I Have a Waterfall Pussy

Thu, 02/14/2013 - 17:40
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am a 19 year old woman. The first time I had sex with a partner was a little over a year ago but I have been sexually active for as long as I can remember.

When I was about 16 I started penetrating myself with the end of my hairbrush and when I got close to cumming I started hearing sloshing sounds and feeling bursts of wetness spill over my hands. I was scared but I didn't stop because it felt so good. I was left with a puddle about a foot in diameter on my bed and moisture all up the back of my t-shirt. I was horrified that I had urinated all over myself but it didn't smell like anything at all and didn't leave a stain. After that I masturbated with a towel on the floor.

Now almost every time I get very aroused with a partner with clit, vaginal, or even breast stimulation I "ejaculate" what I would estimate as 2 cups of liquid on average. I love certain aspects of it such as the rush of warmth and lubrication it provides but there are a few problems: I feel nauseous afterward because of dehydration I presume, I don't know where the liquid comes from and my obgyn won't give me an answer he just says that I'm healthy, it is extremely messy, and men think that when I gush I have an orgasm and that is not the case. They often times stop after I start squirting and them I never cum. I don't know how to explain that gushing does not equate to me having an orgasm.

Men just don't understand it and neither do I. The women in my life have never experienced anything like it and I have been with ten men all of whom have never experienced a waterfall pussy. My consistent lover is in his late thirties and has been with hundreds of women and has seen nothing like it. He said that my pussy is special and part of me can accept and love that but I feel bereft of orgasm with partners and I just want to understand my anatomy. Men think they are doing such a better job than they actually are.

Dear A,

Since female ejaculation became so fashionable there continues to still be much we do not understand about it. We now have many young women wanting to learn how to experience (or should I say "perform" this type of response). I do know as a result of friends and more sophisticated women like yourself that squirting is NOT the same thing as having an orgasm. I've never had this response but like many in the early stages of it's popularity I too wondered if I was missing out on something. As a neatnik Virgo, the idea of wet sheets and extra laundry was definitely a negative!

Finally the fluid has been tested in a lab and the liquid is dilute urine exiting the bladder through the urethra with a bit of prostate fluid that comes from our urtheral sponge that surrounds the urinary tract. Check out an earlier post where I discuss this with a biologist.

http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/betty-dodson/2012/10/cleaning-confusion-o...

Maybe this will simply disappear and your waterfall pussy will calm down. But at least you are now armed with some valid information. Let me know if you ever figure out a way to cut back on the waterfall. I now have women wanting to know how to make it stop. At this point I have no answer. Good luck.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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some thoughts

Mon, 02/25/2013 - 18:27

Dear A,

I have the same experience you do.  I've heard that the liquid comes from the urethral sponge and the release of liquid mimics what the body does when giving birth. In giving birth, the liquid releases when there is pressure on the sponge to easy the movement of the baby out of the body.  In this case, the pressure comes from the dick or fingers or hairbrush pushing hard against the front of your body (but from the inside). I am not a scientist so I don't know if this is scientifically true, but in my experience, this makes sense.  

My reason for commenting is that I am 31 years old and can offer some other thoughts that I certainly did not know when I was 19.

1) I highly recommend getting a bed protector for your matress and your boyfriend's... Bed Bath and Beyond sells a good one and so does Ikea. They are sold for parents with babies, but they protect your matress and you can wash them. They come in sizes for all matresses.  This is a must have item. I saw recently that Liberator brand was selling a similar thing, but it's only a small blanket and if you are like me, you will need the whole bed :-)

2) I understand what you're saying about this being a little weird around a partner you just met - but so much about sex is weird with a new partner!  My boyfriend thinks I'm a superwoman angel who can waterfall on him while we have sex.  Sometimes I wonder if I could teach other women to do this, or if it's just something that not everyone's body does.  It doesn't happen for me every time, but it happens more often than not.  If it doesn't happen just on its own, then it can be helped out by my pushing down about 6" below my belly button while his cock is inside me. I can also make it happen with my fingers curled in and up (while pushing down as described above with the other hand).

3) If you feel dehydrated, keep some juice and water around!  When I know I'm gonna have a big night of sex with my boyfriend I drink extra water in advance so I'm ready for it...

I'd say be happy you have this gift and enjoy it. I think it smells great and amazingly enough the bed doesn't carry any kind of bad aftersmell. Also, for people who think this is pee... all I can say is that it smells different and I usually have to pee after the waterfall (not immediately, but it's not possible for that much liquid to come out during sex and then have to pee again).

