Loved My Threesome. Am I Addicted to the Attention?

Mon, 03/04/2013 - 11:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello -

I'm in my mid-30s and have only had one partner. Recently, we decided to explore and participated in a couple threesomes with 2 men. The result? I absolutely loved it. I loved being the center of attention and now I find myself going online everyday figuring out who's next on the Rolodex! I don't know what it's done to me, but I have never been desired by an adult male, during my adult years, and maybe that is what I find so sexy and thrilling. As for the marriage, sex has never been better. Our experiences have turned us both on and further ignited our already sexually active lives.

Here's the problem. I've always been an emotional creature. I'm having a hard time taking these experiences for what they were - one nighters. So I constantly think about our guest partners, secretly hoping they would contact me again. How do I break this mentality? I'm apprehensive about doing any more because I enjoy it so much on a personal level as well. Part of the thrill for me was the flirting, the text messages and conversing over drinks. Is this something that I should nip in the bud before it gets problematic?

Thanks for your advice.

Dear S,

Just to be clear, are you talking about you and your husband with two other men? Or just being with your husband and one other guy? In any case, what a shame not to continue to enjoy all the benefits you mentioned: loving the attention, enhancing your marital sex, the thrill of setting up the sex dates and the plain old flat out sexual joy and fun it has provided. Nothing wrong with being an "emotional creature" but that doesn't mean your must fall in love with every guy who is just there to enjoy a little happy sex.

I think after a few more sex dates, you'll get it together and take it for what it is. . adult sexual play. If not you will ruin a good thing from my POV. Trust me, we are only young once and to have a husband who enjoys this with you is so perfect, what a shame to blow it because you are having an attack of "Pleasure Anxiety" the fear of having too much of a good thing.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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