Self-conscious About My Long Inner Labia

Sat, 05/03/2014 - 09:10
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 17 years old and I'm a virgin.. But I've been very self-conscious about my long inner labia.. It looks so gross it doesn't look normal at all. Its like dark and wrinkled.. It makes me feel used...

But I read the article on this website about how she got the labiaplasty done and she wasn't happy about the results and that makes me think twice and makes me think "maybe I shouldn't even get it done."

I wonder what my boyfriend in the further will say when he actually sees it.. Will he get grossed out? Will he not have sex with me? Since I'm not sexually active yet, I'm scared to loose him because what will he say when he sees it..

My friends, well one close friend told me that my boyfriend won't mind at all and that I'm perfectally normal but I always second guess it can you help me get over this ... Do you have probably other articles for me to read about?

Please help me ... :(

Dear E,

You are being a foolish girl who needs to get a grip on what is normal, acceptable and beautiful about the vast variations of our labia. Those dangling inner lips are part of your sex organ that responds to sexual arousal just like your clitoris. They too get engorged when we get turned on.

So getting them cut off due to some imaginary ideal created by porn to please some imaginary boyfriend is beyond sad. You turn yourself into a victim. Please go onto the website and read the topics listed in the left hand column. Also look at my drawings of different vulva styles. And learn to love yourself before you do something as foolish as elected surgery for a non problem.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Sweet Lips

Sat, 05/03/2014 - 14:50
leslie c. (not verified)

With the availability of images on the internet we can see a huge variety in labia. As a child, my mother actually told me I was deformed because of my "large" inner lips. Of course that impacted my sex life. Thank Goddess I know better now and I love the gift of my perfect pussy!

Happy Masturbation Month too :-)

Just stay as you are.

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Sun, 05/04/2014 - 08:20

 Hi As Betty is saying we are who we are, dont worry just let your b/f enjoy you as you are.
Has he seen you yet? all naked? if hes you look different! just say no more interesting, not different.
If not him you find loads of guys who will love you just the way you are.
Have fun, your just young, and to young to worry about you.
Just be yourself.
Good Luck

Long Inner Labia

Mon, 05/05/2014 - 11:55
Labia lover (not verified)

I am always stunned when women graced by long labia are embarrassed, and I was totally flabbergasted to learn that some women are actually having surgery to "correct" the condition.
I mean, really? Why would you want to correct perfection?
There is nothing more exciting then a woman revealing large, thick lips to her excited partner. What can be finer than to be able to take them in ones mouth and carress them? What can be more exciting than watching her masturbate?
Nothing, that's what.
Please! Ladies revel in your femininity! Sigh!

Don't waste a minute more thinking about this

Mon, 05/05/2014 - 13:24
madamX (not verified)

I think many of us feel like we're deformed in some manner, particularly given the barrage of perfectly surgically and photo-shopped enhanced individuals that permeate our media. But your long labia lips are totally normal, as are mine, and anyone who tells you otherwise can fuck off. And, anectodally, I'm an older woman who's slept with a lot of men and a few women, and no one has ever made a negative comment on my body, including my really long, dark red, wrinkly labia. One boyfriend told me that big labia are a noticeable sensation for a's like an extra "hug" of flesh as they move in and out of you, and that is a really good thing. As for the "used" idea...that seems like some twisted perversion of the purity ideals that so many right-wing Christian asshole men are promulgating in our culture. They're saying it to make you doubt yourself and to give themselves control, so don't buy into that perverse logic for one minute. Your body is beautiful and it is meant to be used, and you taking control of your self-worth and your sexuality does not make you used, it makes you powerful. So move on from such thinking, as it will only hold you back from having the life you deserve.

Don't change them!

Thu, 03/05/2015 - 02:56
Johnjohn (not verified)

Hi there
Don't touch them! Any man worth having a relationship should be mature enough to appreciate the beauty of your punana, whatever it looks like:)

My girl has long, dark, fat, totally unequal labia, and I love them totally. She does too, incidentally.

Enjoy and leave them as they are...