I Feel Really Horney But I Can't Orgasm

Tue, 04/23/2013 - 12:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hey Betty!

I have question for you, i'm one of thoose teens who cannot understand why i cant orgasm. I have tried so many times but I never feel like i'm even close. And during partner sex sometimes I feel like im close but then I get this feeling that I have to pee, and then I get really scared, I start thinking, am I even close or am I just going to pee in his bad, which would be horrible.. Whenever i'm having partner sex and he stimulates my clitoris and it feels really good, but then I get this pee'ing feeling again, and I freak out, and kind of hold my pee muscles like crazy so I dont pee or if i'm going to pee(?)

And I've basicly watched every video of yours, I know all about that vaginal orgasm that it doesnt come often, and I should focus on the clitoral. And the wave you talked about, i dont even feel any wave. I have had an orgasm once I think, it was in the shower and i held the shower head on my clit and then it was like wow! But that it such a long time ago, and I really want to feel that again. And now im getting stressed out because I want that vaginal orgasm so bad..

Plus whenever I feel like I need to pee, I feel really horny, so by that said i'm not sure what's the matter with me. I asked my bestfriend, she said that when she orgasms it feels like a better feeling than pee'ing. Im so confused. I'm 18.

What is that pee feeling I get?! Im scared to pee in his bed

Dear C,

You like so many other young women are misinformed about female orgasms. Get back into the Shower and observe that you are ONLY stimulating your clitoris. All this vaginal orgasm crap is a male conspiracy so they can get their favorite kind of sex, vaginal penetration. It's also a way for organized religions to control and punish girls who get pregnant before they are married. That's why the Catholic Church is against birth control... they want a pregnancy to result from every fucking.

The pee sensation is because your BF is banging into your urinary tract that sits on the other side of the ceiling of the vagina. I suggest you go ahead and pee and then compare that sensation to the one you get in the shower with clilt stim. He's banging on your G spot that he's seen in porn. Go ahead on piss on him. Then tell him you prefer to have your clitoris stimulated. Keep reading and studying on the website. All the info you need is there.

Dr, Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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I would suggest to stop

Sat, 05/10/2014 - 12:17
sommer0079 (not verified)

I would suggest to stop having sex period. Learn to please yourself.  Learn it well. Vand stop listening to this lady. She sounds horribly angry at men and I have to wonder if she has actually orgasmed herself... I was the same way at your age. Most women are. It takes time to learn our bodies.  We are all different.  And when you explore your own body and you know how to make yourself orgasm... then you will be able to orgasm more easily during sex. And WOW! vaginal orgasms DO EXIST! and they are glorious.  And when you have a vaginal and clitoral orgasm at the same time... do not limit yourself sexually by listening to a woman who clearly hates men.

I have the same problem I am

Mon, 03/09/2015 - 12:49
noname111 (not verified)

I have the same problem I am 28! and the only time I really can have an orgasm is when I or my bf stimulates me from my clitoris. I'm comfortable with him as we have been together a long time so I masturbate and he pentrates with his fingers, he likes watching then after I will please him either by oral , hand or intercourse. We are going to look into a toy that can stimulate the clitoris while we have sex maybe a vibrating cock ring ? and see how that goes. Don't worry I think there is alot of women who are the same you just have to experiment and most importantly you have to trust and love the person you are sharing your body with, if you are not comfortable with the sex your having now or theres things you know would please you better discuss it with her/him if he doesn't understand and try to do things to please you also he is not the type of person you want to be with x.

Want to have sex all the time cant orgasm

Sun, 05/10/2015 - 16:34
dannidb1173 (not verified)

Please help I am 41 years old and I want to have sex all the time it's been over the last couple of months that I've been so horny and can't stop touching myself and every time I have sex I do not orgasm nor can I make myself orgasm sometimes I'll spend hours upon hours multiple times a day trying to make myself have an orgasm but it never ever happens my husband and I have been together for 23 years we have four children together and we've even gone away for the weekend and actually had sex for six consecutive hours at a time and I still cannot orgasm My has keeps thinking that it's him but I know it's not never in 23 years with my husband has it ever occurred this is the first time like I said that I've been so horny 24/7 and never able to orgasm The doctor seems to think that I need to be on progesterone therapy I do have extreme Moodswings tender breasts could this be the reason please someone answer me help

Possibly Hormones?

Tue, 05/12/2015 - 11:40

I would go to a good GYNO and have my hormones checked out. A LOT of women hit peri-menopause and their hormones get all wacky, which trickles down to issues of sexual excitement levels, a drop in libido, etc. That "frozen" state of excitement could be you get so stimulated you become numb, when it is mereley a physical stimulation and your mind is not adequately stimulated as well. It is important to not get so mechanical when we self pleasure. Some people need to watch or read sexually stimulating material to get in the mood when you do not have a partner. But at that kooky age when our bodies change again, I am leaning towards hormones. Take good care of yourself and see a Gyno soon.
Good Luck!


Sun, 06/07/2015 - 20:16
Frustration station (not verified)

I'm wondering how many of you that are having this problem are on birth control pills. I remember having this problem when I was younger and then I got off the pill so that I could get pregnant and then suddenly I started having orgasms more frequently, all the time, EVERY TIME! ...and I just thought I was "getting better at it" well now I'm 43 and just started taking the pill again and GUESS WHAT constantly horny yet very hard to have an orgasm. So frustrating as dh and I had been in a dry spell and now, ARGH. going to try Paragard and get OFF these hormones.

No orgasm yet, cuz vaginal is the answer for me.

Sat, 08/22/2015 - 01:21
Avanti (not verified)

Thank you for talking about vaginal orgasms!

I came to this page cuz I had the same problem, I am 23 and have never orgasmed and feel really horny certain days of the month after my periods. I won't blame men for my lack of orgasms because the female body is complicated and I haven't figured myself yet.

I get the same peeing feel too but I am pretty sure it is not actually peeing because I get the feeling even right after unloading. And clitoral stimulation dies off without me climaxing. I do need something in the vagina.

I came closest to an orgasm when I had a penis inside me and I only decided to not continue with the intercourse for totally different reasons. But I am pretty sure intercourse is what can make me cum.

Religion is indeed fucked up. But we don't have to bring religion and conspiracy theories into every unrelated thing. This girl needs a lasting partner with whom she is comfortable or a really comfortable vibrating dildo, I guess. I pretty much need that and not a hell lot of misplaced anger that would only frustrate me even more.

Yeah same for me. I'm 18. I

Sun, 09/03/2017 - 00:38
Anonomous (not verified)

Yeah same for me. I'm 18. I can't come without clitoral stimulation! But what makes it worse is that I can only cum with my vibrator. My partner doesn't play with my areas enough for me to attempt to cum. Now I'm stuck with no vibrator, horny as hell, with nothing to do about it.