Dear Dr. Betty,
I am a 51-year-old female. I had a total abdominal hysterectomy at the age of 28 due to endometerosis and possible endoplastic process. I had one pregnancy but it failed. Never obtained another one. Okay enough of that. I have not been able to achieve an orgasm in over eight years. I get really close and then it's gone. Most of the time I don't even have a libido. I thought this may be due to over medicated. I have neurofibromatosis type I. I have severe nerve pain. I was taking heavy pain medication.
I had a neuro-stimulator implanted. When I came home from the hospital I stopped taking, methadone, Avinza, Vicodin, Trazadone, and Klonopin. I was way over medicated! I am pain free with the implant! And I can think! I thought once all these chemicals were out of my system My favorite THING would come back and it hasn't. I am not married, not in a relationship. I love making love to myself. Why is this happening to me? I build right up to it and then it's gone. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I have read a couple of your books and I really like them.
My Dear D,
You are a victim of the Medical Establishment and Big Pharma. You ask "Why is this happening to me?" Just re-read you list of procedures and medications. I am at war with doctors and their over prescribing medications. Over the years when I leave a doctors office after a checkup, I'm given some prescription to fill that ends up in my trash while I find an alternative.
At 51 you are still quite young. Forget about libido, that's a psychiatric term from another nearly useless profession. Although I did like my therapist for one important bit of information. When we were dealing with my fear of marriage lasting a lifetime, she reminded me I could always get divorced if it didn't work out. That's what I did after 7 years of sacrificing my sexlife for a little financial security.
I suggest you get the Magic Wand vibrator and read my suggestions for how to best use one. That plus some new dirty or romantic fantasies should get your orgasms going again. Read around the website and consider getting some erotic reading material. Google can become your best friend for information. If you are able to take natural hormone replacement made from the soy bean plant for your vaginal health, I'm including a link. Any healing modality must be plant based not some kind of synthetic shit as you have discovered. I hope to hear back from you with a success story. I'm rooting for you to continue enjoying your orgasms.