Is It Ok to Have Sex with Older Women?

Fri, 06/14/2013 - 08:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi betty ,

I'm a young 18 year old male who needs to know if my sexual prefrence is a problem. I seem to ne very attracted to older women. It's basically the the cub cougar concept . For some reason older women just seem to attract me alot, but you rarely see a young man with a women who has quite a few years on him together. I would really appreciate if you could make a video on this topic because I belive that it would be a good topic to discuss.

Also is it a problem that girls around my age don't turn me on but older women do ? - thankyou and have a great day

Dear D,

One of my longest lasting affairs was with a much younger man. I see nothing wrong with the cub and cougar dynamic. However, I'm not crazy about the "cougar" label. We are not predators but women who can teach a young man about sex. It makes all the sense in the world when you think about it: What better way for a young guy to learn about sex.

In my e-book Orgasms for Two I go into more detail about what we learned from each other. I see no problem as long as the older person does not become too possessive and is willing to let the younger one move along when the time is right. My young lover and I have remained good friends. He has since gotten married and is very happy with his life.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

Comment viewing options

Select your preferred way to display the comments and click "Save settings" to activate your changes.

Older woman, younger man - Mae West

Fri, 06/14/2013 - 11:28
GualalaBill (not verified)

One of my favorite Mae West quotes is on why the older woman / younger man is better than the reverse

Twenty goes into eighty more times than eighty goes into twenty.


Sat, 06/15/2013 - 10:35

My last post has been removed of here? I have not done anything wrong. What about my right for free speech. Thought this was an open site where anyones comments could be posted.


Sat, 06/15/2013 - 12:44

D, not only is it ok, dating Cougars is amazing!  I have date many and the only woman I have been in love with was 14 years older than I.  They will love your youth and you will love their maturity, it is amazing!


Sun, 06/16/2013 - 10:56
Chef Eric (not verified)

Hi Dr. Betty & D,
There are so many things throughout your life that you will find that "turn you on" as a 56 yr old man I still find myself turning my head when a beautiful older woman walks by or comes into a room. After high school most of my relationships were with women that were older than me. I couldn't control it or change it, I just remember I had that urge to be with that person or I knew I wanted to know that person.
Whatever the relationship, it was always wonderful so roll with it. If your lucky enough to end up in the sack with a wonderful cougar learn as much as you can it will pay off later. So enjoy it ;))