Dear Dr. Betty,
I want to cum while on top of my husband. He sometimes has a hard time holding his orgasm, so unless he's had quite a few beers, I don't get to 'go crazy' on top of him like I'd like. I've never cum this way. I always need to be on my back, legs straight while he's inside me while I rub my clit. I can't cum unless I rub my clit while we make love. How can I train myself to cum on top of him WITH and WITHOUT rubbing my clit?
Thanks. ladies! I love what you're doing!
I teach women to stimulate their clitoris during vaginal penetration in order to have an orgasm during partnersex. Evidently the desire to have an orgasm during regular fucking from his penis alone is an American obsession that is totally ridiculous. Women need to engage their own primary organ for sexual pleasure which is our CLITORIS!
It's very easy to be on top and to stimulate your clitoris during intercourse. Your husband needs to practice come control through conscious masturbation. Get my e-book "Orgasms for Two" where I go into more detail. For now since he comes too fast, what's to stop him from using a dildo (your preference) while you engage your clitoris either by hand or with a vibrator? Always use additional lubrication like a pure Almond oil or coconut oil.