What Advice Would You Give For First Time Anal?

Tue, 07/01/2014 - 09:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a lady friend same age as me, 70. She is very keen to try anal and I am willing. We have had a responsible relationship for 4 years now and very fulfilling sex of all sorts.

What advice would you give. Neither of us have had a partner for over ten years.


Dear R,

Well, that's a tall order. If you can download my e-book "Orgasms for Two," I have a chapter devoted to anal sex. This is not a casual form of sex and there are many approaches as to how to go about it successfully. Since I don't want to write the chapter again, I'll simply suggest a few basics. But I recommend you seek more complete information online.

The basics are use lots of lubrication, go slow, begin with finger penetration while communicating with your partner. A woman needs to be aroused following some form of clitoral stimulation.

It's important to have the lower bowel empty so rinsing it out with an anal douche is desirable. However, there are procedures that must be followed. Like waiting at least an hour to make sure the enema water has been expelled.

You must stop whenever she requests it. She needs to focus on relaxing and breathing deeply. My personal preference was to use my vibrator on my clitoris during anal penetration. Do not go from anal to vaginal as she'll most likely get a urinary tract inflammation. And remember, your seventies is the youth of old age, so enjoy!

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Fri, 01/16/2015 - 12:40

If a couple want anal.sex and with this I mean between man and woman, a man shouldn`t enter her very deep. So it makes sense to do it in a missionary position, only a little part of the cock is inside her, the "rest" is touching in the meantime her complete vulva.
My experience, this was the best kind of anal.sex for both!

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