Is Is Possible He's Hitting My Cervix When I'm on Top?

Wed, 11/27/2013 - 16:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

First of all thank you for doing what you do. My life has completely changed since I've found you and Carlin, and I'm learning to absolutely love my body and embrace my sexuality.

So I'm 19 and I've been having penetrative sex with my boyfriend for about a year now. He's great and we were having oral sex/touching/all that good stuff before we even tried penetration, so I don't think this is for lack of familiarity with our bodies. That being said, I've found sex kind of painful lately.

Anytime I'm on top I just can't handle it, and it's because it feels way to deep to me. The first thing I thought was "oh my god, he's hitting my cervix," but that's not possible if he's only 6 inches, right? I know the cervix lifts a bit when aroused, and I'm usually pretty turned on, so I'm not sure what's going on. Is it possible he's hitting my cervix?

Thanks for your help!

Dear K,

When you're using woman on top for fucking, it's the best way for you to control depth of penetration or angle. When something hurts it's a sign that you're doing something wrong. So take control and move in a manner that works best for you. Don't let him grab your hips and pull you closer as he thrusts deeper.

Yes, he can hit your cervix with an average dick. Trust what your body feels and make the necessary adjustments. Also don't forget to use additional lube for all forms of penetration. Our own lubrication varies and can also dry out too quickly. I hope you are including clitoral stimulation during intercourse. It's the best. And you have your preferred kind of birth control in place.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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What an incredible answer. 

Fri, 11/29/2013 - 00:49
slslendd (not verified)

What an incredible answer.  Thank you Dr. Betty.

There is a Tuesday with Nina

Thu, 01/09/2014 - 13:27
Anonymous39 (not verified)

There is a Tuesday with Nina (Nina Hartley) video where she talks about penis size and comfort.  She mentions that in doing porn, a longer (or longer than comfortable) actor would use different angles to avoid hitting the cervix (and any accompanying pain).  When my ex wife and I had sex there was a position that I liked a lot and that she didn't specifically because I went in too deep; most likely hitting her cervix (note we did not do this very often).  And as Betty said, I am of average size but this position did allow me to go too far.  I wish I known about the angling thing then as perhaps it would have allowed us to both enjoy that position.