Hi, my name is G and I'm 16 years old. First off, I found yours and Carlin's youtube videos about a month ago, and I am so grateful I did! You two have completely changed my belief of general sex discussion in society (namely that it didn't exist).
My question is I have grown up in a Mormon family. Everybody in my immediate and distant family has been, or is Mormon. My issue, is Mormonism restricts so many things, a lot of them sexual in some way, and when prominent figures discuss them in the Church, I suppose these "restrictions" could make sense. However, as I'm growing up, so many of these rules feel extremely suffocating, and have started making less and less sense. I'm not just whining about how I can't have pleasure, I'm talking about normal, healthy, habits. I understand the religious necessity of commandments like "no sex before marriage" or "homosexuality is a sin".
(I'd like to make it clear that I have had sex multiple times with one person, a 19 year old boy, and I fully support the LGBTQIA movement). However, Mormonism also prohibits masturbation, fantasy (which could be the same thing), and marital sex that is not solely for procreation or expressing love. It makes me want to rip my hair out and scream.
How are teenagers supposed to have any sort of sexual closure, or experience, when we aren't even allowed to acknowledge its existence, let alone talk about it?!? Forget about *gasp* exploring our own bodies. I fully believe in God, and I enjoy worshipping Him, but I have no idea what to do regarding the Mormon church. I know that you and Carlin have stated your problems with organized religion and its suppression, so do you have any suggestions as to what I should do? (I have tried discussing this with my mother and I am not allowed to simply not go to church, although I hardly agree with any of its teachings anymore).
Yes, I do complain about all organized religions especially Catholics, Mormons and Evangelicals. If I couold, I would outlaw each and every one which is not very Christian of me. But then I am an Atheist who honors the goddess of sexual love and abundance. Never heard of her? Maybe that's because I created her in my body/mind/soul.
I suggest you continue to worship your God (as you understand him) and not rip out your hair or argue with Mom. I commend you for exploring sex safely and keeping your own counsel and not torturing yourself with unnecessary guilt. As long as you must live at home, just keep the peace and know that at some point you will have a place of you own. And you will continue to love your family although you disagree with their religious philosophy. Your good sense and maturity speaks well of a young woman who is dealing with the universal conflict that happens in most family's. However, there is an end in sight. Stay strong.
One of my favorite bumper stickers on a car read: "Another Mormon on Drugs."