Is It Normal for Your Ejaculation to Change as You Get Older?

Mon, 04/28/2014 - 08:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

When I was younger and masturbated, when I ejaculated, I could shoot quite a distance.

I had a strong pulsing of the muscles in my penis and had a good amount of cum. Now when I orgasm only a small amount comes out and it only dribbles out, no pulsing of the muscles at all. I am a 54 year old man with no partner!!

Is this normal as you get older or is there something wrong with me?


Dear S,

It's great to have more men asking questions on D&R. At 54 you are having a similar response to a postmenopausal women when our hormones levels begin to diminish. Also, too many men rely on having sex with a woman and don't keep their sex organ exercised with healthy masturbation. The same as with women, we are advised to keep our pelvic floor muscles toned by doing our Kegel exercises after giving birth. Women who want to maintain an active sex life with strong orgasms continue to tone their PC muscles by actively using them during sex alone or with a partner. To locate these muscles simply stop the flow of urine. To practice using these muscles just squeeze and release then during your masturbation sessions.

The same as some women decide to add hormone replacement, you could check in with a urologist and get a testosterone patch or shots. My friends who've done this have noted an improvement in sexual performance. While we can't turn back the clock to our youth, there's a lot we can do to stay sexually healthy. You've just taken the first step by asking the question.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Hi if you have problems

NOWHARD's picture
Mon, 04/28/2014 - 10:21

Hi if you have problems finding out about kegels go to there just look under exercises your find kegels from this your findout how to do then and reverse kegels as well.
Your find these will soon have you shoting across the room, also google this title
NOHARDS HERBBS FOR ED,PART 2, as you look down this list your come a South American sex drink link, your find one of these two herbs will increase your load maybe even back to normal.
Testosterone shots and patchs may seem a way out but they have a side effect of shutting down your own testosterone, which means if you come off them, could bring your health down, sorry Betty just ask Paul, The ED Coach.
Good Luck

Thanks for the correction nowhard

Betty Dodson's picture
Mon, 04/28/2014 - 10:50
Betty Dodson

At the time I thought about consulting Paul and then I moved on to another task. I'm grateful D&R has a faithful following of thoughtful folks who share important information with me and our readers.

I'm wondering why "shooting

Mon, 04/28/2014 - 16:11
leslie c. (not verified)

I'm wondering why "shooting quite a distance and a good amount of cum" is important if the man is still able to climax and the orgasm still feels good. Seems like an ego thing based on what men see in porn.

Shooting as a measure of performance

Walter's picture
Tue, 04/29/2014 - 09:45

Comparison of ones distance that he can ejuclate has been around much longer than modern day porn.  It arrises as boys grow.  Starting with seeing how far one can pee and then with masturbation, how far one can ejaculate.  The ego part comes in when one brags about it.
As a measure of preformance, as S noted, one can expect it to decline over time.  Now should a 25 year old male see a marked drop off in distance, that may suggest a medical condition that needs to be evaluated.

Shooting the moon

NOWHARD's picture
Tue, 04/29/2014 - 10:33

Hi A good cook ring would help getting distance, it would give a slight resistance or a big resistance depending which ring you have.
With doing this he would get the extra distance, just like shooting the moon. 

Shooting for distance?

Wed, 04/30/2014 - 12:30

I'm wondering the same thing that leslie c. is. Why pay attention to something so meaningless? Porn actors 'perform' (and use megadoses of erection drugs to do it), but the rest of us just make love. How a man orgasms, like how a woman does, can vary tremendously depending on many factors. I hope that women who expel fluid during sex aren't taking out their measuring tapes and worrying that their maximum distance may be declining. The whole concept is ridiculous.

P.S. April 30:  I agree there's nothing wrong with M's question, and I like Betty's response because the answer could be as simple as loss of muscle tone (Kegels are great for men, too) or an enlarged prostate. It's just that I think that orgasms are to be enjoyed, and it seems to me that trying to turn them into a kind of competitive sport takes away from that.

