I remember the uproar over your art exhibit ages ago and celebrated the fact that someone appreciated our differences.
I think you are wrong in categorizing all porn by the commercial type. True amateur sites like yuvutu.com allow individuals to celebrate their sexuality with no compensation--just for the pleasure and in some cases showing the love between individuals (search/author/melody3 for a good example).
I agree with you on the commercial sites but seeing REAL people with REAL penises and REAL breasts in a loving situation is empowering and actually a healing experience.
Yes, you have a point. Amateur porn does have a better sense of reality but I wonder how many kids seek it out? The big commercial sites seem to get the most traffic. I also make it clear that I would never censor porn.
However, I do believe that constantly looking at any sexual images for arousal diminishes a person's ability to have a fantasy of their own making. That's really at the heart of the creative impulse: to visualize a scene or make up a story that a person finds arousing in their minds' eye. As an artist who did a lot of sex art as well as writing about sex, I make it a point to keep an open mind.
But really J, so much of what I've seen recently online is pretty awful. The sixties and seventies porn seemed much better. But then I have to admit, I have not spent much time going onto these sites so I am far from an expert on the subject. But you're right about some porn being inspirational as well as giving it's viewer an erection that leads to a good old session of wanking.