5 and 4 of us turned into healthy, happy and productive adults.
Let's find out more about the one size fits all. I'm sending this onto Carlin. She was the one who found the info on the one size diaphragm and the organic spermicide. Women taking control of our reproductive lives from the medical and pharmaceutical industries is HUGE! Welcome aboard, my little sister.