Since I Hit my 40's Orgasm Takes a Really Long Time

Tue, 08/26/2014 - 08:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 44-year-old woman who has been with my husband for 25 years. We have always had great sex and he has always put my pleasure first. I recently began having trouble reaching orgasm...even when I'm really turned on and just dying to have sex! I usually can "get there" but it takes a long, long time.

It is frustrating for both of us. I sometimes find my mind wandering and worrying about how long it is taking. I like to read romance novels to relax and to put me "in the mood" and find my libido is better than it has ever been. I find that masturbating can sometimes take longer than it used to as well.

Is this problem achieving orgasm just an aging issue? Thank you for all the great information. :)

Dear A,

As we age our sex responses change like everything else dealing with the body. You might consider getting an electric vibrator to increase the stimulation on your clitoris during masturbation and with your partner sex. Holding a vibrator on my clitoris while my lover was penetrating my vagina was some of the best sex I've ever had.

Also it's less work for your husband. My favorite is the Magic Wand but it's a bit large so many couples find the Eroscillator a better choice. They have their own website and many stores carry this vibrator.

Enjoy, the best it yet to come,

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

Comment viewing options

Select your preferred way to display the comments and click "Save settings" to activate your changes.

Orgasms after 50

Sun, 11/09/2014 - 18:22
Aprilanna (not verified)

Just in the last year I found out that all my hormones were VERY low! No wonder I had no sex drive at all. It was like....I could have cared a less if I ever had sex again. In fact, it kind if grossed me out. But now that I have been on bio-identical hormones for almost a! I think about sex quite often! I told my husband, I feel like a man does, because I know they think about it all the time!
My question? Why am I having such a hard time reaching orgasm with clitorial stimulation? It is so frustrating!!! I feel like I am almost there and then Nothing!!! Some times my clit is more sensitive, but then sometimes I feel like I can't feel anything down there? We have tried vibrators, lubes, lubes that are suppose to stimulate the clit....not!
Any suggestions.....I am getting so frustrated! I have even tried masturbation by myself and can't climax?