Set Up Threesome. Have No Idea What We're Doing

Fri, 06/20/2014 - 06:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

My boyfriend & I have been dating for 3 years & we have both had fantasies about having a threesome . We have found someone to do it & he is very attractive along with my boyfriend ! They are friends & have been since grade school. But, the only thing we are having trouble with is.. None of us has done this before..

We have NO clue what we are doing & I have done a little research & have looked at pictures to give me some ideas.. But what happens if we run out of things to do & none of us have finished ? Or what if we get bored in the middle ? My biggest fear is what if it gets awkward !? Any advice on what we should try to avoid awkwardness ?

We have set boundaries .. No anal . At all. It is a MFM . PLEASE HELP, BETTY !

Dear C,

All of the things you fear are what makes a threesome so exciting. The Unknown! You already have established the main boundaries: no anal with MFM or male/female/male action only. So you are going to get all of the sexual attention from two adoring men. Be sure to feel free to give them directions or orders.

Of course the first thing I'd want to see would be both guys sucking each others dicks. Trust me, if it were two women and one man, the gals would be eating each other's pussies. Just saying. Never mind me, just relax and have fun.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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My Two Cents Worth.........Think the threesome over

Fri, 06/20/2014 - 10:26

Have to add my two cents here…..

The only time a threesome was initiated in my lifetime, was
the guy I dated invited a female friend into our bedroom. I walked out of the
bedroom as soon as I saw my guy touch the other woman…never got that far into
the threesome experience. I am too "vanilla" for such types of sex
play. My suspicion would be when there are two men in the threesome…that sounds
to me like two guys getting off on the same gal - but will SHE really get hers?
If you go into it with that attitude and do not wind up being a "cum
tool" just so they get off and you do not……..forget it.

Tell us how it works out if you go through with it.

triad vs. threesome

Fri, 06/20/2014 - 16:28
leslie c. (not verified)

You could do it like a Tantric Triad. First hour it could be all about you and you receiving pleasure, then each guy could have his turn to be satisfied the way he wants. That way everyone gets the chance to feel like the center of attention, worshipped and adored and nobody ever feels left out of the action. It avoids the potential of you feeling like a cum receptacle too. And if the guys don't want any guy-on-guy stuff, when it's time for one guy to receive the other could "hold space" perhaps supporting the other at his head or back. It's really intimate and nice and it's better than one guy stepping out of the action and videotaping. It keeps you all three connected. Enjoy.

I've done more MFM threesomes than I can enumerate.

Tue, 06/24/2014 - 12:08
Sex Club Bob (not verified)

I couldn't tell you how many times I've had MFM threesomes with various women. Probably a third of them were with my wife and the rest were at sex parties with other women. They were all great fun.

My advice to anyone trying a threesome for the first time is for the minority gender, the woman in this case, to not worry about satisfying both of their other playmates. This is a time for them to lay back and enjoy the attention. If you worry about making two people happy you are taking on double the "work" load and you will stress about that too much.

If they are like me they will have a great time without getting quite as much attention from you as they usually would.

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