Hi, Dr. Dodson,
I'm a big fan and supporter. I'm 25, and recently discovered I'm a bisexual male. I'm very curious to experiment with methods of anal stimulation. I've tried penetration with a finger, without lube, and I didn't get anything out of it. No pain or bleeding, I actually managed to push my whole index finger in. But it doesn't feel good. It feels weird, like I need to empty my bowels even when I know I'm empty. I feel a pressure and fullness, but no pleasure. Is it just a lack of lube that is the issue? I've been told by a friend with experience that I ought to use two fingers, if one isn't doing anything.
I haven't tried that yet, but I'm thinking about it. I feel a lot of "something" in my anus when I masturbate, kind of like a nervous excitement and a need for something in my anus. I really would love to let a guy penetrate me with his penis, but I haven't gotten the chance yet. I'm a little nervous about fitting a penis inside me. Due to an old hand injury, my right hand isn't useful for masturbation or anal fingering, so I do everything with my left. I was thinking that if I am able to find my prostate, I might be able to cum without stimulating my penis.
Is that a good idea? Am I missing something? Do I need lube for sure, or is saliva sufficient? Any advice you can give, I will be very appreciative. Thank you for your time.
Interesting to note that your questions mirror a girl who hasn't done vaginal penetration. Always use an organic lube. No penetration until you get turned on first. Be halfway to an orgasm before putting a finger inside any virginal orifice. The anus and vagina are asleep without clitoris or penis stimulation WITH ADDITIONAL LUBE for both.
I had to laugh when I read: "I was thinking that if I am able to find my prostate, I might be able to cum without stimulating my penis." What's with this notion that penetration is the be all end all of sex? It's best tor the pitcher doing the penetrating. Unless a catcher is simulating his own penis, he's just a receptacle. So few can come from penetration alone but everyone wants to try! Are we all doomed to be romantic junkies who want to come from Romeos cock? Grow the fuck up people. Prostates and G spots will never top glans penis or the clitoral glans when it comes to providing our best orgasms.
Before getting fucked (actually or figuratively) learn to relax your anal sphincters by using the pelvic floor muscles. . .squeeze and release. Read my description of the rock and roll orgasm. Also using your breathe to let the muscles go. And most important, practicing penetration during your masturbation sessions is a must.