Not Sure if I've Ever Had a Real Orgasm

Sun, 01/06/2013 - 10:19
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am 18 years old and I have been with my 19 year old boyfriend for nearly two years now. We are sexually active and have sex very often. I love it and it feels very good to me and I even squirt/ejaculate most of the time, but I never really have an orgasm--or at least I don't think I do. I've watched a lot of your videos with Carlin and I realize that I probably have a preconcieved notion of what a female orgasm should be like.

I've done a lot of research on the subject, as it has become extremely frustrating to me. Sometimes I think I'm on the brink and that I'm going to explode but it just keeps building up and doesn't happen, or I have small ones. I have tried masturbating and I just either get bored or my clitoris becomes too sensitive. I'm not really sure if I've ever even had a real orgasm! It's really upsetting to me because I love sex and orgasm sounds so amazing and beautiful and I want so badly to experience it but I feel like I'm stuck or broken.

I am on Prozac for anxiety and depression (have been for most of my life) and I know this can cause sexual dysfunction. Do you think that is my main problem? I am planning on speaking to my therapist and psychiatrist about stopping or changing my medication to help this problem. My boyfriend even said he would come with me to talk about it because it frustrates him just as much when he sees how much it upsets me.

I feel like he and I are doing everything right! We do it for a long time and he does everything for me and we feel so comfortable around each other. I even do kegels often. I just don't know what to do and I would really really appreciate some guidance and advice on this. I know I CAN orgasm because as you said in one of your videos, there really is no such thing as being "anorgasmic" and maybe I have before...but how do I know?

Thank you for your time,

Dear B,

I've often wondered why so many young women who watch our You Tube channel rarely go onto the website to find their own answers? I'm enclosing links to the info to help you understand better what's going on sexually speaking. Take your time and read each one more than once.

It makes me angrier each time I hear that a young person is put on anti-depressants! Yes, it may tone down some of the natural anxiety all kids have growing up, but it will also tone down or prevent the ability to have an orgasm when teens are marinating in their newly released sex hormones. Guess what? The old anxiety goes away but you get a new one when the med blocks your ability to have an orgasm. From what you have described, i think you are having small orgasms and are unable to recognize them due to an exaggerated image of what that would feel like. Big Pharma is creating a huge population of orgasmless women thanks to their damn drugs. It has been shown in clinicall trails  that anti-depressants are no better than the placebo is which is basically a sugar pill. At 18 to think your have been on this drug most of your life is a crime. Who will take them to court and sue for the loss of their sexual pleasure when America rarely acknowledges is there is such a thing?

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time