Does Masturbating Frequently Cause Arousal Issues?

Wed, 06/04/2014 - 11:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hey Betty,

My names Abby and I'm wondering if masturbating frequently causes any arousal issues for later on. I know it's rumored that it can happen to men but is it the same for women? For example, if I'm enjoying my "happy time", so to speak, will that affect my ability with my boyfriend say a day later?

Much Thanks,
A

Dear A,

Masturbation supports all forms of sexual expression with a partner. However, I must say this is not true for ALL types of masturbation. Women are capable of having many orgasms so your happy time will not diminish partner sex. Men often make the mistake of "saving it up" but when they are "horny" they come too quickly.

For women we are able to learn about how our bodies function and once we have our orgasms in place, we can share that information with a partner. But if your masturbation style is lying on your tummy, or humping some hard object, or just squeezing legs together then it can be difficult to translate that into sex with a lover. Also if you have only had orgasms with a vibrator, then I recommend you include the vibrator when having sex with a partner.

For men, if they are masturbating to porn a lot, they might have a problem translating all the stimulating eye candy with a vast variety of available women. Porn actresses are paid to make men believe they are irresistible while they fake passion over his penis thrusting inside her vagina or gobble up his ejaculate like it's so delicious. Then, a problem can develop. Fantasy sex can trump reality so a real woman doesn't get it anymore. Or he's developed a death grip on his penis and beats it until he comes.

So we can't really generalize without knowing more details. Masturbation is a way for both women and men to learn new sexual skills and become better lovers if they are doing conscious masturbation. A woman can learn how to orgasm by engaging her own clitoral stimulation and a man can learn "come control" to last longer during intercourse.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Does Masturbating Frequently Cause Arousal Issues?

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Mon, 07/21/2014 - 07:21

This can be done by hand, or with sex aids – some highly-sexed women can even do it by rubbing their thighs together and a tiny minority of women can do it with no genital contact at all, but simply through caressing their breasts. Such stimulation often leads to orgasm, but not invariably, as many women enjoy stroking themselves and experiencing pleasure that does not necessarily culminate in a climax. Masturbation is normal process, but if it get exceed than normal limit then it surely harmful for your health and it may be cause some arousal issues.

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Fri, 07/25/2014 - 19:18
Martha b (not verified)

I think Abby is so great for being concerned for her orgasm and so sensitive to the needs of her boyfriend. Dr. Betty is so right, masturbation is a wonderful way to learn new sexual skills and become better lovers. We should all try and learn something every day ;o)
I wanted to add that, far from becoming desensitized, masturbation has helped so many women, including me, to nurture and develop our orgasms. It takes comityment but pays off. It makes them stronger and capable of having more of them. Was for me and my husband. Personally for me, having more and stronger orgasms has increased my overall desire, my urge to have them. I masturbate more but I also have more sex with my husband... and mutual partners (we have an open relationship).
So masturbation actually helped me achieve and sustain the highly sexual lifestyle we both wanted and enjoy. Just like working out at the gym daily gives you more energy, not less ;o)

Martha

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