Anyone who knows Betty knows that she loves truthout.org. When one of their writers contacted us about an interview for a piece she was writing about the current state of sex education in the US, she was over the moon. No one ever asks what we should we teaching our children about sex. I love Betty's answer:
"No one teaches pleasure or orgasm," Dodson begins. "We should be teaching teens about 'outercourse' as well as intercourse."
"We should expand sex education to include excluded information such as porn," Ross continues. "Everything should be on the table for discussion. This generation is the first to have 24/7 access to online technology. They can watch porn stars and see anal sex and double penetration with one click of a mouse. Almost all of them have a cell phone and can take pictures of themselves that mimic these actors and they can post these photos on Facebook. Telling them to abstain when sex is all over the internet is ridiculous. We need to teach them that what porn stars do - or how they look - is not typical, that porn is for entertainment and can be used for fantasy, but it is not how we have sex."
The disjuncture between what teens see and what they actually understand is evident in the emails Dodson and Ross receive.
Can I get pregnant during my period? asks one. How do I know if I am a virgin? another wonders.
Then there are issues of lifestyle. "Children should be told that they can be heterosexual, homosexual, celibate or polysexual," Dodson says. "They can be single, married, divorced, in a monogamous relationship, or not. We should tell children that their status will likely change throughout their lives, that their needs and desires will change, that they don't need to follow one path for their entire lifespan."
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