Dear Dr. Betty,
I just came across your website today and I need help knowing where to start loving myself again. I am a 20 year old pansexual who ejaculates a lot when I have penetration sex. I used to masturbate in high school but my family was very religious and when my mom found me once masturbating she yelled at me and told me that was dirty.
I then got into unhealthy relationships where the men were really abusive and made me masturbate in front of them to get them off. I have been out of relationships for about a year and have been focusing on myself, but I have realized that I haven't really been loving myself because I am afraid to touch myself. How do I begin to see my body in a better image to masturbate and not see it as wrong?
wanting to love myself
You begin by having a passionate love affair with yourself. Check out my info on the website. Especially check out my explanation of female ejaculation. I know many men adore this because they think it's proof that they've "made you come." However, squirting is NOT the same thing as having an orgasm! While it feels nice you are missing out on the real thing of having an orgasm that's the result of some form of clitoral stimulation.
C'mon girl, at 20 years of age you can get beyond your mother's misguided response to self-loving by touching our own sex organ for pleasure.That's how we learn about what we like in order to enjoy orgasms alone at first and then with a partner. I'm enclosing links to get you started. (Where do you live?)