Nothing wrong with asking

Tue, 04/29/2014 - 20:36
Blithe (not verified)

Wow, the guy is just asking a question. He's 54 and has recently noticed the strength of his ejaculation seems diminished, so he's wondering if this is a normal age-related change or whether it's something to be concerned about. Any time we notice a change in our sexual response or function it's normal to be curious and maybe even concerned about whether the change could be the sign of a problem.

I'm 53 myself and totally understand why this guy wants to know more about his changing sexual response. Let's not shame someone who is just looking for information or reassurance.

Hi Leslie, Do we take you

NOWHARD's picture
Wed, 04/30/2014 - 09:47

Hi Leslie, Do we take you have not seen to much porn? most of the guys just dribble at best, there problem is there work, there tanks are empty.
But as this guy is single and no women about, he needs a hobby, and getting some distance would be his aim.
We all need a hobby.

No shame

Fri, 05/02/2014 - 15:15
leslie c. (not verified)

No shame from me, believe me! It sounded like the original poster was maybe going down that path himself. I'm thrilled that he wrote in to D & R for of the best places around to learn about self-pleasuring. And when I mention porn I don't just mean "modern day porn". Most men have sex pornographically - that is with their eyes open. And what they see, wherever they see it, they compare to their own experience. I see little dribbles and big loads every day. As long as everyone is feeling good that's what matters.

Don't worry about it!

Tue, 05/12/2015 - 03:24
Johnjohnjohn (not verified)


I'm 63 years young and have exactly the same situation. I've always loved masturbating and still do, especially when I'm with my girl. Masturbating is her favourite hobby too as it happens...

I can't say I was ever a big squirter, but I'm sure as hell down to a dribble these days! And sure, I'd like to BE a squirter (men are very visual remember) and I think that many men would.

However, it ain't gonna happen! Whether I'm enjoying partner sex or solo sex, the activity and the orgasms are wonderful, so I'm happy with that.

Chill out my friend. Just go with the flow (or lack thereof!)

Bodily changes

Fri, 04/08/2016 - 14:12
M. James Lee (not verified)

I am a healthy 65 y/o male, married, and although I do not have any major health issues, I can say that within the last five years, when I orgasm, and ejaculate, the force of my cumming, and quantity of my semen has diminished considerably.

I can still remember the first time I masterbated to orgasm, and the sensations of ejaculating when I was 15 years old. I also remember the
build up of pressure, of my wanting to control not cumming, but alas, my horniness overcame me, and I 'violently' spurted copious amounts of semen into some tissue.

So yes, part of the 'aging' process involves changes in response to the force, and quantity of ejaculate released. Obviously, not ejaculating for one
to one and a half weeks may create more tension (pressure), and quantity
(amount), but overall, staying healthy, and active is the key to overall
satisfaction and continued pleasure, partnered, or solo!

Other variables?

Wed, 08/03/2016 - 12:24
Older in California (not verified)

I haven't seen any mention of the impact a vasectomy has on ejaculation. I certainly saw a drastic decrease in volume after my vasectomy and as I have aged, there has been further decrease. I might mention that having a vasectomy was one of the worst decisions of my life. I had many years of constant pain, and post sex pain. This led to problems with depression. There is no such thing as simple, safe surgery. I had the top surgeon but had horrible, life altering results, and it was all elective.


NOWHARD's picture
Thu, 08/04/2016 - 09:15

Older in california, Hi and I just had mine done for nothing in Marie Stopes BC Clinic in london in 76 boy that was a good summer, and never looked back I think out of my circle of friends 6 of us had it done then or about that time, only one other had a problem, they nicked a vein, his nut sack come the size of a football and was rushed back to hospital, after that he was ok.

But as we get older yes it does change in colour and volum, but to tell the truth never look to see how much, its the smile on my wifes face that counts, I'm now 69 and its great to be still having sex, and been through ED and beat the bugger.

I just think you was one of ther unlucky ones