Since I Moved In We Hardly Have Sex

Mon, 01/27/2014 - 10:16
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'm probably overreacting, but I just wanted your opinion on this.

In the beginning of mine and my boyfriends' relationship, we had sex every day, sometimes twice a day. I don't know for sure, but in the last 4 months that we've been living together, we've been having sex regularly, about 4-6 times a week, but in this last week, he hasn't seemed to want to have sex at all. I've given him a few blow jobs but I did that just because I wanted to.

Last night we had sex after coming home from a night out, drunk, which was just like the week before, coz it was after a night out too. But in between those two times we hadn't had sex all week.

Recently he's been getting kind of obsessed with tv and he is able to watch a whole 5 series of a tv show in about 5 days. Also, I've noticed that he's not been taking very good care of his body, like eating a lot of junk. Could these things be affecting his sex drive? I haven't spoken to him about these things coz I'm not really sure how to say it. Do you think he's lost interest in me or do you think it could be because of his lifestyle?

Thank you, Betty :)

Dear V,

Most all live-in arrangements will dampen hot sex over time. Romantic passion lasting forever is a Disneyland concept. Unfortunately we've all been brainwashed to believe that "falling into love" guarantees sexual passion will last indefinitely. That's a BIG romantic illusion. Mating in captivity is what living together often turns into. So you must communicate your concerns in order to clear the air.

If he doesn't want to live with you, now is the time to find out. Please don't worry about whether or not you are still sexually desirable. Worry about how you're going to get rid of a guy who is allowing himself to decline by eating crap and watching TV. Time for a heart to heart discussion.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Overreaction from both Betty

Mon, 01/27/2014 - 14:56
Elin A (not verified)

Overreaction from both Betty and writer. You're allowed to watch TV, eat junk food and not have sex. It's been a week.

Since I moved in Sex has dropped off...

Mon, 01/27/2014 - 16:11
Reed (not verified)

I happen to really like Disneyland.  But honestly Betty, and OP you do not have to live the brain washed romantic forever thing, but it can happen.  
Guess what, it takes work, passion and open comunication and the right people together.
I have been with my current for over 12 years and I keep the pashion going, she keeps the passoin going.  It is a commitment we have made and it works very will for us.  
Sorry but I really get sick of the non monogimus train of thought.  It can work for some and it not for others...
Work, comunication, commitment, love, whatever, but nothing is for free and nothing take no effort.
Talk to him and see what he has to say....
Good luck..