Enjoy it!

Thank you so much for your

Tue, 08/13/2013 - 04:29
melody.n. (not verified)

Thank you so much for your comment dear D.!
I think it's quite shocking how little we can find about female ejaculation in literature and bloggs etc - besides strange comments like the ongoing pee-or not-discussion..... so first of all girls: read deborah sundahls book "Female Ejaculation & the g-spot". it is a wonderful book about this experience. I personnally think it's not only a gift as you call it, but for me - getting able to ejaculate  brought a little revolution into my sexlife and healing for various medical issues like viginal infections or cystitis for example. I never suffered from since! Women can and should learn to ejaculate, to keep the energies and waters flowing. And even though orgasms become greater, i became less focused on them because ejaculating during love-play feels as much orgasmic in a very subtle, all over and intense way.
Although my sexlife has always been great, I discovered a whole new dimension of being a woman, of feeling empowered, sexy and whole.
I agree with you: sheet-protection is a must to enjoy fully.
and once again about the pee thing: in deborah sundahl's book you find scientifical prove the liquid is NOT pee. actually she recommends to collect both liquids to compare color, smell and consistence - that will help you to get the idea once for all out of your head ;-)
enjoy!

Thank you!

Mon, 12/09/2013 - 18:04
Chelcey N. (not verified)

I am 20 and also ejaculate a lot to the point of soaking everything. I've been having sex on the floor instead of my bed so it's easier to clean, but now that you said that Bed Bath and Beyond sells bed protectors I am definately going to invest in one. I will also take your advice on the water. I never thought about that.
Sincerely
Chelcey Nordstrom

I'm a multi-orgasmic gusher & I'd have it no other way!

Wed, 01/29/2014 - 14:51

Hi,

First, I'd say don't worry at all about the amount you're squirting. Only
try to decrease it if YOU don't like it. When we learn to accept and enjoy our
bodies, then we work around how it functions, and tweak our surroundings and
circumstances to make it the best possible experience for us and our partners.

You say you enjoy the "warm" feeling of gushing during solo and
partnersex, and to me the only thing that I saw that displeases you is your
male lovers aren't fully satisfying you. That's because you're not telling them
what to do until you've been fully pleased. Clearly, you're not making it a
priority.

I'll be 45 next month. At 26, I was with a female lover who was also a
nurse, so she was comfortable with the humyn body. And she adored and cherished
me and so when I started to feel liquid coming up and I wanted to push it out,
she encouraged me to do so. That began my experience as a squirter. She enjoyed
it, and I finally accepted my genitals much more fully.

We don’t grow up reading in Cosmo about squirting. And even now, much of
what is seen in conventional porn is not squirting but urinating. Thankfully,
there are more websites that are adult communities of people posting themselves
having solo and partnersex and many of them squirt. So we can see many more
examples of real wimmin having real “waterfall” orgasms.

I decided long ago not to spend too much time studying what the so-called
“experts” say about my body.

I prefer to enjoy it and let my lovers tell me how they experience it. I
prefer to let myself decide how I experience it.

Sometimes my squirt is a little pissy, most of the time it is not. Most of
the time it’s perfectly clear and is sweet or even grassy to taste (especially
if I’ve consumed a lot of green smoothie).

Re: Your not feeling very well after you’ve squirted a lot. Of course you’re
dehydrated! Most people are. In the book “Your Body’s Natural Cries for Water”,
the author talks about the many times he’s cured ailments with a simple
solution of water and minerals. Most of the time when we have headaches, we’re
just dehydrated. As a 200+lb woman, I ought to be drinking a gallon of pure
water each day. When I’m on a sex date, I need even more.

I almost fainted once, after I’d left a particularly hot guy who’d made me
squirt for 3 ½ hours straight. I learned then that I need to fuel before,
during, and after a marathon lovemaking session, which for me is every session,
because I’m multi-orgasmic, and being a pillow queen best matched with men who
are highly aroused by pleasing their partner, we’re usually in for the long
haul. My first lovemaking session with my best lover was 5 ½ hours and that was
all him giving me pleasure. We both enjoyed ourselves so much and were so
compatible, we were together for 4 years until he passed way this past March of
a serious heart condition.

Love all your cups of spillage and work around it! I would strongly
encourage you to see what it takes to accommodate them rather than reduce or
eradicate them.

