Dear Dr. Betty,
I am a 50 year-old male at a sexual crossroad. I am married, and our sex life hit a peak about ten years ago when both my wife and I enjoyed other partners; hers, male and female, mine female. We also had a threesome with one of her male lovers. This was my first male on male sexual encounter, and, although limited, and a bit awkward, it was still enjoyable.
As the years passed, our sexual activity waned, limited to brief intercourse here and there. The most resent hot session was after we both went to a nudist resort together. That seemed to fire her up like the old days.
My sex life mainly consists of masturbation, and, most often, it is a result of arousal from male on male sexual fantasies. Additionally, I have found an adult social site where I have found an outlet using a webcam. My audience is almost exclusively male, and I enjoy "performing" in front of this audience. I have had some powerful orgasms using this site, and some interesting sex chat. I usually get propositioned immediately to drop what I am doing and have sex by some random guy. But, on occasion, I find someone more realistic about meeting, and, now I have the opportunity for an initial meeting.
I prefer women, but lately I find myself craving sexual contact from men. My wife used to enjoy talk of me having sex with a guy, but now her response is more like "I don't want to know", which I take to mean she doesn't mind as long as she doesn't have to hear about it.
So my question to you is what are your thoughts? Should I proceed, and enjoy a new sexual dimension, or am I missing something else, and maybe need to step back and reconsider.
Due to America's extreme homophobia, few straight men will admit to feeling any sexual attraction to another man. The female role is less restrictive so we get to enjoy sex play with other women without sacrificing our femininity. That's mostly because men enjoy watching women interact sexually. Many men in midlife finally are able to admit an attraction t other men. I hear this more and more. Perhaps it's due to the Internet that allows for broader contact with like minded people.
My thoughts are to definitely GO FOR IT. Just don't discuss this with your wife unless she asks. What a great time for you to be a newbie in the sexual world of men! You must share what happens and inspire other guys to become more sexually flexible.