After I Squirt My Clit Goes Numb & Takes Me a Long Time to Orgasm

Mon, 03/17/2014 - 09:17
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Just wondering... all of my life my clit has be super sensitive. My husband has recently figured out my g-spot and making me squirt. Which is fantastic but I still LOVE clit orgasms more. They seem more intense for me.

However, after I squirt it feels like my clit goes numb and it take a really long time to orgasm. Also, I used to be able to orgasm from oral sex almost immediately over and over again... now I can't at all..... is something wrong?

H

Dear H,

This is the first time I've heard of this specific complaint. Many women have said that squirting is NOT the same thing as orgasm, but no one claimed that after squirting her clitoris went numb.

My first thought is why not combine clitoral stimulation yourself while hubby is inside your vagina rubbing the ceiling of your vagina. I so dislike the word "spot" when referring to the indirect stimulation of your urethral sponge that sits on the other side of the vaginal ceiling. Also when this sponge fills up with blood, it's to protect the delicate urinary tract. We all know how miserable a UTI can feel.

Stay with me here. The G or urethral sponge is part of our clitoral system and although "squirting" is one form of release, it still isn't a full orgasm. Let's say it's a partial release. We all know that after we've had an orgasm from some form of direct clit stim, we have to give those nerve endings a short rest before we can go again. Perhaps this same dynamic is at work with female ejaculation. If you rest a while, your clitoral sensitivity will return in full and then you can go onto another build-up and enjoy a more powerful clitoral orgasm.

I'm all for any kind of combination orgasm and I believe it's best when a woman has control over her own clitoral stimulation. We know when, where and how firm or delicate we want our clitoris to be touched. Especially during intercourse, the combination orgasm makes all a lot of sense. D&R always promotes vaginal penetration with clitoral stimulation all at the same time. So experiment with direct clitoral stimulation combined with his vaginal stimulation and let me know what you discover.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Guy Promising Vaginal Orgasm EVERY TIME

Sat, 11/08/2014 - 11:05

My long time girlfriend was going out with a guy who was obsessed with making her squirt. He got these ideas from many of the male generated websites out there that push this model like it is precisely like the male orgasm followed by an ejaculation. The way he was going about it was using his penis to dig around and find this spot for her. Well of course as you can guess he would come and she would not. So borrowing a phrase from the website guy, her BF tells her "you are too clitorally dependant and you must not EVER touch your clit again for this to work!" WELL imagine her disappointment that she was assigned to never having an orgasm the way her body worked, and was waiting for this boyfriend to keep poking around in her to give that 'ultimate vaginal orgasm' he said 'every time'. Turned out that the way this was really supposed to be done is for a guy to use his fingers, not his penis. When she found out she was furious because he had set her up not only with a false promise of having vaginal orgasms all the time, he cheated by modifying the instructions by using his penis (which by the way cannot bend that way to stimulate the area necessary) so therefore he was getting off all the time and she was not. This went on for six months for this quest for the 'vaginal orgasm and female ejaculation.' Fortunately for my GF she wised up and dumped that A-hole but fast. But I had to run this past all in this section here just for good measure.

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