Hi Dr. Betty,
I'm a 28 year old female and to get right to the point I have very little feeling "down there". I can sit and fondue and finger myself for hours and feel as calm as I would watching golf. Even when applying pressure to my clitoris or internally to what i think is my gspot. Nothing. I can have and have had two types of orgasms. One with a powerful vibrator directly in my clitoris. I own the hitachi and have to use it on high and even then sometimes it's hit or miss. The second way was with a partner who was fingering me quite roughly and actually caused me to "squirt" or in these three cases flood.
The strange part with this type of orgasms is I feel no sexual release or anything just pressure then poof very very wet. I honestly think I broke my vagina somewhere along the way because its just so odd. I've asked my obgyn she says it's normal but I don't think she truly understood what I was trying to say. The one other thing I should not is that I have no labia minora, they just aren't there. Any advice or help u might be able to provide would be amazing.
You are abusing your clitoris and vagina by demanding some kind of instant response and using the Magic Wand on High directly on your clitoris. STOP IT! Or letting some guy hurt you in his ego driven drive to "make you squirt" which as you discovered is NOT the same feeling as having an orgasm. More respect shown to your clitoris and vagina will go a long way.
First of all name your sex organ correctly. It's not "down there' which shows a lack of understanding unbecoming a 28 year old woman. I'm including a few links for you so you can begin your sex education. Like you, most medical professionals do not get any sex information least of all when it comes to orgasms and pleasure. Also small to no inner lips while unusual does not mean anything is wrong with you. Time to educate yourself to become the sexual woman you deserve to be.