While mattress pads are great if you’re living together or to have for your
own bed, I’ve found that 4 or 5 thick towels are sufficient for my output, and
it’s a lot of output.

How I fuel:

I eat a high raw vegan diet anyway – lots and lots of fresh fruits, salads,
and green smoothies.

When I go to a lover’s home to make love, I’ve asked him in advance to have
a certain amount of fresh fruit and spring, mineral, or filtered water for me.

Most recently, my list included about 25 bananas, 30 oranges, 3 mangoes, kale,
tomatoes, grapes, and 2 gallons of water. Not only did this keep me fueled for
a very productive and energized session, but he also enjoyed the most fresh
produce he had in years. His innards thanked him over and over during our
overnight date in the hotel room near my home (he lives about an hour away).

 As a squirter, or a Waterfall
Goddess, you nourish yourself during your marathon lovemaking sessions. You
feed your partner fruit – I’d peel oranges and hand them to him during our
breaks.

A few days later I was at his home and we were at it again, only this time I
also cooked food and prepared raw vegan dishes at his home during our several
days together. I made raw vegan gazpacho and green smoothie, in addition to
sautéed vegetables, meat, and eggs.

The conventional model of male-female penile-vaginal sex has never worked
for me and I’m glad I gave up trying way in my early 20s. I almost never have
penile penetrative intercourse. Yet my partners are very, very pleased with
what I can do and what they and I do together.

If you make sure you have plenty of fruit, water, towels, and TIME with your
partner, and you’re willing to tell him what to do to please you, there’s no
reason you won’t either have or attract many who will enjoy what your vagina
does when it’s enjoying itself.

I say embrace your waters and let them tell you what they’re all about.

Learn how you squirt and what feels good.

For instance, I know to pee before sessions and during breaks. I like to do
this because I know that when I’m squirting seconds after I’ve emptied my bladder,
it’s not urine.

Also, I’ve learned to enjoy the differences between when I’m urinating and
when I’m ejaculating. Urine comes out feeling hot in long strong streams.
Female ejaculate comes out feeling cool and in shorter bursts.

My female lover who helped me squirt in partnersex for the first time, she
said my ejaculate slightly numbed her tongue. No one ever reported anything
like that since her, and I’ve asked. Perhaps it was my diet, or medications
(I’d been on anti-depressant and/or high blood pressure medication as well), as
I wasn’t highly raw at that time, either. Or perhaps it was her own tongue’s
response.

My male lovers who love to ingest my waters, have noticed they become
dehydrated and/or constipated after consuming a large amount over more than two
days.

I have a theory on that, based on how my own body responds to green juices. When
I drink green juice, my body assimilates and digests it so quickly that very
soon after that, I’m quite thirsty.

One thing I learned from “Your Body’s Natural Cries for Water” is that our
bodies use up the water we carry in order to digest our food. This is why and
where I learned to drink at least one large glass of water 30 minutes before
eating. Part of your eating should include preparing with water first. Same
with squirting – you need to fill up your temple in order to pour out the best
and to not be at a deficit of liquid or nutrients during and after your
session.

I believe my ejaculate makes my lovers thirsty because their bodies are
digesting it so quickly – putting it to good use. Do I know what or how it’s
working in their bodies exactly? No. I do know that Mantak Chia and his team
have done a lot of research on female ejaculation according to ancient Taoist
advanced sexual techniques. I know they teach it’s best and healthiest for
wimmin to expel their fluids (female ejaculate/waterfall) and for men to retain
theirs (injaculation/semen retention). I also know according to Tantric
studies, that female ejaculation has very healing properties for men.

I didn’t know about the healing properties until after I’d already been
practicing this for years with my lovers. That is, I didn’t “know” it in a
scholarly sense, but I already “knew” it in a basic Goddess sense. I knew it
because my lovers loved it and I loved feeding them.

So, I say, squirt away. Have fruit, have towels, have water, give pleasure,
feed your lovers, and don’t settle for less than lovers who really want what
you have and are willing and joyfully able to give you what you want, which
ought to be joyously co-created orgasms and lots of ‘em!

 

P.S. I’ve just been accepted as a Dodson & Ross blogger, so please look
out for my soon-to-come first of many posts!

Cassendre Xavier

Multi-Media Healing Artist

(Sometimes writing as Amrita Waterfalls)

"Amrita" - [Sanskrit] nectar, ambrosia. Also refers to female
ejaculate, "waterfall", or "squirting". Recommended
reading: http://www.universal-tao.com/article/ancient_art.htm

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