I am a 51 year old female who successfully masturbated with orgasms for many, many years. Over the last 11 years, I’ve been diagnosed with bipolar 1 disorder, anxiety disorder and depression. I was also involved in an unhealthy relationship with a controlling, selfish, and manipulative woman. While I understand your position with respect to anti-depressants, going off my meds at this time is not an option. I am under the care of a psychiatrist and caring therapists who have helped me work through a lifetime of issues.
I am currently involved with an amazing, loving and caring woman; and while I am very attracted to her, I am unable to reach orgasm when we are making love. I do not experience even the most basic physiological reactions. I understand that the side effects of many of my meds are contributing to this issue, but I also wonder if it is more than the meds.
Could this also be due to the psychological trauma I’ve experienced? If yes, what suggestions do you have for me to work though the problems I’m experiencing? My partner and I are committed to making this work for both of us.
I'm sorry but you have made a pact with these professionals and have clearly stated that coming off your meds is not an option. So you have sacrificed your orgasms to feel numb? Or less pain? Or to eliminate anxiety only to loose your ability to enjoy orgasms?
Now that's really depressing!
The only thing I can recommend is to get the Magic Wand electric vibrator and hope that the strong vibes will convey signals from your clitoris to the pleasure center in your brain. The problem with anti-depressant meds is they block the build-up of pleasure just like they block obsessive negative thoughts.
So how come your psychiatrist or caring therapists who "helped you work through a lifetime of issues" can't help you with your sexual dilemma? They solve one set of problems but then add their own due to the medication they proscribe. What's wrong with this picture? It seems to me that if the pharmaceutical companies and medical professionals have their way, we will soon be a nation of numbed out zombies. What happened to the concept of "No pain, no gain"? Life is a "psychological trauma" so welcome to reality. Meanwhile, sexual pleasure can be the antidote so enjoy your new positive love affair with or without orgasms.